Meeting women is still a Catch-22 for me

[Tashki]

Meeting women is still a catch-22 for me. I use to be extremely shy with girls in high school. I didn’t talk to any of them because I never approached them and they never went out of their way to approach and talk to me. It obviously never helped my case in being good with the opposite sex.

Now that I am older, I do the complete opposite. I approach any woman that I think is sexually attractive at which ever place I’m in. Malls, clubs, expo events, bars and you name it. I got rejected by roughly 9 or 10 women this year so far.

When I didn’t talk to girls in high school, I didn’t get anywhere with them. When I asked those 9-10 women out for a date this month, they rejected me so I never got anywhere with them; It’s a catch-22. I don’t know how you guys were able to escape the catch-22. I’m trying my best man.

 

[krealtarron]

Most women will reject guys. Also randomly approaching a girl is never going to work out. Why would a girl just go out with a random dude she met in the mall?

Do some activity you are interested in and maybe you will meet someone there with similar interests.

 

[Olololo]

Try to use dating apps or meet girls in a more social setting. For example: sport sections, table games, or cooking classes.
I met my last girlfriend in George Brown’s Culinary Arts class.

 

[xix]

Try to use dating apps or meet girls in a more social setting. For example: sport sections, table games, or cooking classes.
I met my last girlfriend in George Brown’s Culinary Arts class.

You are right, BUT with this Covid 19 ripple effect most classes are now "online". In five years from now the Gov't will fund for weekend workshops or semester classes as general interest like there is not tomorrow. Why?
Because the human connection is lost by online. To bring it back they have to sponsor or fund physical classes.

It will be to late because people will like the disconnection.

 

[Pleasure Hound]

Meeting women is still a catch-22 for me. I use to be extremely shy with girls in high school. I didn’t talk to any of them because I never approached them and they never went out of their way to approach and talk to me. It obviously never helped my case in being good with the opposite sex.

Now that I am older, I do the complete opposite. I approach any woman that I think is sexually attractive at which ever place I’m in. Malls, clubs, expo events, bars and you name it. I got rejected by roughly by 9 to 10 women this year so far.

When I didn’t talk to girls in high school, I didn’t get anywhere with them. When I asked those 9-10 women out for a date this month, they rejected me so I never got anywhere with them; It’s a catch-22. I don’t know how you guys were able to escape the catch-22. I’m trying my best man.

A 9 out of 10 rejection rate is actually pretty good these days.....Why do you think we prefer escorts now?

 

[chodge]

Look at it this way out of 1000 , 100 will say yes !

 

[Olololo]

You are right, BUT with this Covid 19 ripple effect most classes are now "online". In five years from now the Gov't will fund for weekend workshops or semester classes as general interest like there is not tomorrow. Why?
Because the human connection is lost by online. To bring it back they have to sponsor or fund physical classes.

It will be to late because people will like the disconnection.

“on campus”:

https://coned.georgebrown.ca/courses-and-programs/culinary-arts-1

Same with gyms for sport sections.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

What Is a Catch-22? A catch-22 is a paradoxical situation with no apparent way out because of how conflicting or contradictory factors or rules keep you trapped in it. In some ways, a catch-22 is like a "chicken-and-egg" situation. It's a logical conundrum where the circumstances feed into each other, and you always end up back at square one.


Well a Catch 22 situation is kind of a misnomer in this situation.
As in you're not really trapped in a situation. You can opt out.
However, I know what you mean. I was just at the thrift store 10 minutes ago. I like to drop in to the one close to my place after work. Better than going to the bar.
Anyway. I saw a gorgeous Asian woman. Mid 30's I would guess. Obviously down to earth if she was shopping in a thrift store. So we had that much in common. lol
She saw me looking at her as she was holding up a dress in front of herself in the mirror. I sauntered away but for the life of me couldn't think of a viable approach.
In a way, you're busted right off the bat. She knows you are attracted to her with the end game wanting to have sex with her.
What is the payoff for her? You might be a bum,freek,weirdo,loser, so why risk embarrassment and entanglement? She didn't go there looking to get picked up. She may have a significant other.
So unless you are on your A game. Tall, attractive, young, successful, interesting friends, well educated, great career credentials, the odds are stacked.

Work. School. Outside activity groups. They seem to be the only option for most people.
Hope that helped.

I am going to see one of my two regulars tomorrow morning. To get my cock sucked for $70.00 for an hour.
Seems like less of an uphill battle at this point in my life. And more of an enjoyable reality.

 

[Valcazar]

A 9 out of 10 rejection rate is actually pretty good these days.....Why do you think we prefer escorts now?

I'd kill for a 9 out of 10 rejection rate.

 

[Pleasure Hound]

I'd kill for a 9 out of 10 rejection rate.

Might I suggest that your "victim" be Tucker Carlson?

 

[Kurt]

I agree with a lot of advice above don't approach women cold - try a group or class.
I have had two friends meet their current GF in a hiking group.
I met my current GF on a dating app but we only went out twice and then reconnected a year later.
Just be patient and don't try to hard they can smell desperation.

 

[dirtyharry555]

This may give you some insight.

 

[krealtarron]

I'd kill for a 9 out of 10 rejection rate.

Now I know why you worship Tate.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

This may give you some insight.

Sounds like Spider from Coronation Street has a part time gig doing voice overs.

What he is pointing out seems unfair.
Fast forward to point 100 to get the relevant answer to the thread.

 

[Tashki]

This may give you some insight.

This is one of the most pessimistic videos that I’ve ever watched. I only agree with some of the points in the video. The majority of his points demonstrates a defeatist ideology and I think 90% of his arguments are not backed up by facts. Thanks for sharing.

 

[jeff2]

This is one of the most pessimistic videos that I’ve ever watched. I only agree with some of the points in the video. The majority of his points demonstrates a defeatist ideology and I think 90% of his arguments are not backed up by facts. Thanks for sharing.

While looks and more so height definitely play a role, I think he downplays earning capacity/status/social capital.
The bottom line is that the calculus for couples has not made sense for decades.
This is because the average women earns more than she did before while the average man earns the same or less than before.
The small group of alpha males who make more than ever (and have very little in common with the average male)distorts the whole picture.

 

[canada-man]

Why You Should STOP Cold Approaching Women

 

[canada-man]

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Last summer, in Safeway's an attractive woman around 40 struck up a conversation with me. She asked me where she could find tequila mixers or something. I took that as a friendly invite as she could have asked a store clerk. We joked around about drinking tequila shots or somesuch, but I left it at that. All friendly. We bumped into each other again at the other grocery store in the same mall, and laughed and shared some joke about stalking each other. I left it at that. Didn't try to push it further. Tried to be the bigger man. And hopefully leave her a little confused, because she seemed to be giving me the green light and wanting more. lol.

 

[canada-man]