An interesting dynamic. In conversation with working girls, they tell me the same thing. At work, most clients are white. Out in public, mostly black men approach them, with a close second to white men.
No personal insult intended here, so pls take my comment as generic in nature, not an attack of any sort. What many women fail to recognize, or if they do they choose not to acknowledge is that in the eyes of many men, they see fat girls as being more attainable than skinny girls, and as such, in many cases men will approach the fat girls first because they have been trained to believe that skinny girls, even if plain looking, remain above them and beyond their reach in any realistic terms. So the men aren't actually choosing fat girls because of their amazing shape or voluptuous attractiveness, they are simply settling for the option that holds the most likely probability of success - the option closer to what women in general would deem as closer to being in 'their league'.
Vastly incorrect because the few times I have given any of these men my time, they have taken me on multiple dates and courted me before I would have sex with them and 9/10 times we end up dating for a while. If they were approaching me just because they thought I was easier, they wouldn't be willing to put all that time and money into it. I have extremely high standards for how I'm treated and I weed out the men who won't meet them on the initial convo, ya'll aint slick. But let's not act like those same guys aren't just trying to smash the skinny girls too, many of my skinny friends get fucked and ghosted more in 2 months then I have been in the last 10yrs.
Wow wow wow!! You and your girl tribe might get along fine in conversation. I have no idea how in your tribe converse, but once you girlfriends are out there on their own do you have any idea how they converse with men on a date?
Hot is subjective, but I don't doubt that me being well educated, articulate, and funny (not sure why no one in my reviews mentions I'm funny!!! But I am!! Lol) also work in my favor, but I doubt men are looking at these things as substitutes for physical attraction. I'm multi faceted, a lot of men say they love my energy and my smile as well. Some smart men see women as full packages, good on you for being one of them.
I didn't say 'easy' to bed, I said 'attainable' as in datable in a relationship sort of way.
Agreed.
I would challenge you by saying the vast majority of people in relationships aren't with their first choice of person. It's a fact we all settle for the best we can get. But if i find him attractive and he's nice, funny, treats me well, has a stable life, takes me on dates, loyal, and loves to eat pussy, why would I complain I'm not his first choice when he's not mine either?
You're not challenging me, you're agreeing with exactly what I said.
You applied it to bbws, I applied it to everyone, big difference in scope.You're not challenging me, you're agreeing with exactly what I said.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink.You're not challenging me, you're agreeing with exactly what I said.
You don't see an inherent difference in "men settle for bbws" and "almost everyone settles for who ever they end up with"? I didn't disagree with him, I just said this is a general phenomenon, not a specific one.
I challenged the scope of his argument, not the argument itself. Most people settle vs men settle for women bigger than they prefer.
