Fantasy - Wife with another person?

[Goodoer]

I've been having crazy fantasies about my wife being with another person...

Recap: Sexless marriage. We had another blow-out early May. Honest and blunt discussions from myself. She profoundly apologizes, swears she's not having an affair, begs for more time as she tries to figure herself out.

She's bisexual and will admit it. I knew this before we got married and my ego told me not to worry... (Oops?) I've offered her to hire a pro to give her a lesbian encounter; either with me not in the room or in the room. Nothing has come of that so far...

Since May's fight, I've been super-fantasizing about it... Now it has even grown to where she's with another guy... First it was just a BJ, now it is full on sex. Am having such graphic and intense visions. It is at the point where we're talking and she says I seem 'off'. It is because I'm imagining the scenario while we're talking.

WTF is wrong with me? I cannot offer Lesbian experiences so I'm okay with that. Where is this other dude fantasy coming from? Guilt from seeing so many SPs?

This is consuming my brain power.

 

[Ponderling]

Dear wife is a community theater actor.
So she calls me her first husband.
She has had roles in plays where she is someones wife in several different shows.
Some of the male actors have been her on stage hubby more than once.
Ths hobby of hers seems to give her an outlet, so we don't snip at each other all the time.

Plus her time in rehearsals and while the show runs allows me time at the peelers.
And we are up front with where i am when I head to see life at the strip club.

If it is a long time between roles for her and she is binge watching something I cant stand, say Selling Sunset for example, I say Dear - I'm heading out to the Club.
Should not be too late.
And we get along, because in a show she is out 8 weeks of three nights a week rehearsing.
Then usually almost two weeks straight at the theatre while the show is running, and I am typically at home most of that time.
I have at home hobbies that makes that ok most of the time..

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I've been having crazy fantasies about my wife being with another person...

Recap: Sexless marriage. We had another blow-out early May. Honest and blunt discussions from myself. She profoundly apologizes, swears she's not having an affair, begs for more time as she tries to figure herself out.

She's bisexual and will admit it. I knew this before we got married and my ego told me not to worry... (Oops?) I've offered her to hire a pro to give her a lesbian encounter; either with me not in the room or in the room. Nothing has come of that so far...

Since May's fight, I've been super-fantasizing about it... Now it has even grown to where she's with another guy... First it was just a BJ, now it is full on sex. Am having such graphic and intense visions. It is at the point where we're talking and she says I seem 'off'. It is because I'm imagining the scenario while we're talking.

WTF is wrong with me? I cannot offer Lesbian experiences so I'm okay with that. Where is this other dude fantasy coming from? Guilt from seeing so many SPs?

This is consuming my brain power.

The takeover of your mind is almost complete. She won.

 

[Goodoer]

Dear wife is a community theater actor.
So she calls me her first husband.
She has had roles in plays where she is someones wife in several different shows.
Some of the male actors have been her on stage hubby more than once.
Ths hobby of hers seems to give her an outlet, so we don't snip at each other all the time.

Plus her time in rehearsals and while the show runs allows me time at the peelers.
And we are up front with where i am when I head to see life at the strip club.

If it is a long time between roles for her and she is binge watching something I cant stand, say Selling Sunset for example, I say Dear - I'm heading out to the Club.
Should not be too late.
And we get along, because in a show she is out 8 weeks of three nights a week rehearsing.
Then usually almost two weeks straight at the theatre while the show is running, and I am typically at home most of that time.
I have at home hobbies that makes that ok most of the time..

Interesting arrangement. To fill my spare time, I play hockey a number of times per week and work doing side projects. I have a tough time doing nothing.

 

[KDK13]

I've been having crazy fantasies about my wife being with another person...

Recap: Sexless marriage. We had another blow-out early May. Honest and blunt discussions from myself. She profoundly apologizes, swears she's not having an affair, begs for more time as she tries to figure herself out.

She's bisexual and will admit it. I knew this before we got married and my ego told me not to worry... (Oops?) I've offered her to hire a pro to give her a lesbian encounter; either with me not in the room or in the room. Nothing has come of that so far...

Since May's fight, I've been super-fantasizing about it... Now it has even grown to where she's with another guy... First it was just a BJ, now it is full on sex. Am having such graphic and intense visions. It is at the point where we're talking and she says I seem 'off'. It is because I'm imagining the scenario while we're talking.

WTF is wrong with me? I cannot offer Lesbian experiences so I'm okay with that. Where is this other dude fantasy coming from? Guilt from seeing so many SPs?

This is consuming my brain power.

Ask her again. Frame it that you love seeing her get pleasure. And her being happy makes you happy. Thus frame it as her happiness.
If I ever date again I'm looking for a bi lady lol...

 

[Goodoer]

The takeover of your mind is almost complete. She won.

Exactly! What is going on?!

With me, she's a super-nice person, helps others, good looking, but just doesn't want sex.

I had true relationships whereas she had changing partners... When she got bored or put off, she grabbed another partner and didn't deal with shit. I worked through things... Almost got married to my GF previous. I brought that up again in our fight... She insists she doesn't want to move on. Again, I don't understand how she can go so long without sexual release. I do trust her. I do want what's best for her as well and as such was willing for her to have her own fun and spark a desire for sex again.

 

[Goodoer]

Ask her again. Frame it that you love seeing her get pleasure. And her being happy makes you happy. Thus frame it as her happiness.
If I ever date again I'm looking for a bi lady lol...

All ladies seem to be bisexual now. I don't blame them. I love women so much.

 

[Goodoer]

What's also Ego-shattering is that I can ensure she has multiple orgasms. Always through DATYing a certain way.

I'm unable to finish with her as too much shit runs through my brain.

 

[KDK13]

All ladies seem to be bisexual now. I don't blame them. I love women so much.

Lesbians are onto something. I too would much rather have sex with a woman than a man.

 

[Goodoer]

Lesbians are onto something. I too would much rather have sex with a woman than a man.

Haha. I love being with the guys... Shit-talking, talking about sports, playing, competing. Most of us have kids and are pretty much all the same. At times, I wonder what shit they're dealing with in their personal lives.

Women stop you in your tracks though... I must have spanked off 10x to a Mom I encountered at the airport who was 'training' her daughters on how to travel. Exquisite! I'm also big into Hockey Moms.

 

[KDK13]

Haha. I love being with the guys... Shit-talking, talking about sports, playing, competing. Most of us have kids and are pretty much all the same. At times, I wonder what shit they're dealing with in their personal lives.

Women stop you in your tracks though... I must have spanked off 10x to a Mom I encountered at the airport who was 'training' her daughters on how to travel. Exquisite! I'm also big into Hockey Moms.

Maybe be a bit more insistent she finds a woman just to break her out of her funk. Tell her you think it will be best. Tell her to consider a pro so there are no emotional complications. And she decides how much involvement you have. Then see how she responds. If she does not reject it out of hand ...she's seriously thinking about it.

 

[Goodoer]

Maybe be a bit more insistent she finds a woman just to break her out of her funk. Tell her you think it will be best. Tell her to consider a pro so there are no emotional complications. And she decides how much involvement you have. Then see how she responds. If she does not reject it out of hand ...she's seriously thinking about it.

I'm good with that and have been trying... I'm just wondering why it has grown to her being with other men. It is literally at the point where we're grabbing Tim Hortons together and I'm picturing her throating another dude's cock.

 

[Mr Deeds]

I'm good with that and have been trying... I'm just wondering why it has grown to her being with other men. It is literally at the point where we're grabbing Tim Hortons together and I'm picturing her throating another dude's cock.

Let me know if I can be of help fulfilling your fantasy. I always here to help

 

[Cholla]

Very interesting topic for discussion. I guess we are talking about "cuckold". I am not sure if it really exists though. Sexless marriage leads to disaster (I know it very well). From what I learned about cuckold, a husband should know the "bull" personally, otherwise it's just simple cheating. I talked about cuckold to a Chinese friend and he told me that he heard that some Asian unhappy wives have a desire to be with non-Asian bull. Once again, I've never read on TERB about cuckold actually happening. Maybe it's just a myth...

 

[Goodoer]

Very interesting topic for discussion. I guess we are talking about "cuckold". I am not sure if it really exists though. Sexless marriage leads to disaster (I know it very well). From what I learned about cuckold, a husband should know the "bull" personally, otherwise it's just simple cheating. I talked about cuckold to a Chinese friend and he told me that he heard that some Asian unhappy wives have a desire to be with non-Asian bull. Once again, I've never read on TERB about cuckold actually happening. Maybe it's just a myth...

I hate that term 'cuckold'... I'd feel like loser... I'm a pretty aggressive guy, yet despise the idea of controlling someone. As I get older, I want peace and chill. I just want to get off and want the same for others.

 

[Goodoer]

Let me know if I can be of help fulfilling your fantasy. I always here to help

Thanks, bro. If you're disease free that's a plus. I'm pretty sure the wife wants girl boobs and pussy though.

 

[redshank]

Maybe ask ottawa_cuck for some tips

 

[y2kmark]

Lesbians are onto something. I too would much rather have sex with a woman than a man.

Better yet, two women...

 

[TORONTOlooking]

If you really enjoy being with her even without sex, an open relationship seems to be the way to go. A real relationship is more than sex. I liked being with SPs over having a mistress because I wasn't looking for another relationship. I was looking for a couple of hours of pleasure with no history or baggage. You can have a don't ask don't tell agreement. Tell her you want to be with her and you want her to be happy and you are open to finding a way for both to coexist. As for the guy thing...I think since she has declined the chance to be with a woman, you might be thinking she really wants a man. I don't know anything but you asked and that's what I came up with. Hope things get better.

 

[massman]

I've been having crazy fantasies about my wife being with another person...

Recap: Sexless marriage. We had another blow-out early May. Honest and blunt discussions from myself. She profoundly apologizes, swears she's not having an affair, begs for more time as she tries to figure herself out.

She's bisexual and will admit it. I knew this before we got married and my ego told me not to worry... (Oops?) I've offered her to hire a pro to give her a lesbian encounter; either with me not in the room or in the room. Nothing has come of that so far...

Since May's fight, I've been super-fantasizing about it... Now it has even grown to where she's with another guy... First it was just a BJ, now it is full on sex. Am having such graphic and intense visions. It is at the point where we're talking and she says I seem 'off'. It is because I'm imagining the scenario while we're talking.

WTF is wrong with me? I cannot offer Lesbian experiences so I'm okay with that. Where is this other dude fantasy coming from? Guilt from seeing so many SPs?

This is consuming my brain power.

maybe it’s your desire once and for all to see if she has any desire for sex at all. Eg if she will do it with another man, you’ll know either 1. It’s you or alternatively 2. At least there is some sexual desire left and therefore you potentially have something to “work with”. Right now you are in a position where you are uncertain if it’s lack of attraction to you that is the root of the problem or a complete lack of interest in sex at all. Sometimes the not knowing/ uncertainty is worse than the truth, even if ugly.