Quitting

[Beagle_]

Fuck, I was thinking those were the side effects - emotional dulling and erectile dysfunction, there might be actual side effects too.

So all your shrink wants to do is medicate you? Damn.

I would get that shrink talking and ask, why do I feel do Iike I can’t talk to woman? Reading you‘re first posts, it sounds like you know this guy does not resonate with you. You can always see someone else.

 

[Jenesis]

Fuck, I was thinking those were the side effects - emotional dulling and erectile dysfunction, there might be actual side effects too.

So all your shrink wants to do is medicate you? Damn.

I would get that shrink talking and ask, why do I feel do Iike I can’t talk to woman? Reading you‘re first posts, it sounds like you know this guy does not resonate with you. You can always see someone else.

A shrink will not help him for these types of things.

Like a sports injury, a doctor will give you meds for the pain and physiotherapist will rehabilitate you and help you regain muscle and movement.

He needs a proper counsellor.

I wish shrinks did more and I wish they referred to counselling instead of just relying on medication. I get that often medication is needed (usually temporarily) and I understand some conditions and personality disorders require lifetime medication but they should recommend more counselling then they do. Using a shrink and counsellor together gives you the best hope for recovery

 

[HEYHEY]

Dont be a quitter

 

[Insidious Von]

Dont be a quitter

Absolutely, go someplace where you have no choice but to talk to women, heed the words of Leo McKern from The Beatles Help! film, "go to the supermarket, go to the supermarket"

...Then you too can be a stud like Sheldon Cooper!

 

[John Wick]

Winners never quit. Quitters never....get laid.

or something like that.

 

[Beagle_]

Shrink your dink… I would start talking. I agree with Jenesis recommendation.

 

[superman12]

If your serious about quitting i think you would have to go cold turkey. Delete anything that might tempt you to go back to the hobby..terb, twitter, etc. I myself tried to quit a while back but it definetly didnt work lol its just way too tempting even if you get a small whif of an sp.

 

[poker]

Toast Masters. Join that club. It will develop the skill of public speaking, and build confidence.

 

[Cowboy_Tony]

Why would you want to quit - moderation mate. You need to set limits and abide by them. I would love to see SP's every week - its not happening instead - allocate a monthly allowance on the beautiful women and the rest - enjoy movies, start working out, learn an instrument, cooking classes - whatever you fancy. You will find out how busy you are and you will then enjoy your monthly escapades. Believe it or not - you can control it - the question is do you really want to.

Sometimes I see 3 per week. Sometimes zero. When I don't see anyone in that week, it's amazing how much personal admin I actually get done. You're right. Moderation is key. Don't let it run your life. Make it a treat for a hard weeks work or month. If you are used to 3-6 per month, take your favourite out for a date with all that money and make that your months treat. Or not.

 

[y2kmark]

Toast Masters. Join that club. It will develop the skill of public speaking, and build confidence.

And meet some women. Most clubs and organizations have them...

 

[Mr.Know-It-All]

 

[johnyboy]

 

[Bobtubby]

Are you serious about quitting? Erectile dysfunction will force you to quit. Maybe take the meds?

When i took the meds it caused problems with work and performance. I lost a $60 an hour job because i was so dead inside it completely shut me down

 

[Medman52]

When i took the meds it caused problems with work and performance. I lost a $60 an hour job because i was so dead inside it completely shut me down

Yup, I agree not good. Whatever you decide, good luck and I truly hope it works out for you.

 

[Greytop19]

Hi guys need some help. Ive been addicted to escorts for 10 years and am deperatly trying to quit. I have now ability to talk to to woman and can only see escorts. Anyone have any advise on stopping. Also i have a shrink but all he wants to do is medicate me

I have read this "quitting" else where on this forum. If you are serious, just quit this site, get help and make yourself a better person. This is the same addiction as alcohol, tobacco etc.
A person cannot sit in a bar drinking whiskey, smoking cigarettes and says he wants to quit. A year from now you will still be here asking for suggestions, checking out the agencies and talking about "quitting" Good Luck to you.

 

[billie69]

Perhaps cognitive behavioural therapy will work.

Mind you, if you can talk to escorts, then you should be able to talk to civilian women.

The escort(s) should have helped you get out of your shell.

 

[superman12]

Sometimes I see 3 per week. Sometimes zero. When I don't see anyone in that week, it's amazing how much personal admin I actually get done. You're right. Moderation is key. Don't let it run your life. Make it a treat for a hard weeks work or month. If you are used to 3-6 per month, take your favourite out for a date with all that money and make that your months treat. Or not.

Thats great advice. When i tried to quit i was seeing 3-4 sp's a week maybe even more some weeks and then went cold turkey and didnt see anyone for a couple months. It was just way too hard to stay away so i learned that moderation is the way to go because i wont be able to stay away from the hobby entirely. There will always be some temptation somewhere.