I think, no make that, I know you are right. First if you get to the point where marriage comes into the picture, there is a time where she has been working while dating and possibility living together. Sometimes, it is the latter like you have said as a guy will always wonder……..
Would you marry an SP?
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Actually it is based on my fellow workers who have done this.
It may have been the “job” for you but for most - it is because men don’t have the strong sense of security required to date an SP while she is still working.
Most men(and women) have issues with their partner sleeping with other people. Shit - the escort dating a client would probably have issues if he wanted to see another SP.
So it is just natural behaviour and the experience of many others that dictates my “opinion”. Not just your lone opinion.
And to clarify- I wasn’t speaking of your personal relationship. You put it out there that what happened to you will happen to everyone else. I’m speaking about everyone else.
Would I marry an SP? That’s a tough one.
I did date one for about 6 months. That destroyed my life pretty much. So theres that.
I am sure however, Sp’s are exactly like the general population. A mixed bag of crazies and normal. Some people will cheat, and use the “job” as means to go after their own vices… and other girls, it’s a means to an end. I just happened to fall for a crazy.
I did date one for about 6 months. That destroyed my life pretty much. So theres that.
I am sure however, Sp’s are exactly like the general population. A mixed bag of crazies and normal. Some people will cheat, and use the “job” as means to go after their own vices… and other girls, it’s a means to an end. I just happened to fall for a crazy.
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Story of my lifeI just happened to fall for a crazy.
Yes, in the sense it is off the table. I know several sps who went to sugar babies then to marriage and historically it was typically how escorts retired and entered high society.
Similar to Edward VIII marrying a divorce which was bout the same as marring a single escort at the time.
That being said, there are a wide variety of situations in the biz many of which could exclude marriage for me - say x among of insane clients causing trouble.
The fact is at least girls i have dated that where no escorts did indeed do sex work sometime in there life, they just mentioned it later. And there most be some of the other group who kept it secret and I never found out. Less likely in the net age, where a cyber sleuth can find any past internet activity fairly easily unless you have government level contacts to erase your footprint.
As to the converse, I have many sps say they would never marry a man who did the hobby even once. I always thought that was a little hypercritical but the heart wants what the heart wants.
No, was more for the SP In question to see the response.You resurrected a 5 and half year old thread just to say that? Must be really bored eh
If she is retired, she might value monogamous relation greatly and by virtue of her experience in this industry, be more confident in her new role, leaving the past aside and moving on, and this can prove to be a valuable partner in marriage…
But for an active SP, it appears as if the odds are not too much favourable to sustain a long term relationship, unless a lot of adjustments are made by each. If both earn well, odds might favour a bit, but if there is a huge gap in earnings, then differences might erupt sooner or later leading to role reversal and ego clashes.
But for an active SP, it appears as if the odds are not too much favourable to sustain a long term relationship, unless a lot of adjustments are made by each. If both earn well, odds might favour a bit, but if there is a huge gap in earnings, then differences might erupt sooner or later leading to role reversal and ego clashes.
The first part is absolutely true. Unfortunately, it’s that second part that is usually the case… there is almost no way to have any type of “traditional” relationship. It’s always in the back of the head. And that is the sad part…
Marry? I wasn't even able to date one. And she wasn't even an SP. She was an MPA.
Many moons ago, when I was a much younger man I tried dating an MPA. Didn't know it at first. She lied about what she did. When she got caught in the lie she finally told me the truth. She said she was afraid of being judged. Understandable.
She said she had no interest in quitting, and didn't want someone being possessive over what she did.
I told her I was surprised, but was OK with it. I'm an open minded, confident guy
And I was. I trusted her to be loyal in her heart. I never pressured her. Never asked her to quit. Never got pissed off. Always trusted her to do what she felt best. Never acted with jealousy. Was never disloyal to her.
As time went on, she got more and more crazy. Accusing me of cheating when I was at family functions, that she plainly knew I was at. And she just kept starting fights. Perpetually pissed off that I wasn't jealous when she went to work. So when I responded that maybe she shouldn't, she would get pissed off that I was jealous. The industry made her a crazy basket case. She was incapable of sustaining a relationship.
Moral of the story. Even if you are the type of guy that can handle being in a relationship with an SP, chances are she is not capable of handling it herself.
Many moons ago, when I was a much younger man I tried dating an MPA. Didn't know it at first. She lied about what she did. When she got caught in the lie she finally told me the truth. She said she was afraid of being judged. Understandable.
She said she had no interest in quitting, and didn't want someone being possessive over what she did.
I told her I was surprised, but was OK with it. I'm an open minded, confident guy
And I was. I trusted her to be loyal in her heart. I never pressured her. Never asked her to quit. Never got pissed off. Always trusted her to do what she felt best. Never acted with jealousy. Was never disloyal to her.
As time went on, she got more and more crazy. Accusing me of cheating when I was at family functions, that she plainly knew I was at. And she just kept starting fights. Perpetually pissed off that I wasn't jealous when she went to work. So when I responded that maybe she shouldn't, she would get pissed off that I was jealous. The industry made her a crazy basket case. She was incapable of sustaining a relationship.
Moral of the story. Even if you are the type of guy that can handle being in a relationship with an SP, chances are she is not capable of handling it herself.
Couldn’t have said it any better myself. There is no way to win. Try and play the understanding guy. You don’t care. Try to be the jealous guy, you’re crazy. There is no in between.
I often wonder when I read posts like this that make generalizations about men and their supposed 'insecurities' how many civvie women would be able to handle a relationship with a working male prostitute. Makes me wonder if we should really be taking about human insecurities instead.
I am pretty sure I mentioned women’s Insecurities as well.
I did say “the escort dating a client would probably have issues if he wanted to see another SP.”
And I did call those insecurities natural behaviour. So yes - I am totally open to a human insecurities discussion. I thought that was what I was having. If it didn’t come across that way with my examples on both sides, I apologize.
Ok…. You got a story. Let’s here it. Play the blues in the background while you tell it…
No need to get into details. Suffice to say, there really isn’t a way to play it at all to make it work. Trust me, I tried. Was just curious into others experiences with this.
No worries. The title of the thread is 'would you marry an SP?'. Although the vast majority of SPs are female, the roles can be reversed. In such cases, it's easy to paint one gender with all the negative attributes because of their role in the relationship or resulting from inaccurate stereotypes, but the truth is that in many fundamental ways, male and females of the species are no different from each other. Jealousy and personal insecurity are two of those inherent attributes from which males and females typically react similarly in the same situational context.
I have seen this happen myself, but starting from before they became an MPA then seeing the change as is progressed. However similar mental stress occurs in police, military, doctors and dentists. Different stress but all can damage relationships. They all share the "do not bring work home with you rule" however sometimes because of the law and sometimes because of custom.
