Reddit thread - I slept with my girlfriends mom 2 years ago.

[Jenesis]

So let me first just say, I’m not the one in the wrong for this but I have to say it somewhere. It’s eating me alive

2 years ago when I was 19 I met this woman while I was working as a personal trainer. She was in her 40s and looked like a 25 year old. She took an interest in me and invited me out a number of times and we had sex a few times. After one of our meet ups she said it was wrong for someone of her age to be with me because I was to young and changed gyms.

My girlfriend and I have been together for just under a year. She’s amazing and I love her so much. 2 months ago I met her family for the first time and it was a shock. Like she took me to the house where i had hooked up with a woman and I felt like I was being pranked.

Before I see her mom it hits me. I have a type and they both fit that type so it make sense, I’ve been hooking up with a single mom and I’m now with her daughter. Then her mom and dad pop out and we both almost shit ourselves. i meet her parents, they’ve been married for 20 years, I realize I had been a married woman’s boy toy, I feel incredibly ashamed.

Later that week her mom finds my number and tells me that I can never speak of what happened. She says that my girlfriend will hate me forever because I’ll be the one who broke up her parents. So now I’m stuck keeping this secret.

She invited me to spend thanksgiving and with her family and since my family is 1000 miles away and I already told her I don’t plan on going home I don’t really have an excuse to not go. So now I’m going to have to sit there at a table and enjoy thanksgiving dinner with the woman I had an affair with, her husband, and her daughter whom I am now in love with.

I’m fucked.

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What would you do if this was you?

Personally, I would tell the GF. The whole thing is fucked and probably not going to last now anyway, so I wouldn’t keep it in. I would tell the GF and let her deal with her family.

What would y’all do?

 

[Andreiboris01]

I would not tell the g/f. It will be a lifetime of trauma. It is not her fault and will not change anything other than perhaps destroy a family.

A new girlfriend is what i would be after.

 

[Jenesis]

I would not tell the g/f. It will be a lifetime of trauma. It is not her fault and will not change anything other than perhaps destroy a family.

A new girlfriend is what i would be after.

Ok I see. Break up for another reason to spare her. Didn’t think of that.

 

[Andreiboris01]

Ok I see. Break up for another reason to spare her. Didn’t think of that.

Not being sexist but perhaps on average men have different thought process. Women always are more caring willing to make a difference in sometheing where men overall would probably walk away easier. One time i had a friends wife ask me how come i never told her of her husbands cheating and if she found out i was cheating she would have told my wife. Similar example. Perhaps its how we are engineered. For sure there will be different personalities but i find there are stereotypes that apply. My thought to her: well lady if i ever cheated i will make sure i never tell you lmao!

 

[Ref]

Have sex with her father and everyone is equal.

JK. Keep the one-off with her mother confidential and enjoy the relationship. If the mother looks hot at that age, hopefully the daughter has her genes.

 

[james t kirk]

Dear Penthouse,

I never thought this would happen to me, but....

 

[Jenesis]

Not being sexist but perhaps on average men have different thought process. Women always are more caring willing to make a difference in sometheing where men overall would probably walk away easier. One time i had a friends wife ask me how come i never told her of her husbands cheating and if she found out i was cheating she would have told my wife. Similar example. Perhaps its how we are engineered. For sure there will be different personalities but i find there are stereotypes that apply. My thought to her: well lady if i ever cheated i will make sure i never tell you lmao!

For me - honesty has just always been better and easy so it is the first thing that comes to mind. Lies just don’t enter my head. I’m not good at them anyway.

But I get that some are necessary and it in this case I can see it. Break up for a different reason, save the family and save yourself at the same time. Makes sense.

 

[james t kirk]

Not being sexist but perhaps on average men have different thought process. Women always are more caring willing to make a difference in sometheing where men overall would probably walk away easier. One time i had a friends wife ask me how come i never told her of her husbands cheating and if she found out i was cheating she would have told my wife. Similar example. Perhaps its how we are engineered. For sure there will be different personalities but i find there are stereotypes that apply. My thought to her: well lady if i ever cheated i will make sure i never tell you lmao!

It's the wise old saying, "no good will come of it".

Men understand this and women do not. The reason men understand it is because eons of experience in the survival game have taught us that whether we like it or not, we need to cooperate with other men in order to survive. I have worked with men that I don't particularly like because it has to be done in order for the outcome to be successful. It helps if you get along, but it isn't a prerequisite. Throwing petty personal issues into the equation is never productive.

 

[boomboom]

IMHO
He was likely not the 1st person she slept with outside her marriage & not the last.
They both played a part in it.
they both will have to scratch that itch again at some point if he keeps seeing his girlfriend.
Distance makes it easier though to break it off if he's feeling that guilty
I'm curious though, who was better in bed.... Mom or daughter

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Should be ok.

 

[Brill]

I can’t see why it’s a difficult secret to keep. There’s no reason to bring it up and it isn’t dishonest either.

 

[xix]

I would walk away. The mother has for sure done this before if he finds out she changes gym every year.
The GF upon hearing the truth may end commit suicide, later in life or getting divorce from other guys she marries.

Many posibilities.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I would walk away. The mother has for sure done this before if he finds out she changes gym every year.
The GF upon hearing the truth may end commit suicide, later in life or getting divorce from other guys she marries.

Many posibilities.

Or could end up with all three of you having a knee slapping laugh session over a few brewskies.

 

[Jasmina]

Or - another perspective is, the family is already destroyed if Mom if out there banging 19 year old gym rats.

It's the wise old saying, "no good will come of it".

Men understand this and women do not. The reason men understand it is because eons of experience in the survival game have taught us that whether we like it or not, we need to cooperate with other men in order to survive. I have worked with men that I don't particularly like because it has to be done in order for the outcome to be successful. It helps if you get along, but it isn't a prerequisite. Throwing petty personal issues into the equation is never productive.

 

[Jasmina]

Would you feel the same if it was a girl you were crazy for and you found out she'd been banging your Dad behind your Mom's back?

I can’t see why it’s a difficult secret to keep. There’s no reason to bring it up and it isn’t dishonest either.

 

[Brill]

Would you feel the same if it was a girl you were crazy for and you found out she'd been banging your Dad behind your Mom's back?

That’s why it should be a secret, the other person would be bothered by it even it was purely physical.
I would as well.

 

[Jasmina]

I dunno man, I'd rather know and go through process of healing then have it come out later and feel betrayed. But maybe I'm an exception that way.

That’s why it should be a secret, the other person would be bothered by it even it was purely physical.
I would as well.

 

[moredale7]

So let me first just say, I’m not the one in the wrong for this but I have to say it somewhere. It’s eating me alive

2 years ago when I was 19 I met this woman while I was working as a personal trainer. She was in her 40s and looked like a 25 year old. She took an interest in me and invited me out a number of times and we had sex a few times. After one of our meet ups she said it was wrong for someone of her age to be with me because I was to young and changed gyms.

My girlfriend and I have been together for just under a year. She’s amazing and I love her so much. 2 months ago I met her family for the first time and it was a shock. Like she took me to the house where i had hooked up with a woman and I felt like I was being pranked.

Before I see her mom it hits me. I have a type and they both fit that type so it make sense, I’ve been hooking up with a single mom and I’m now with her daughter. Then her mom and dad pop out and we both almost shit ourselves. i meet her parents, they’ve been married for 20 years, I realize I had been a married woman’s boy toy, I feel incredibly ashamed.

Later that week her mom finds my number and tells me that I can never speak of what happened. She says that my girlfriend will hate me forever because I’ll be the one who broke up her parents. So now I’m stuck keeping this secret.

She invited me to spend thanksgiving and with her family and since my family is 1000 miles away and I already told her I don’t plan on going home I don’t really have an excuse to not go. So now I’m going to have to sit there at a table and enjoy thanksgiving dinner with the woman I had an affair with, her husband, and her daughter whom I am now in love with.

I’m fucked.

—————————————————

What would you do if this was you?

Personally, I would tell the GF. The whole thing is fucked and probably not going to last now anyway, so I wouldn’t keep it in. I would tell the GF and let her deal with her family.

What would y’all do?

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[poker]

If mom wants it secret, it stays secret.

It’s not like the guy cheated, or even knew she was married. So he there is no reason for him to feel bad on his end.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

If mom wants it secret, it stays secret.

It’s not like the guy cheated, or even knew she was married. So he there is no reason for him to feel bad on his end.

The only thing he has to worry about is that sometimes women feel the need to unburden themselves from feelings of guilt, and damn the torpedo's.