SP told me she loves me and I froze
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How did she react when you didn't respond, was it not addressed when you ate at Mac's?
Don't forget the guy in Ottawa a few years back who got taken to the cleaners, and worse, by a local hooker. Forgot the name, but maybe someone here can remember. Big court case involving hundreds of thousands of dollars and a boyfriend in the Caribbean.
Walked her around near the school you've been paying her tuition for? Cool story bro....
At the end of the day she’s a woman and women have feelings too. The way you described it bro as meeting up with two friends and you two being the same age you can definitely pursue more than a business relationship with her.
So it’s been getting real blurry now. I think shes avoiding to see me as a client?
I tried to book her through the receptionist like usual since it shows her on the schedule. The normal procedure, before i got her number. However, there seems to be no availability for me now as a client.
We text and message everyday and she somehow pays before me for every casual (lunch, dinner, movie, etc) thing we do. I ask her if shes “working” but the answer is always, “no, im too busy” or has some other excuse. I didn‘t pay much attention at first, but it happened 3 times this week. Shits living rent free in my head at this point since I went from seeing a SP every other day to cold turkey
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I don’t do well with mental games, that was the whole point me starting to see SPs. There‘s a line between reality and fantasy. Now it’s “i want to see her” (have some bomb ass passionate sex too), but i can‘t see her to satisfy my carnal desires. Now I’m stuck thinking if she just doesnt want to see me in the capacity of a client or some other internal struggle. Plus, i got a massive case of blue balls.
Thoughts of seeing other SPs have crossed my mind, but the desire or obsession rather wasn‘t the same.
We are supposed to hang out tonight. She‘s on schedule as working right now, so i asked her if she is working and if can see her there too. The answer was she wasn’t working. Like bruh.
It’s so mentally draining.
I tried to book her through the receptionist like usual since it shows her on the schedule. The normal procedure, before i got her number. However, there seems to be no availability for me now as a client.
We text and message everyday and she somehow pays before me for every casual (lunch, dinner, movie, etc) thing we do. I ask her if shes “working” but the answer is always, “no, im too busy” or has some other excuse. I didn‘t pay much attention at first, but it happened 3 times this week. Shits living rent free in my head at this point since I went from seeing a SP every other day to cold turkey
.I don’t do well with mental games, that was the whole point me starting to see SPs. There‘s a line between reality and fantasy. Now it’s “i want to see her” (have some bomb ass passionate sex too), but i can‘t see her to satisfy my carnal desires. Now I’m stuck thinking if she just doesnt want to see me in the capacity of a client or some other internal struggle. Plus, i got a massive case of blue balls.
Thoughts of seeing other SPs have crossed my mind, but the desire or obsession rather wasn‘t the same.
We are supposed to hang out tonight. She‘s on schedule as working right now, so i asked her if she is working and if can see her there too. The answer was she wasn’t working. Like bruh.
It’s so mentally draining.
You made a whole thread about how it was wrong and you didn't sign up for that...move on dear. Obviously she wants you and you are using her for all the wrong reason.So it’s been getting real blurry now. I think shes avoiding to see me as a client?
I tried to book her through the receptionist like usual since it shows her on the schedule. The normal procedure, before i got her number. However, there seems to be no availability for me now as a client.
We text and message everyday and she somehow pays before me for every casual (lunch, dinner, movie, etc) thing we do. I ask her if shes “working” but the answer is always, “no, im too busy” or has some other excuse. I didn‘t pay much attention at first, but it happened 3 times this week. Shits living rent free in my head at this point since I went from seeing a SP every other day to cold turkey
I don’t do well with mental games, that was the whole point me starting to see SPs. There‘s a line between reality and fantasy. Now it’s “i want to see her” (have some bomb ass passionate sex too), but i can‘t see her to satisfy my carnal desires. Now I’m stuck thinking if she just doesnt want to see me in the capacity of a client or some other internal struggle. Plus, i got a massive case of blue balls.
Thoughts of seeing other SPs have crossed my mind, but the desire or obsession rather wasn‘t the same.
We are supposed to hang out tonight. She‘s on schedule as working right now, so i asked her if she is working and if can see her there too. The answer was she wasn’t working. Like bruh.
It’s so mentally draining.
Oh I wish pornstar looking strippers and escorts wanted me this way but that’s like winning a lottery ticket.
A couple of experiences from my past:
The one and only time I've fallen in love in this hobby, I met someone who I was ridiculously attracted to on every level. We were really comfortable talking or just sitting together quietly for hours off the clock. While she effectively made a very low rate when you compare how much I paid her for how much time we spent together, I was always her client. Over time it became very difficult for me, and she expressed a lot of confusion over it herself. I have no regrets about the experience, but it became very painful.
There was another provider I saw a couple of times and we just clicked. In that case, we just completely switched the relationship. I never paid for her services again, but we went out on dates (both with and without sex), I met her friends, I met her mother, I was referred to as her boyfriend etc. That didn't work out (that's another story) but in the end it was a lot easier to manage than the first scenario.
So my advice is this: while I think it's really rare, it is possible to fully transition from client/provider to romantic relationship. But they are very different, and straddling the line between them is a recipe for a lot of hurt feelings. It sounds to me like she's doing the smart thing and trying to make the switch. If you believe there's a genuine potential for a relationship here, then go for it, and be clear about it. If not, then walk away. But do not get caught in the middle.
The one and only time I've fallen in love in this hobby, I met someone who I was ridiculously attracted to on every level. We were really comfortable talking or just sitting together quietly for hours off the clock. While she effectively made a very low rate when you compare how much I paid her for how much time we spent together, I was always her client. Over time it became very difficult for me, and she expressed a lot of confusion over it herself. I have no regrets about the experience, but it became very painful.
There was another provider I saw a couple of times and we just clicked. In that case, we just completely switched the relationship. I never paid for her services again, but we went out on dates (both with and without sex), I met her friends, I met her mother, I was referred to as her boyfriend etc. That didn't work out (that's another story) but in the end it was a lot easier to manage than the first scenario.
So my advice is this: while I think it's really rare, it is possible to fully transition from client/provider to romantic relationship. But they are very different, and straddling the line between them is a recipe for a lot of hurt feelings. It sounds to me like she's doing the smart thing and trying to make the switch. If you believe there's a genuine potential for a relationship here, then go for it, and be clear about it. If not, then walk away. But do not get caught in the middle.
You are being played, buddy. “Frog in a pot of hot water” comparison. She’s blocking you from work, blocking your heart and little head from going out to get satisfied.
She is dealing in confusion, no one who loves you would play that game.
She is dealing in confusion, no one who loves you would play that game.
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This is a pretty unique situation, to be sure! A few options:
What I think most likely is she got caught up in the moment and she just said it. She likes you,
and she felt a connection so it just came out. Or perhaps she thought you wanted to hear something
like that. Either way, simply ignore it, keep seeing her and assume it was just a 1-off.
Or...perhaps she actually IS in love with you. Given that you seem to have a close relationship with her
it's not impossible. SP's and clients dating is not entirely unheard of. In this case you have a lot of thinking
to do on whether you feel the same way about her, do you want her to leave the industry to be monogamous
with you, etc. Only you can answer these questions but it's important that you be honest with her.
I will say that if she just got caught up in the passion this is a very unprofessional move by her. She's putting you
in a really awkward position, especially given that she probably doesn't know everything going on in your personal
life. This isn't something an SP should say to a client in a session. If she really feels this way, this needs to be
communicated outside of a session in a civilian setting.
What I think most likely is she got caught up in the moment and she just said it. She likes you,
and she felt a connection so it just came out. Or perhaps she thought you wanted to hear something
like that. Either way, simply ignore it, keep seeing her and assume it was just a 1-off.
Or...perhaps she actually IS in love with you. Given that you seem to have a close relationship with her
it's not impossible. SP's and clients dating is not entirely unheard of. In this case you have a lot of thinking
to do on whether you feel the same way about her, do you want her to leave the industry to be monogamous
with you, etc. Only you can answer these questions but it's important that you be honest with her.
I will say that if she just got caught up in the passion this is a very unprofessional move by her. She's putting you
in a really awkward position, especially given that she probably doesn't know everything going on in your personal
life. This isn't something an SP should say to a client in a session. If she really feels this way, this needs to be
communicated outside of a session in a civilian setting.
You have to Move on.....Maybe Search TERB for another “Friend”...
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I don't think I've said it was wrong. I just found the entire situation entirely awkward.
I'm interested in her as a person too. If I wasn't, then I would've just brushed the whole situation off. She's one of the reasons for me to quit seeing other SPs. I've brought it up in a Convo too, I also emphasized that it doesn't bother me that she works as an SP, me quitting was a voluntary action on my part.
If she's trying to cut our client relationship and delve into something deeper then I have no qualms about that. It's just mentally exhausting to navigate through. I'm honestly worried about how she might feel about the whole situation too.
Thanks for this. The hardest thing right now is figuring out the intentions behind the actions and lay them out. Emotions are fickle. I don't have any problems with her working or anything related to it. I just don't enjoy dancing around conflict and bottle up my thoughts. I'm not built that way.
Probably would've appreciated a "hey, I don't wanna see you as a client right now" or anything to that capacity. Maybe an egg in these trying times.
I'll always be upfront and honest about my feelings. I've made it clear the first time I saw her in civy mode and she said she appreciated that.
I'm planning to bring it up and laying it out after we see the movie tonight.
She's technically working right now but she told me she wasn't working today. <- This is literally the only thing that's been draining me mentally.
There is nothing mentally exausting here. She doesn't want your money anymore.
It's been 2 weeks now, I hope you told her that you love her too and that you can't live without her. What the hell is wrong with you? Kids today.
Are you sure you are not making this up?
You're thinking too much into it. But if you really think she means that, having been in a similar situation before, move on.
Some people get confused with falling in love with the regular donation, and mix that that up with falling in love with a person. In all likelyhood she doesn't know you enough to love you, and you know that.
Some people get confused with falling in love with the regular donation, and mix that that up with falling in love with a person. In all likelyhood she doesn't know you enough to love you, and you know that.
That's why you avoid seeing the same girl over and over again week after week.
