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Never, ever, go after me in public.
And, do not exaggerate, and always assume the worst about me. Don't jump to conclusions, or say " You did that because you..."
No. Ask me why I did that, and I will tell you.
Above all, no silent treatment. Will never put up with that shit.
It is OK to disagree - politely. If you get furious merely at a difference of opinion or point of view, you are trying to get me to walk on eggshells all the time, which I refuse to do. You will either get a wimp or nothing at all.
And, do not exaggerate, and always assume the worst about me. Don't jump to conclusions, or say " You did that because you..."
No. Ask me why I did that, and I will tell you.
Above all, no silent treatment. Will never put up with that shit.
It is OK to disagree - politely. If you get furious merely at a difference of opinion or point of view, you are trying to get me to walk on eggshells all the time, which I refuse to do. You will either get a wimp or nothing at all.
Be feminine. Classy & soft. Not a pushover but feminine. I don’t know of any guys that care about a woman climbing the corporate ladder. None of us care about you putting in 100 hrs a week, we know our money is your money but your money is your money and we have given up that you will split the household bills.
Dont harp on the same subject that you’ve been given a clear answer to.
Sounds harsh as I type it out but that’s the reality of the modern woman. They have forgotten how to be “women”.
Fill my inbox up with hate, ladies, this is the truth.
Dont harp on the same subject that you’ve been given a clear answer to.
Sounds harsh as I type it out but that’s the reality of the modern woman. They have forgotten how to be “women”.
Fill my inbox up with hate, ladies, this is the truth.
Men and women are wired differently. Good advice to men would be to not try to solve her emotional outbursts, as we are wont to, but rather to be available to listen. Good advice to women would be the exact opposite, to be direct if there is an issue and work towards resolving it. Men are good problem solvers, so when it comes to something we're not supposed to solve, it leaves us uncomfortable.
These are generalities of course.
These are generalities of course.
That's great advice. I dated a woman whose judging of our relationship was on how much we agreed on things, and who thought that the perfect man would never have a difference of opinion with her. Not only is that practically impossible, but it makes her vulnerable to men who have no qualms about lying in order to get in good with her. Either that, or men who are complete wimps, as you say. But in that case he's not really agreeing, he's just holding his tongue about his real opinions.
Well guys i want to thank you all for being honest .....i asked my girlfriend what her advice will be shes still talking to me since yesterday i think shes got a few more days of btrewing before shelets it all out............heres what i say to the men that want a woman to fit into their mold i rather be someones shot of whiskey than everyones cup of tea 
Good on you for asking. Just be a feminine woman. Not the angry, combative, aggressive and confrontational version that feminism has portrayed for decades. This has subtly molded pretty much every lady now...that is the truth. Feminine to me is warm, kind, caring, fun and playful. Don`t attempt to rewrite natural law ..you are a woman, forget trying to be a man. There is no equality in nature, you are purpose built for a reason, go with it. By no means you are lesser, you have a vital and critical role, men and women should compliment one another. If you find a good guy, follow his lead. No attempts at command and control ever, I view that as an immediate GTFO. And above all...telling the truth regarding all things, it is a very good way of life.
Don't help a man with a physical task, or even offer help, unless he first asks for your help. You might be able to do the task faster or better, but do that in front of him some other time, not when he's not trying to do it himself. Men see unsolicited help as interference and condescension. It's OK to laugh silently at his futile efforts.
Don't start conversations with phrases like "I thought we agreed that...", "When are you going to...?", "Why can't you...?", etc.
Don't wait for the man to ask you about how you are feeling, or how your day has been, or whether so-and-so's condition has changed. He might be genuinely interested, or able to fake it, but probably not enough to initiate the conversation.
Don''t start a conversation about something that's not immediately important during a TV show or a game of sports on TV; wait until a commercial. It's OK to do that if you are at the live event.
Don't start conversations with phrases like "I thought we agreed that...", "When are you going to...?", "Why can't you...?", etc.
Don't wait for the man to ask you about how you are feeling, or how your day has been, or whether so-and-so's condition has changed. He might be genuinely interested, or able to fake it, but probably not enough to initiate the conversation.
Don''t start a conversation about something that's not immediately important during a TV show or a game of sports on TV; wait until a commercial. It's OK to do that if you are at the live event.
if they have emotional outburst that is a flag for me. being able to regulate your emotions is a great skill for any person to have. its a sign of patience, humility, empathy and stability. up and down emotional rollercoasters do not equate for a chill life.
You underestimate yourself! You are a kind and empathetic soul with a lot to offer, undearneath the shit you've been through.
If that's what you want, be upfront from day one, and don't feel rejected if the other person decides it is not what they want.
Don’t believe a word in this thread
they tell you: “be feminine and co-operative” but they really want a total slut n bitch in bed who gives orders, insatiable freak and wild af
n they tell you: “dont nag” but in reality all men want a smart girl by their side n who actually has her opinions, interests and brain of her own
Some men tell that they want to take care of you n sorta to be their little girl? But in reality [in their wildest] dreams they don’t want somebody acting like a baby all the time and who can’t take care of themselves resorting to Daddy-nanny non-stop.
Likewise, say, on one hand, you’re amazing sexy slut n lover in bed. But now that shouldn’t go further than their bedrooms as in reality all they just need a well-mannered lady in front of their family, friends, colleagues etc and also someone who truly understands what grace is.
So the point is... women have to learn their “being a woman craft“ just like men do too, but that typically only happens by making their own mistakes lol
they tell you: “be feminine and co-operative” but they really want a total slut n bitch in bed who gives orders, insatiable freak and wild af
n they tell you: “dont nag” but in reality all men want a smart girl by their side n who actually has her opinions, interests and brain of her own
Some men tell that they want to take care of you n sorta to be their little girl? But in reality [in their wildest] dreams they don’t want somebody acting like a baby all the time and who can’t take care of themselves resorting to Daddy-nanny non-stop.
Likewise, say, on one hand, you’re amazing sexy slut n lover in bed. But now that shouldn’t go further than their bedrooms as in reality all they just need a well-mannered lady in front of their family, friends, colleagues etc and also someone who truly understands what grace is.
So the point is... women have to learn their “being a woman craft“ just like men do too, but that typically only happens by making their own mistakes lol
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You really haven't been reading these closely - have you ? Is this the type of reasoning behind girls latching on to bad boys ????
He is so misunderstood. I can clean him up - he will change for me.
Mr Deeds may have been just laying out the 'I wouldn't join any club that would have me as a member' satire but your response reminds of a head scratching one sided relationships of girls with self absorbed bad guys.
I think there is no perfect menu for guys. We are different outside our love of sex. Some want less daily physical contact, some want more; some are insecure and prefer you hide yourself, your emotions, and no conversations with any guy. Others are more secure and proud of you for your independence. I'd say if you find yourself constantly checking his reaction as you enjoy yourself - you are destined for failure.
Been married 49 years. She never opens my mail or reads my emails, I do the same. She never looks inside my wallet, I do the same. It is called respect aka Aretha Franklin. If one of us becomes dishonest the other will know. Don't continually critize him unless he is a total asshole. I know this is sounds so old fashioned, but it has worked for us.
