Women do not make it very easy for men when it comes to dating. I took a lady out on a date in March just before the provincial lockdown . We were still talking right afterwards, I tried to set up another date; She sgreed to it, flaked on me and subsequently ghosted me out of nowhere.
I super liked another girl on Tinder and sent a friend request to her snapchat account that was in her bio. She added me back. I told her that I super liked in her on Tinder. She says she's doesn't use it that much. We chatted a bit. I found her to be very interesting and i told her that I wanted to meet up with her to smoke some joints. She agreed. I tried to set up a date until she started ignoring me.
These are the struggles that I have to deal with as a man just to get myself acquainted with the opposite sex. I have to keep dealing with rejections , flakes and ghosting. I would rather get rejected than to be left on read and get ghosted. Women are very fickle and capricious when it comes to dating. They say one thing and then do the complete opposite. They do one thing and say the completely opposite. You can build an excellent rapport with a woman and it's all find and dandy until they dissappear before the blink of an eye. This is why I fully believe in 80% of the women look for the top 20% of the men in the male dominance hierachy. That was my first date in six years; Yes my dating life is that bad and this is honestly very exhausting...I'm trying my best to make something happen for myself when it comes to dating but women are generally setting standards so high that being an average man is not good enough. Furthurmore, it's very difficult calibrating with women considering that they can change their mood on you at anytime even when everything is good. I don't know how you married men do it.
This is why I value this industry so much because I don't have to deal with the ghosting , flaking and rejection. All it takes is one phone call to see a lady at a spa, All It takes is one text to see a lady at an escort agency. There's too many hoops and obstacles you have to deal with it comes to dating and it shouldn't have to be. We have reached the point in society where modern women have gotten so much attention on social media that they much more picky in mate selection. There's 25 year old male virgins, There's men in there early to mid thirties who had sex twice and there's men like me who hasn't had sex with a civilian in 7 years. Now when I meet an attractive woman, the first thing I think in my head is "I hope she escorts" than "I'd like to take her out" because If she's an escort, I have a better chance of actually spending time with her. It's unfortunate that I have to think this way but women have made so hard for men due to their high standards. I had to read The Game by Neil Strauss when i was younger and I still wasn't getting any results.
Lil Loaded killed himself over a breakup, A California man killed himself as well over his girlfriend allegely cheating on him. Women don't make it very easy for men but It's up to us men on how we choose to react to women's behaviour. It's a constant hard battle to earn a victory in getting a fate, or having sex with the woman of your interest.
Sometimes it's best to raise the white flag and continue to see escorts.
Hi buddy,
First thing first - I completely understand your circumstances. I have been through the exact same thing. Before COVID-19, I have a hard time finding a woman that is worth while to be with, and now with the COVID-19 lock-down - the situation is even worse. I cannot meet anyone beside my mom, my coworkers and few escorts ladies. I have been rejected multiple times. I have three broken relationship which till this day hurts me, and all my ex-girlfriend are MARRIED with other guys.
Does life suck? Yes it does! However, I am not here to tell you how my problem is worse or miserable than you. What I wanted you to remember this quote from Buddha, "Life is full of suffering. If you do not accept the suffering, you will suffer more." So, what does that quote actually mean? It means, whatever you do in life, you will suffer some form of misery, whether it is walking down the street, learning a new language, exerciting on the bike or going on tinder to find a date.
Since you have read, The Game, from Neil Strauss - I can tell you right now - dating women or dating anyone is a numbers game. You have to be willing to accept that fact that not all women like you - there will be some people that will hate you passionately. Why? Who cares! Life is too short to care about everything. However, that's not the point, the point is - if you failed to attract the type of woman you want in your life - maybe it is time to change up your tactics/plan. If you do not change your approach and expect a different results - it is called, INSANITY!
Mystery (PUA master) have said, "you need to work on yourself to attract the ladies - the peacock theory". If you do not like people to disrespect you then you need to respect yourself first. Cause no one will respect you if you do not respect yourself. As for ladies that are GHOSTING, FLAKING, REJECTING et cetera. What their actions tells you, they are NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. Even if you manage to secure an actual meet-up - would it be worth your time?
Do not beg nor ask them why they won't see you - cause you will NEVER know the truth. Even if the ladies did tell you the TRUTH, and explain why they did not want to see you - would you have believe them? There is a saying in the Asian culture, "All history is a lie. It depends on who does the telling and who does the listening."
Also, who cares if they have TERRIBLE behaviour, they are unlady-like or they have no proper social-manners - at the end of the day, if they failed to value you who you are now - they do not deserve the BEST of you in the future. You can change your fate and destiny, if you willing to take the time to develop yourself and push to your limits. However, you have to be willing to take up the challenge to CHANGE yourself. If not, you will suffer more from the things you cannot control, like OTHER people's behaviour, thoughts, manners, society's or family's expectation, MGTOW, Feminist, ANTIFA, Fascism, racism et cetera.
Don't be a follower. Be a leader for yourself and create the world YOU want to be in. Good luck and wish you all the best.
