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Women do not make it very easy for men when it comes to dating.

Tashki

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Women do not make it very easy for men when it comes to dating. I took a lady out on a date in March just before the provincial lockdown . We were still talking right afterwards, I tried to set up another date; She agreed to it, flaked on me and subsequently ghosted me out of nowhere.

I super liked another girl on Tinder and sent a friend request to her snapchat account that was in her bio. She added me back. I told her that I super liked in her on Tinder. She says she's doesn't use it that much. We chatted a bit. I found her to be very interesting and i told her that I wanted to meet up with her to smoke some joints. She agreed. I tried to set up a date until she started ignoring me.

These are the struggles that I have to deal with as a man just to get myself acquainted with the opposite sex. I have to keep dealing with rejections , flakes and ghosting. I would rather get rejected than to be left on read and get ghosted. Women are very fickle and capricious when it comes to dating. They say one thing and then do the complete opposite. They do one thing and say the completely opposite. You can build an excellent rapport with a woman and it's all find and dandy until they dissappear before the blink of an eye. This is why I fully believe in 80% of the women look for the top 20% of the men in the male dominance hierachy. That was my first date in six years; Yes my dating life is that bad and this is honestly very exhausting...I'm trying my best to make something happen for myself when it comes to dating but women are generally setting standards so high that being an average man is not good enough. Furthurmore, it's very difficult calibrating with women considering that they can change their mood on you at anytime even when everything is good. I don't know how you married men do it.

This is why I value this industry so much because I don't have to deal with the ghosting , flaking and rejection. All it takes is one phone call to see a lady at a spa, All It takes is one text to see a lady at an escort agency. There's too many hoops and obstacles you have to deal with it comes to dating and it shouldn't have to be. We have reached the point in society where modern women have gotten so much attention on social media that they much more picky in mate selection. There's 25 year old male virgins, There's men in there early to mid thirties who had sex twice and there's men like me who hasn't had sex with a civilian in 7 years. Now when I meet an attractive woman, the first thing I think in my head is "I hope she escorts" than "I'd like to take her out" because If she's an escort, I have a better chance of actually spending time with her. It's unfortunate that I have to think this way but women have made so hard for men due to their high standards. I had to read The Game by Neil Strauss when i was younger and I still wasn't getting any results.

Lil Loaded killed himself over a breakup, A California man killed himself as well over his girlfriend allegely cheating on him. Women don't make it very easy for men but It's up to us men on how we choose to react to women's behaviour. It's a constant hard battle to earn a victory in getting a fate, or having sex with the woman of your interest.

Sometimes it's best to raise the white flag and continue to see escorts.
 
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La la land
Dating any women in social media for relationship is a Titanic outcome.
It's not them it's you. Drop the social media = SM.

From my generation:

I have searched for former classmate from HS.
The majority of 8.5-10 hot girls are not on SM. No matter what job they have.
I only found two on SM because of their job. And they are not in real estate either.
The girls that were 5 and under hot, the majority are not on SM, only a few.

Averages ones are and didn't turn well. Hence why SM is not really effective for relationships.

Ever met someone married that met in a speed dating event. I have and he only went to accompany his friend. He is the one who walked out with a wife. The stories he told me about the women he saw there are not surprising.

Your generation or anyone now :

Most people now cannot focus or keep attention past 15-29 minutes. DO you ever see a cell phone come on in the cinemas during the movie?
Most people are looking for the best and greater next thing. So if you got dumped, maybe another woman called her.


the first thing I think in my head is "I hope she escorts" than "I'd like to take her out"
Maybe she is thinking the same thing about you. It seems you think like those people in SM. What you should be thinking - I should say "Hi' maybe there is something here.

Never ask, Say or mention these Questions:
1. Are you pregnant?
2. Smile, - NEVER maybe there is grief / loss in the family/friend or she can't smile.
3. Hey? She is not an animal nor are you. Alternative is Hi, Excuse me, Please & thank you, aahh.

Now get up and go out there and get kicked again or change the approach.
 

Platon

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I super liked another girl on Tinder and sent a friend request to her snapchat account that was in her bio.
She was looking for pay for play if that is the case. Most women on tinder are.
 

james t kirk

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Funny you say that because she told me that she use to work at a spa and that she escorts.
Classic.

She's probably thinking, "is this guy for real? I basically tell him I'm on the job and he's too stupid to realise what I'm getting at. Next."

As to your issues with women, its never really been any different has it?
 
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Tashki

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Classic.

She's probably thinking, "is this guy for real? I basically tell him I'm on the job and he's too stupid to realise what I'm getting at. Next."

As to your issues with women, its never really been any different has it?
Well on the contrary, Maybe she was actually looking for someone to be in a relationship with who accepts her for what she does for a living

I didn’t want to make a false judgement that all escorts will only hang out with men that put money in their purse.

My judgement may be correct after all...
 

ogibowt

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did i just stumble onto an incel board?..............................men have never ghosted women..no,no not ever...and its never you, always them......yep thats a good way to introduce yourself to a woman.."hey you wanna fire up a dub"?
 

Crimson Mire

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And you think women somehow have an easier time dating? With all the abusive men women have to weed out, as well as those faking relationships, be glad that these women are telling you right now they're not interested in you as opposed to 4 months down the road when it's too late.
 

angrymime666

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I think both sexes have a difficult time dating. according to stats women only find 20% of men attractive which really narrows the dating pool. include other factors like preference and in becomes even smaller.

men on the other hand find around 50% of women attractive. again include their preference and it narrows.

women tend to date up, and men dont really care as long they are attractive generally. we are attracted to the physical first then insert other characteristics.

its all about numbers folks.

if men and women want to have a relationship they will need to start dating down. of course neither sex will be interested in this since they tend to over value themselves.

as for me, Ill stick with the hookers. its cheaper in the long run and doesnt have the complication of having a women full time in my life to complicate it.
 

Butler1000

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The vast majority of women I dated (including the SO) were met via friends and acquaintances. There is an initial trust that is built in when you do that that gives you both leeway and a sense of obligation to at least try at first. You need to work with the females in your life and spouses of male friends to get you initial dates. Dinner parties, casual patio drinks, no pressures meets like that.

Women love to matchmake.
 
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Samranchoi

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“Men do not make it very easy for women when it comes to dating”

Funny how removing two letters from one word and adding them to another changes the whole complexion of the sentence. Which one is more correct? I guess it depends on who you are. Instead of placing blame on someone else, look in the mirror first
 

chodge

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YOu are paying either way with $$ or Wasting your time driving etc
 

kkelso

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I am sorry you feel down but it is important that you understand that women do not OWE you a response.
Women will do what they want. It's one thing to ignore someone reaching out to you on a dating app. It's quite another thing to ghost someone after making plans, agreeing to a date, etc.

The second is an indication of cowardice, impotence, and low character.

KK
 

JeanGary Diablo

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I've said this before on here and I will say it again: Tinder is utter shit for dating.

Online dating is the one bit of technology that has actually become progressively worse over the last 20 years.

The Golden Age of Online Dating was from about 2000 to 2008. Toronto-based Lavalife was the best f**ing dating/hookup site going. Getting laid or going on a date was as easy as logging into your Lavalife account and finding someone who piqued your interest. The profiles were real -- no scammers, no bots and there sure as fuq weren't women whose number 1 goal was getting you to their OnlyFans page.

Tinder was originally a hookup app, but in no time flat it became the preferred forum for desperate single mothers with 5 kids, undateables and, of course, narcissistic wannabe "social-media influencers".
 
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