Being ghosted

[feetastic]

Gentlemen (and ladies),

What are your strategies when being ghosted via text ?

1. Move on
2. Reach out and try again


I was seeing someone and after a very engaging 5th date I made a risky joke via text. Clearly didn't go over well and she hasn't replied in 5 days. Realizing it may have offended her I replied after a few hours of the original text to clarify I was just teasing.

Truthfully I expect and know I should move on is the right answer. But I'm curious , has anyone ever recovered from a joke fail ghosting situation ?

Thanks
Feetastic

 

[nervousintheservice]

Gentlemen (and ladies),

What are your strategies when being ghosted via text ?

1. Move on
2. Reach out and try again


I was seeing someone and after a very engaging 5th date I made a risky joke via text. Clearly didn't go over well and she hasn't replied in 5 days. Realizing it may have offended her I replied after a few hours of the original text to clarify I was just teasing.

Truthfully I expect and know I should move on is the right answer. But I'm curious , has anyone ever recovered from a joke fail ghosting situation ?

Thanks
Feetastic

I never reach out when I'm being ghosted. After two unreplied messages or calls I cut it off. Ghosting is such a childish way to act, and if someone is either too scared or childish to simply say something they aren't worth it anyway.

 

[malata]

tell us the joke you texted her and we can analyze

 

[John Henry]

Well I've never being ghosted because of a joke that I know off . Never been really told why I have been ghosted in the first place . It happened to me recently . I sent her 2 texts and got no reply . That's enough for me to move on . 2 weeks later she replies . Forget that . Message deleted .

It's always some stupid excuse why they took so long to get back to me . Yea right .

If you keep on texting her she might think that you are desperate . Now she has some power over you . Yes move on .

Ghosting is not nice but we all do it . Sometimes you just don't want to deal with the situation at hand .

If a person can't get back to you in a timely manner than forget them . You weren't important enough to get back to in the first place in a timely manner .

 

[james t kirk]

Don't communicate by text.

Email is bad. Text is even worse.

Pick up the hone and call so the other person can hear the intonation in your voice.

 

[thirdcup]

Also note that the internet never forgets. If you want to express how you really feel, then do it over the phone, or over coffee. Or write it down, then leave it for a few days, and then trash it. If you have to express yourself, do it in a way that will not make things worse for you.

 

[rhuarc29]

Fives dates and she ghosts you because of one bad joke? I'd move on just for that. That's pretty sensitive. Everyone puts their foot in their mouth occasionally.
If someone ghosts you, the only good choice is to move on. If she hasn't responded to you after several texts, and you apologizing, that's it. She might come back, she might not. But it's on her.

 

[rhuarc29]

Ghosting is not nice but we all do it . Sometimes you just don't want to deal with the situation at hand .

That's actually an interesting concept. Because I think you're right, in a manner of speaking. Even if you don't ghost someone, you can disconnect from them. Which can be just as bad, as you don't return their enthusiasm. Or don't ever reach out to them. And you're dismissive when they reach out to you.

 

[Smallcock]

I've never not been ghosted. After awhile it just seems normal.

 

[John Henry]

I've never not been ghosted. After awhile it just seems normal.

I'll agree with that . After a few times it's no big deal . It's expected these days . Just move on .

 

[John Henry]

That's actually an interesting concept. Because I think you're right, in a manner of speaking. Even if you don't ghost someone, you can disconnect from them. Which can be just as bad, as you don't return their enthusiasm. Or don't ever reach out to them. And you're dismissive when they reach out to you.

Sometimes it seems like you're the one that's always getting in touch with a person but that person never contacts you to start something . After a while I say to hell with that and don't bother with them anymore .

 

[Malibuk]

Just face reality and move on.

Would you feel better with an insincere, "It`s not you, it`s me"?

 

[riskybusiness]

Just recently happened to me...just don't send any more message and forget about them.

 

[thirdcup]

Yup. Their inaction is also a message.

 

[bandit2238]

Don't communicate by text.

Email is bad. Text is even worse.

Pick up the hone and call so the other person can hear the intonation in your voice.

Who answers calls anymore?

 

[feetastic]

Thank you all.

For the record, I prefer calling to texting but I feel it's an age thing. Younger people prefer texting unless absolutely necessary to chat.

I've moved on. It's just annoying as I haven't had something like this happen in a long time.

 

[james t kirk]

Who answers calls anymore?

I march to the best of a different drummer.

 

[underground]

Having a few drinks alone at home can unleash a texting tsunami. Many of us know the feeling the next morning, dreading looking at your phone when you wake up.