I would like to hear from providers their views on achieving full on real orgasms during a session with a client.
If you had your choice, is this something you would like to have happen for every session?
Or is it impracticable given the frequency of sexual encounters you have?
Or maybe it's not often possible given that often there is minimal emotional intimacy during these encounters.
I would love to hear your views.
Good Morning Terb!
Generally speaking, I shelf away my orgasms as bottom of priority for a session unless a client explicitly wishes for it and it would enhance his session, especially for 1hr sessions. The pressure is way too high for short sessions for me personally to have to worry about his orgasm(s) as well as mine, looking pretty, being a conversationalist, being a hostess, being mindful of the time. It isn't always do-able either depending on just the way the session goes and his personal sexual preferences. Personally, if I have too much penetrative stimulation first, I'm difficult to climax - the reverse works better with oral stimulation first. Rather than assuming a lady's preferred method of cumming, it would be wise to make it clear at the beginning of your session that it is important to you, or that you wish to focus on her orgasm, or to not have expectations of it happening at all. Often times clients are pounding away expecting an orgasm and I just don't cum from penetrative sex - as is true with many other women. Orgasms are also hella tiring and suck out your energy to do any other tasks, errands, administrative duties for the rest of your day after a session - naps tend to happen after orgasms for me, or else coffee is very much needed lol.
The worst is when a gent is going about the session with 15 mins remaining, turns to me and goes "did you cum". When I realize that's what he wants, it gives me anxiety to have to switch gears and is somewhat of a performing act and then I still have to worry about getting his orgasm in. I prefer not to fake, but of course this is a service and I can understand why girls would - I prefer to manage expectations and tell the client that next time we can focus on that and that I don't cum easily, which can perceived as true but in reality it needs planning and foresight. It can be really stressful and frustrating if a client persists because we don't want to go over the clock. Lesson - say so at beginning or early on in session.
Of course, sometimes it just happens naturally with certain gents and their method of pleasuring you can align exactly with how you prefer to be pleasured. For my sessions, I always try to create emotional intimacy and so that is hardly ever an issue there in terms of 'cum-ability'. If the emotional connection or level of respect is severely lacking I would pass on seeing a gent again, as it would neither please me emotionally nor physically to entertain him.
But it's all really individual - orgasms.