Post-cum depression?

[Danny46709394]

Is it just me or this happen to everyone? Before you meeting the lady, you feel all excited like a fat kid on toonies Tuesday, but once you finish, you have this feeling, this emptiness, this loneliness, almost depression feeling. Is like everything that happened were fake, is just an illusion. Everything the lady said or do is because you were the paying customer, and you start questioning about everything in real life. Did your coworker really meant what s/he said? Or s/he just saying that because s/he works with you. Did your friends really meant what they said? Or they said it because that's what they think I wanted to hear?

Maybe I am over thinking it, but I can't stop feeling this way and it is getting worst and worst. Is up to a point that I start to think this girl, who is a friend but not girlfriend yet, that I am kinda seeing would see me because of money or free food, but not because she likes me.

Is it just me or this happened to everyone?

 

[wazup]

Maybe you could ask her friend Jenny at recess to see if she likes you you......seriously there is some truth to what you're saying. One of my first trips to Thailand was 3 months, the first I was in a wonderland where I could fuck these young hotties with no emotional attachment. The second month I realized they couldn't wait to leave. The third month I was quite demoralized.

I am more hardened now but still get sad when some hottie fucks me silly and is off to the shower in the blink of an eye. I would say 100% of the girls wouldn't see us without us paying.

 

[jcpro]

I just feel sleepy.

 

[Smallcock]

I feel fantastic after cumming but when I look at my empty wallet, I feel foolish and sad. I could have used that money to buy groceries for a whole week, or donated it to charity for starving children, or bought my mom a birthday gift. Instead, my sexual needs have always come first and it's shameful.

But we are meant to feel these ways, and to contract painful STIs, because we are living in sin.

The way forward is obvious. Accept God into your heart. Attend church where you will meet other kind, caring, God-fearing females with whom you can start a meaningful life.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

These are the first signs to awakening. Embrace them because your are finally starting to wake up.

However be careful that it doesn’t lead you to a state of paranoia where you think everyone is fake and only out to use you for their benefit. Sometimes we fuck up nice friendship with negative and toxic thoughts especially if we were burned before.

You need to figure out your purpose and principles so it protects you once you do finally become aware of people’s true intentions around you despite the circumstances.

Also keep in mind that most likely you are not that important to them and are just there in their presence and they are just playing their role like the SP would to make you cum and feel important.

So see the interaction from your point of view, their point of view and the 3rd point of view observing your interactions with and without you bias. This will help you to figure out if they are fake or not.

For the SP industry their main goal is to make money and also have fun doing it. They are not into hooking up with clients because that interferes in their business goals. However making you believe that they dig you and that you are important and that they care what you have to say is part of the process that helps them develop repeat clients and just part of the business. Don’t take it personally this is why we pay so we don’t need to feel bad about people’s feelings being hurt when we close the door and forget about the interaction and just move on with our life.

For work usually most people like to separate their personal life from their business and will have two personalities. If their actions show you that they are trying you will be able to see, such as if they invite you to activities outside work however you also need to give your part and not just take and think it’s all about you.

Good friends are hard to come by however through their actions it will be quite evident if they are fake with you and just using you or actually care for you.

I always separate my friends and family from work and from my hobbies into the 3 silos and try not to cross too much. You need to work on all 3, investment your time and effort and observe each interaction that troubles you from at least 3 perspective.

Don’t take anything personal. Give more then you take however never allow anyone to take advantage. Be prepared for the worst case scenario such as you end up all alone in life and there is nobody to come to your funeral. Accept the worst case scenario and then figure out your core principles that will protect you if this ever happens.

Sometimes no matter how hard we try life needs to refine us and will make our life miserable. Just don’t take it personal and accept the universes has a path for you and be your self while just following along and staying true to your core.

 

[Grimnul]

Thank you for the sermon, Father Cock.

 

[luvyeah]

Anyone with a tidbit of self awareness can intially feel like this. You need to shift you thinking.
In the context of the hobbying world, it is best to assume everything is fake intially, because it often is.
She wants money and you want sex. It is a sevice, she is running a business with the sole purpose to maximize capital.
Which means getting you to return and or a tip.
However, some professionals, and that is why they are professionals, love what they do and are amazing at it.
The problem lies with being overly kind, and then being taken advantage of, but that risk always exists in any relationship.
You can never know someones motives easily 100%.

However, you need to give, in order to take.
Just be aware when it is your time to give what you have to lose and whether any kind gesture is really an investment.
Psychological forces are always at play in every human interaction it is just a question if you are aware and predicting plausible worst case scenarios while weighing them against plausible best case scenarios.

It is always a judgement and unfortuantely to protect yourself while allowing things to be organic there is no certanity.

You need to always try and take a step back every once and a while to look at the whole picture, which can be difficult to do if you are part of the story.

 

[mellowjello]

Is it just me or this happen to everyone? Before you meeting the lady, you feel all excited like a fat kid on toonies Tuesday, but once you finish, you have this feeling, this emptiness, this loneliness, almost depression feeling. Is like everything that happened were fake, is just an illusion. Everything the lady said or do is because you were the paying customer, and you start questioning about everything in real life. Did your coworker really meant what s/he said? Or s/he just saying that because s/he works with you. Did your friends really meant what they said? Or they said it because that's what they think I wanted to hear?

I would describe it as a post-encounter downer.
In my limited hook ups, I always have great connections and I leave a little wanting, empty, even with my civilian liaisons.
It doesn't overlap into my real life though.
That's just the price you pay for not feeling the long term trapped downer.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

LMFAO

Each time so feel foolish for dropping $300 on a session I head straight to McDonalds and stuff my face with a double Big Mac combo. This quickly takes may mind of the session and I start regretting putting that shit in my body start feeling nauseous and sick to my stomach and tell myself how stupid I am for eating that shit and how I will never do it again. Usually the nausea lasts for a few hours causing me to completely forget about the session.In a few days or few weeks I
forget about the whole experience and repeat the same sequence of events and emotions again and again to what feels like an infinite loop.

I feel fantastic after cumming but when I look at my empty wallet, I feel foolish and sad. I could have used that money to buy groceries for a whole week, or donated it to charity for starving children, or bought my mom a birthday gift. Instead, my sexual needs have always come first and it's shameful.

But we are meant to feel these ways, and to contract painful STIs, because we are living in sin.

The way forward is obvious. Accept God into your heart. Attend church where you will meet other kind, caring, God-fearing females with whom you can start a meaningful life.

 

[mellowjello]

LMFAO

Each time so feel foolish for dropping $300 on a session I head straight to McDonalds and stuff my face with a double Big Mac combo. This quickly takes may mind of the session and I start regretting putting that shit in my body start feeling nauseous and sick to my stomach and tell myself how stupid I am for eating that shit and how I will never do it again. Usually the nausea lasts for a few hours causing me to completely forget about the session.In a few days or few weeks I
forget about the whole experience and repeat the same sequence of events and emotions again and aging to what feels like an infinite loop.

This seems like a real contradiction to your whole philosophy of life as you've put out there.
Unless you're being sarcastic....

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

This seems like a real contradiction to your whole philosophy of life as you've put out there.
Unless you're being sarcastic....

Its a joke bro

Although, I did go through that sequence of events a few times so now just making fun of it.

 

[Smallcock]

Thank you for the sermon, Father Cock.

The only "services" one should be interested in, is church service on Sunday mornings. May God bless us all.

 

[luvyeah]

Its a joke bro

Although, I did go through that sequence of events a few times so now just making fun of it.

I'm sure many have gone through such a phase and could admit to something similar.
Lust and gluttony go hand in hand.

 

[Grimnul]

I did have some very nice service today. I’m not sure if it was holy water, but there certainly were some fluids involved.

 

[basketcase]

Combination of hormone dump and realisation of how much you just spent.

 

[mellowjello]

Its a joke bro

Although, I did go through that sequence of events a few times so now just making fun of it.

Thank god I added the disclaimer in my post.

 

[OnTheWayOut]

I used to be depressed post cum. Now I am ecstatic if I am able to cum!

 

[John Henry]

I'm always excited before I meet the lady . Riding high on the waves so to speak . Once the deed is done it doesn't matter how great of a time I've had I think of the money that was spent . Was it worth it . My wallet is now empty . I could have bought this or that or paid a few bills with that money . For a few days I feel really stupid .

I could have jerked off to a nice porn video and have the same results and saved that money . To tell you the truth , I've done that a few times . Jerked off and felt very happy that I saved that money . I guess I'm weird . LOL

Doesn't matter how great the girl looks or how great the time I had. Once the deed is done I feel really stupid for seeing her .

 

[Smallcock]

I'm always excited before I meet the lady . Riding high on the waves so to speak . Once the deed is done it doesn't matter how great of a time I've had I think of the money that was spent . Was it worth it . My wallet is now empty . I could have bought this or that or paid a few bills with that money . For a few days I feel really stupid .

I could have jerked off to a nice porn video and have the same results and saved that money . To tell you the truth , I've done that a few times . Jerked off and felt very happy that I saved that money . I guess I'm weird . LOL

Doesn't matter how great the girl looks or how great the time I had. Once the deed is done I feel really stupid for seeing her .

You're not weird. Your take is very normal.

 

[jcpro]

I'm always excited before I meet the lady . Riding high on the waves so to speak . Once the deed is done it doesn't matter how great of a time I've had I think of the money that was spent . Was it worth it . My wallet is now empty . I could have bought this or that or paid a few bills with that money . For a few days I feel really stupid .

I could have jerked off to a nice porn video and have the same results and saved that money . To tell you the truth , I've done that a few times . Jerked off and felt very happy that I saved that money . I guess I'm weird . LOL

Doesn't matter how great the girl looks or how great the time I had. Once the deed is done I feel really stupid for seeing her .

You know what your problem is? You don't know how to spend. What you do to avoid regrets is to put away 1k-2k\month(or more) aside for entertainment, fuck you money. As in- fuck you, I work hard, I deserve it. Doesn't have to be for sex. It can be a nice dinner or two, a weekend flight to Miami in winter. Whatever. But, here's the trick. Use it! After all you can't take it to your grave. After a while it becomes an entitlement and just another slice of the budget to be dealt with. Life's too short not to reward yourself and nobody else will.