don't listen to the jaded men on here who, by their comments, seem to have no clue what true love is like. it definitely exists
there are so many lovely, compassionate people in the world and it's really not that hard to find love when you are open to it. the guys who post the most on here are like the worst representative sample to ask about love. they've gotten way too used to the quick and easy route of paying for short-term companionship, and their view of women in general seem to be coloured by their experiences of bought romance. the men i know who may have paid for sex at times but are generally still able to sustain real relationships with women will be better people to talk to about love.
first of all, if you want to find love, you have to be a loveable person. it takes a lot of humbleness and openness. contrary to what this industry may have conditioned some men to believe, it does not take a lot of money. it does take some vulnerability and it also requires investment on both sides. you can usually tell early on whether someone is ready for commitment or not, and if they're not in the same space as you, you really should not be wasting your time. one of my best guy friends right now is one of the cutest, sweetest guys i know and he really wants to be in love with the right girl, but he keeps getting exploited by these wishy-washy, emotionally immature girls who are chasing after other (imo, less desirable, and less emotionally available) men while they keep using him for his emotional availability. don't be like him! find a girl who's worth the investment. there's a bazillion girls in this city. it's not like there's only 'one true love' out there for each person either. there's always opportunity for love to develop if two people are willing to put in the work to cultivate it.
love is amazing. and the best thing about it is that you're not limited to only loving one person at a time either. i believe that it's fully possible to be able to provide love to several people at once, if that's your thing, and everyone else is on board. these days, you can find a lot of people who are open to practicing ethical non-monogamy. it really feels like you can truly have it all in this life.