my mom told us she regretted having us and i don't blame her at all. we have an amazing relationship and i share everything with her and i know she loves me a lot - but she had to raise me and my sister pretty much single-handedly while my dad was off getting his business off the ground and travelling back between china and canada. and then he ended up leaving her anyway. and i know i did not make it easy for her, being as rebellious as i was in my tweens and teens. and my sister is still a total bitch to her to this day. she sacrificed so much for us when she could have been off living her life to the fullest.
kids are definitely overrated - there are so many other ways to find fulfillment in life. i'm sure it's difficult for some people to imagine what life would be like without their kids but that's only because they exist and you've already formed a bond with them. but if you never have them in the first place, you have nothing to regret.
i have zero desire to bring kids into this world so i can't really understand other peoples' need to do so. i think it's probably driven by self-interest, like everything else - a selfish, perhaps biologically-driven desire to replicate your own genes. my good friend is trying to have a kid with her husband and she just had a second miscarriage, and i feel really bad for her cuz i know she really wants one. and i think it would be fun to come over and play with her baby once she has one. but that's about it. just the idea of a foreign being growing inside my body makes me feel weird. and then having to push it out thru my vagina?? if it was men who had to get pregnant and be burdened down for nine months, maybe i'd be more amenable to the idea.
kids are definitely overrated - there are so many other ways to find fulfillment in life. i'm sure it's difficult for some people to imagine what life would be like without their kids but that's only because they exist and you've already formed a bond with them. but if you never have them in the first place, you have nothing to regret.
i have zero desire to bring kids into this world so i can't really understand other peoples' need to do so. i think it's probably driven by self-interest, like everything else - a selfish, perhaps biologically-driven desire to replicate your own genes. my good friend is trying to have a kid with her husband and she just had a second miscarriage, and i feel really bad for her cuz i know she really wants one. and i think it would be fun to come over and play with her baby once she has one. but that's about it. just the idea of a foreign being growing inside my body makes me feel weird. and then having to push it out thru my vagina?? if it was men who had to get pregnant and be burdened down for nine months, maybe i'd be more amenable to the idea.