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Don Draper

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The main thing always:

Be Cool. Be Calm. Be Confident!!!

This is the Holy Trinity of Attraction. Women are absolutely attracted to a confident man.​
 
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Big Rig

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Don Draper said:
The main thing always:

Be Cool. Be Calm. Be Confident!!!

This is the Holy Trinity of Attraction. Women are absolutely attracted to a confident man.​
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I can't decide if your persona is real, but that is of small concern. Your insight into music is real and so is your advice on women.

If you are having difficulty being confident approaching women - then don't! as it will just make you feel bad when you screw it up - as Draper is correct about females wanting a confident man.

To overcome confidence issues start small. Do you have no confidence approaching a 10? You are in a big club.

Approach less attractive women to gain confidence. They are the same under the skin. I used to have this issue now I look back at how stupid my anxiety was. Treat them exactly like everyone else. Beautiful people are often lonely because they seem unapproachable. I have seen socially confident people fold when talking to a 10. Such anxieties, while real, are foolish. If you cannot cold approach women (approach for no reason other than to meet), then look for reasons IE advice in supemarket, directions, saleswomen are often very attractive and are required to respond warmly so approach them with a question


The bad news is you will meet rejection . No way around it. So you have to learn to handle it. Not all of the babes you lust for will reciprocate. I look for signals of interest before a serious approach, but even then I get rebuffed.

The good news is you can, indeed must, learn to let rejection slide by. Think about it. She does not know you, so why take rejection personally? The sword cuts both ways as I have rejected some females as most guys have. Not everyone is interested in everyone who is interested in them. No surprise there.

In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

You will strike out sometimes, but if you never swing you will never hit the ball.


C'est la vie.
 
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bmwquay said:
No need to apologize but thanks for doing so. I suppose I misunderstood. You did know it was a funny and in response you were piling on your own funny so good on you.
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No worries bmwquay! I was never very good in telling jokes anyway :very_drunk:
 
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frankcastle

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Don Draper said:
The main thing always:

Be Cool. Be Calm. Be Confident!!!

This is the Holy Trinity of Attraction. Women are absolutely attracted to a confident man.​
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Agreed. This is why I feel location doesn't matter if you don't have game to begin with. If you haven't done your best to look good and act with confidence (but not cockiness) then don't worry about location.
 
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Big Rig said:
I can't decide if your persona is real, but that is of small concern. Your insight into music is real and so is your advice on women.

If you are having difficulty being confident approaching women - then don't! as it will just make you feel bad when you screw it up - as Draper is correct about females wanting a confident man.

To overcome confidence issues start small. Do you have no confidence approaching a 10? You are in a big club.

Approach less attractive women to gain confidence. They are the same under the skin. I used to have this issue now I look back at how stupid my anxiety was. Treat them exactly like everyone else. Beautiful people are often lonely because they seem unapproachable. I have seen socially confident people fold when talking to a 10. Such anxieties, while real, are foolish. If you cannot cold approach women (approach for no reason other than to meet), then look for reasons IE advice in supemarket, directions, saleswomen are often very attractive and are required to respond warmly so approach them with a question


The bad news is you will meet rejection . No way around it. So you have to learn to handle it. Not all of the babes you lust for will reciprocate. I look for signals of interest before a serious approach, but even then I get rebuffed.

The good news is you can, indeed must, learn to let rejection slide by. Think about it. She does not know you, so why take rejection personally? The sword cuts both ways as I have rejected some females as most guys have. Not everyone is interested in everyone who is interested in them. No surprise there.

In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

You will strike out sometimes, but if you never swing you will never hit the ball.


C'est la vie.
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All true. Facing rejection is Still hard in practice and reality for some. It’s hard not to give a fuck with a girl you like, because if you like her, you care on some level.
 
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Don Draper

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likwid said:
All true. Facing rejection is Still hard in practice and reality for some. It’s hard not to give a fuck with a girl you like, because if you like her, you care on some level.
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The point is: you shouldn't care if she doesn't.

She doesn't know you, she will never know you so that's her loss. If you approached her with interest and potential affection then it's HER loss for not accepting it. Don't take something personal where there will never be anything.

Move on and someone will want your affection. I speak from experience so believe me.
 
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I used to think it was hopeless meeting a civvie, perhaps spending too much time and money on this hobby really shot my confidence cuz I was stuck in fantasy land. But I cold turkey stopped mid September when I finally met a real girl with real interest in me and discovered how much I really missed that old feeling and I started to focus on meeting other "real" girls as well.

So I would say the #1 thing you need to pick up is of course having confidence and the way I achieved that for myself (and how maybe others can achieve it for themselves as well) was by stopping this hobby. I would use this hobby as a quick fix to solve my loneliness, but it really killed my wallet and more importantly my psyche. It was a vicious cycle.

It's not all easy...I think I went through the 7th circle of hell going on my first date after like maybe 2 years this past October. There's a lot of road bumps and BS but I guess its part of the game. It's frustrating but I would rather spend time with a real woman who has a shred of interest of me, than deal with the paid ladies.
 
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Zoot Allures

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lexicon4u said:
I used to think it was hopeless meeting a civvie, perhaps spending too much time and money on this hobby really shot my confidence cuz I was stuck in fantasy land. But I cold turkey stopped mid September when I finally met a real girl with real interest in me and discovered how much I really missed that old feeling and I started to focus on meeting other "real" girls as well.

So I would say the #1 thing you need to pick up is of course having confidence and the way I achieved that for myself (and how maybe others can achieve it for themselves as well) was by stopping this hobby. I would use this hobby as a quick fix to solve my loneliness, but it really killed my wallet and more importantly my psyche. It was a vicious cycle.

It's not all easy...I think I went through the 7th circle of hell going on my first date after like maybe 2 years this past October. There's a lot of road bumps and BS but I guess its part of the game. It's frustrating but I would rather spend time with a real woman who has a shred of interest of me, than deal with the paid ladies.
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Interesting. I would think this hobby is actually constructive for someone in your shoes as you meet lots of females get needed touch and sex relief. You view it as a bad addiction. I guess it is what you make of it.
 
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Don Draper

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lexicon4u said:
It's frustrating but I would rather spend time with a real woman who has a shred of interest of me, than deal with the paid ladies.
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Good for you, lexicon. Bravo!

Reality and truth will always win out over this delusional hobby. A woman who is emotionally available to you is the ultimate goal. She makes Love to you from affection, not because you're paying her.

Don't get me wrong, the hobby can be fun. 2 or 3 times a year with some cute, young thing, there's nothing wrong with that.

It's just will never win over a woman to whom you are her top priority.
 
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Big Rig

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I think this hobby is an addiction to those who drop up to five, or even six figures, a year on it. A genuine destructive hobby if you use it as a substitute for a real relationship.

I use it occasionally on the road as that is my desire but not my crutch. Hobby is best used to satisfy needs while seeking a relationship, or the occasional brief dalliance among Wordsworth's daffodils for discovery, but not meant to be a substitute for the real thing.

To me "daffodils" conjures SPs or MPAs

"For oft, when on my couch I lie
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils."
 
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