Etiquette- Paying before service?

[Micber]

good experience I have had with sp never touch the money put on the desk

Bad experience sp always ask/count the money first

Txt message about services provided sometimes become extras when money is exchanged first.

my question to sp and experience hobbist, how do you handle the first exchange of $ for services? It is often an awkward moment.

 

[TFZL1]

Always pay first. Never awkward as it’s always agreed to first.

If she doesn’t get paid upfront, then it would be very awkward. With a regular a forgot to pay up front a couple times. She told me she’d rather get the money out of the way first.
A different regular will never look at or touch the money till the end. To her it’s a distraction and she’s so into the session.

 

[massman]

Leave the donation in plain view. Some leave in envelope, I just leave it there on the desk/dresser/bedside table. In general if an so knows the guy has the cash and is not going to stiff them (lol that was punny), or try to lowball them on payment after the session, everything goes more smoothly. Some count, some don’t. Don’t be offended by counting. If she knows you’ve got the full donation, comfort level increases and at least in my experience, comfort increases the experience significantly. Furthermore, a few times she has pointed out that I left too much.

( Exception - With some regulars you know well, when the session starts with her lips on yours as soon as you walk in, of course it would be ungentalmanly to stop kissing and produce the donation)

 

[mrcheeks]

Pay first. A good time to do it is hand her the envelope right before you go to shower. That provides her an opportunity to check the donation while she is waiting for you to come out. I had a few SPs act reluctant/polite and not take the envelope when I give it directly to them. So then I just place the envelope on the bed or side table. Or the SP will just direct you where to put the envelope in the room. Both parties know why they are there anyways.

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

Within the first minute the donation goes on the table/desk. I leave it fanned out except if it is my saved up lunch money, hence smaller bills, request the SP to count it. In 13 years I have had one SP refuse payment until the deed was done as she stated she wanted me to be satisfied (and fuck was I ever!).

 

[Bellasquats]

I personally appreciate it upfront, that way it doesn't have to be a further thought.. There's been a few times where I've been so into a session, the client has walked without paying and it became a hassle for them to get the money to me and I felt really bad. I trust the gentlemen that come see me, especially my regulars... but it just takes away that thought or possibility of someone walking away.

XOXO

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

I'm with you, I am afraid of this happening because I am so absent minded or in a daze from the beauty I was just with.

I personally appreciate it upfront, that way it doesn't have to be a further thought.. There's been a few times where I've been so into a session, the client has walked without paying and it became a hassle for them to get the money to me and I felt really bad. I trust the gentlemen that come see me, especially my regulars... but it just takes away that thought or possibility of someone walking away.

XOXO

 

[xmontrealer]

I always pay SP's up front before the shower, except for the odd time when I have forgotten due to my "Craft" disease (Can't remember a fucking thing!). That sometimes happens when we get involved in conversation right away. Usually I then remember to pay at the end of the session.

Twice in my life I have totally forgotten to give the donation and actually left before realizing it. Once the agency texted me to remind me and I rushed back. The other time I realized as soon as I got in my car and again rushed back to pay. A couple of times I tipped the SP $20 or so as I was leaving, only to have them ask if that was supposed to be my donation? Of course I made an excuse about my "early Alzheimer's" and blushingly gave them the proper donation apart from the tip.

This has also happened to me at spas where the MPA's portion is paid directly to them at the end of the session, if we are so involved in conversation as I am leaving that I forget to pay. Of course the MPA will gently remind me before I am gone. Generally if it is a girl I see often in that kind of spa (eg. the b-chain) I just put her portion on a table or shelf in plain sight in the room at the start to prevent forgetting to pay at the end.

My advice: stay young and sharp!

 

[rhuarc29]

First encounter is always a "pay upfront" type deal. Usually set the envelope on a side table and hop in the shower, giving her plenty of time to count it. Once you establish some trust, it becomes less of an issue.

Heck, I feel bad when I forget to leave a tip. I'd feel downright horrible if I forgot to pay entirely after a session!

 

[Frontstreet]

Upfront visibly in an envelope on the desk/side table; hop in the shower, this gives her time to discreetly count it, works seamlessly.

 

[kherg007]

Upfront visibly in an envelope on the desk/side table; hop in the shower, this gives her time to discreetly count it, works seamlessly.

Totally agree with this. As also stated above, one less thing for her to worry about (i.e., is he the type to run out?). You may know you are honourable, but she doesn't. The more steps you take to give her confidence the more comfortable she'll be to provide you her best.