Have you ever faced a burn out and how did you get rid of it ?

[GreyHatGuy]

Hi,

I have been around in the forum for few months but never posted too much.

I have been doing the hobby on/off since last 2.5 years. But in last 1 week, I went to couple of service providers and have not been able to reach climax. I would start off well in the session, kissing , blowjob etc would me hard but after couple of minutes, I would just lose interest and things would go downhill from there. This time , I rushed into mish faster but with the same problem. After couple of minutes of banging , I would lose interest.

Do you guys think is it due to my excessive hobby (4-5 times per month) or something else ? I always do regular sex but deep down I always want to be dominant but never felt good enough connection with any provider to initiate that conversation. Thus, when this burn out happen 2nd time in 1 week, I started to experiment. I started dick slapping during our bbbj session and it made me hard again. I put the condom on quickly and went to doggy position. However, again after couple of minutes, things started going downhill.

I have never faced a problem like this before. In fact, few months ago, I would cum very fast if I don't masturbate couple of hours before the session starts.

I masturbate regularly (almost daily or every other day) and everything is fine in that section. The only solution I am thinking is to not fap for maybe a week and go for the session.

Any other tips is highly appreciated.

Update : (27th May)

It has been really difficult to reduce the masturbation frequency drastically. However, I am now currently at 2 times per week (down from 4-5 times per week).

I also went today to meet new SP after 3 weeks and was able to hold erection and get orgasm. Thus, I think my interest in sex is coming back now.

I will try reducing my masturbation frequency to 1 time per week and keep track of any improvements.

 

[yermama]

I masturbate regularly (almost daily or every other day)

There is your problem. I assume you combine that with many hours of porn?

Personally, I am tired of paying for disappointment. During my last appointment, I could not stay hard because the girl was not attractive. Previously, I would have no problem with that even when the girl was not attractive.

 

[frankcastle]

If you are able to masterbate without any problems then it sounds like what you have might be psychological.

Or is it possible that your body has become accustomed to masturbation to the point where FS doesn't work well. What if the lady tries bj/hj to get you off?

Do you feel guilty for what you are doing?

I think your curiosity in dominance is secondary issue but also worth exploring. Check out the BDSM section if you are curious about it.

Take a break and see what happens.

 

[IRIS]

Usually too much porn can cause this "limping mode", specially if you watch too much dominant-submissive porn. You just loose interest about regular sex and you need more. I don't know your case, but maybe too much masturbation with porn is the problem. Stop it!

 

[lomotil]

Hi,

I have been around in the forum for few months but never posted too much.

I have been doing the hobby on/off since last 2.5 years. But in last 1 week, I went to couple of service providers and have not been able to reach climax. I would start off well in the session, kissing , blowjob etc would me hard but after couple of minutes, I would just lose interest and things would go downhill from there. This time , I rushed into mish faster but with the same problem. After couple of minutes of banging , I would lose interest.

Do you guys think is it due to my excessive hobby (4-5 times per month) or something else ? I always do regular sex but deep down I always want to be dominant but never felt good enough connection with any provider to initiate that conversation. Thus, when this burn out happen 2nd time in 1 week, I started to experiment. I started dick slapping during our bbbj session and it made me hard again. I put the condom on quickly and went to doggy position. However, again after couple of minutes, things started going downhill.

I have never faced a problem like this before. In fact, few months ago, I would cum very fast if I don't masturbate couple of hours before the session starts.

I masturbate regularly (almost daily or every other day) and everything is fine in that section. The only solution I am thinking is to not fap for maybe a week and go for the session.

Any other tips is highly appreciated.

Try not jerking off for about two weeks, then hit the paid circuit again.

 

[Smallcock]

Never been able to shake it. It's just a way of life for me.

 

[GreyHatGuy]

Thank you everyone for the replies. I have decided to reduce my masturbation frequency from 4-5 times per week to 1 time per week. Hopefully, this will help.

 

[Johnny Utah]

Thank you everyone for the replies. I have decided to reduce my masturbation frequency from 4-5 times per week to 1 time per week. Hopefully, this will help.

It’s amazing when you meet somebody new and just connect. I suggest cutting down and then trying something new with an old favourite or a new favourite. Be open minded and don’t focus on the finish but the overall xperience.

 

[likwid]

Try not jerking off for about two weeks, then hit the paid circuit again.

Yes, exactly my advice. Too much jerking

 

[Occasionally]

You see SPs 4-5 times per month? And also masturbate 4-5 times per week? So basically, it's an everyday event. That's overload to me. Not just the money issue (SP part), but the experience of seeing an SP for me is about having fun with someone occasionally and not treating it like a weekly duty.

I see someone about once every two months. Last time I saw someone was early March. I'll probably call someone for later this month though.

 

[cuddler]

Try not jerking off for about two weeks, then hit the paid circuit again.

Does it really reset? I've done a week and haven't felt any different.

 

[yermama]

Does it really reset? I've done a week and haven't felt any different.

Need at least a few months to go back to "normal" after years of masturbation and porn.

 

[Platon]

Your daily masturbation is your problem. Let me guess that you do that while/after watching some hard core porn, am I right? If so then that's your problem. Stop fapping, in fact go without sex for 2-3 weeks or longer. Basically, the longer the better. Your brain and your body are tiered of the same type of stimuli over and over again and need rest. Don't go into more hard core sessions or more hard core porn as that will not do you good. So just take a break (maybe be extremely hard to do though).

 

[Powpow]

I have gone through this cycle about 15 years ago. The people on this thread have good advice.

I found that after a month of so of not looking for hardcore porn to masturbate too, things improved immensely. Now if i partake in solo action, I go by my own imagination and if I really need some visual stimulation a quick search on playboy playmates or swimsuit pictures usually do it for me. It was such an improvement in my sex life that I definitely don't regret it.

You can also look up the term "death grip". You'll see lots of people have conditioned themselves to get used to a firmer grip.

 

[cuddler]

Sounds like the only REAL solution is to get a girlfriend lol, I don't think holding off for weeks is the answer but using a fleshlight or similar instead of your hand.

 

[GreyHatGuy]

It’s amazing when you meet somebody new and just connect. I suggest cutting down and then trying something new with an old favourite or a new favourite. Be open minded and don’t focus on the finish but the overall xperience.

Yes, exactly my advice. Too much jerking

You see SPs 4-5 times per month? And also masturbate 4-5 times per week? So basically, it's an everyday event. That's overload to me. Not just the money issue (SP part), but the experience of seeing an SP for me is about having fun with someone occasionally and not treating it like a weekly duty.

I see someone about once every two months. Last time I saw someone was early March. I'll probably call someone for later this month though.

Does it really reset? I've done a week and haven't felt any different.

Need at least a few months to go back to "normal" after years of masturbation and porn.

Your daily masturbation is your problem. Let me guess that you do that while/after watching some hard core porn, am I right? If so then that's your problem. Stop fapping, in fact go without sex for 2-3 weeks or longer. Basically, the longer the better. Your brain and your body are tiered of the same type of stimuli over and over again and need rest. Don't go into more hard core sessions or more hard core porn as that will not do you good. So just take a break (maybe be extremely hard to do though).

I have gone through this cycle about 15 years ago. The people on this thread have good advice.

I found that after a month of so of not looking for hardcore porn to masturbate too, things improved immensely. Now if i partake in solo action, I go by my own imagination and if I really need some visual stimulation a quick search on playboy playmates or swimsuit pictures usually do it for me. It was such an improvement in my sex life that I definitely don't regret it.

You can also look up the term "death grip". You'll see lots of people have conditioned themselves to get used to a firmer grip.

Sounds like the only REAL solution is to get a girlfriend lol, I don't think holding off for weeks is the answer but using a fleshlight or similar instead of your hand.

Thank you for all the replies. I am following everyone's advise and currently on a strict "no fap / porn" plan as long as possible. It has just been 3 days which is not that much but at-least a start.

 

[GreyHatGuy]

Update :

It has been really difficult to reduce the masturbation frequency drastically. However, I am now currently at 2 times per week (down from 4-5 times per week).

I also went today to meet new SP after 3 weeks and was able to hold erection and get orgasm. Thus, I think my interest in sex is coming back now.

I will try reducing my masturbation frequency to 1 time per week and keep track of any improvements.

 

[Powpow]

Thanks for the update. I wish you well!

 

[Goodoer]

Jerk off only one time per week?! I could not do it! I'm still at the 2x per day minimum or else I can't focus or function at work... I rarely finish with my SO - on the rare occasion she wants to have sex... SPs have at least brought the 'finishing' back to my life. I'd say they've also helped me bring the time down as I could pound away forever. Now, if I concentrate, I can wrap it up more quickly when I have split.

As a young man, I'd have sex, cum, say goodnight and be jerking off 20 minutes later when I got home.

I will follow this thread and heed some of the advice offered though.

 

[renuck]

Update :

It has been really difficult to reduce the masturbation frequency drastically. However, I am now currently at 2 times per week (down from 4-5 times per week).

I also went today to meet new SP after 3 weeks and was able to hold erection and get orgasm. Thus, I think my interest in sex is coming back now.

I will try reducing my masturbation frequency to 1 time per week and keep track of any improvements.

Glad to hear you are getting it figured out. One thing I thought I'd mention just in case, is don't get yourself into a situation where you are trying to hard to finish. I got myself into this mental cycle and went quite a few sessions of not being able to finish. Now that I know what the problem is I don't have this issue nearly as often but the odd time I still have a little difficulty.

Good luck!