If I failed to make it clear that I was looking for an explanation, fair enough - I apologize. And when I say outcall I assume the person's condo or a hotel booked by the client, not the SP. That was not clear either. I was not thinking about the cases where the SP has booked the hotel. But I was not making the firm judgement that an outcall wasn't safer.
Yes, that is an outcall. You are correct in that assumption. SP booking the hotel would be an incall. The only reason that makes a difference is a guy would have to give his ID, so confirmation of real name is made that way. The condo would also have his ID and information. It adds a level of security because it ensures real info was given.
You were not making a judgment that one was safer, you made a blanket statement that suggested both were equal in their safety risks.
You make some valid points - there are some questions that perhaps shouldn't be asked. And yes, I am very curious and I can go overboard. But I am of the mind that any question can be asked. It doesn't mean it will be answered, and be prepared for the consequences.
And here we will disagree. There are questions you just don't ask. You are right that you will not always get an answer, but yes there are questions you should not ask or else you are seen as rude, pushy, overwhelming, noisy, fishing, etc. Some people already feel this way about you. It would go along way in changing that if you thought about some of these things beforehand. Not everyone wants to or should have to put up with you going overboard. You should be making an attempted not to go overboard. There are boundaries for a reason.
In this case, I just wanted to know how an outcall was safer. CE (my "favorite") brought up an incident where she went to dinner with a guy, then went back to his hotel room, and things went bad. So I don't think I'm totally wrong in thinking bad things can also happen in an outcall situation, which is why I didn't understand why a lady would say no to incall but yes to outcall. I was also not interested in a detailed breakdown of every possible security measure a lady can/will take. And I don't think anyone is stupid for doing outcall but not incall so point (b) is a hell of a stretch.
Two points here
1. it is an unattractive trait when you keep calling CE your favourite when knowing the past between you. That just comes off as a dig for no reasons. You have done this twice now in the past couple of days and she has not even been posting.
2. I never said you were wrong in your thinking. I am not saying that at all. I am strictly talking about the reasons behind the words and how those words affect your posting and standing in this community.
Another lady gave a simple answer and that was fine - it was all I was looking for. I sent you a PM and mentioned that I really don't care about specifics and I would never put a lady in position where she needed to use them. And while I have no interest in specifics, think about this - on one hand by discussing security measures there might be a fellow or two who may use that to his advantage. But on the other hand, I'm sure info like this might also dissuade some guys who think an outcall is not protected from trying anything.
Again, didn't mean to offend, didn't mean to step on toes - sorry for that.
You are right that it can go both ways, so what? For the couple of guys that may use it or a couple of guys that may be deterred, what does that have to do with you and your reasons for posting? And why do you get to decide which would be more important? Should it not be for the escort to decide? So when you are asking about SP policy, I just think the fair thing to do is ask yourself first if your curiosity is more important than her right to privacy on that topic.
And then I have to ask, why not go ask others all about their business practices and policies, and setups? Do you ask your lawyer or dentist or whatever, why their rates are what they are? Seriously, do you not feel or see at all how all of these questions and curiosities over all these months on TERB, can be seen by others an intrusive? You are not going to be an escort, so why the need for all the questions in the first place? Detailed answers or not.
Again, some areas I am trying to point out for you. You keep wanting to debate the outcall/incall but I am not talking about that at all. I am strictly speaking of your choices reagarding statements, comments, questions etc. Honestly, no different then when I asked Jeffery93 why he posts with such negativity. I am not talking about this individual thread, I am trying to open your mind about HOW you post and HOW that comes across to others.
I hope that makes it more clear, but if not, I don't want to continue to waste these threads explaining it.