Did you go with a SP? If you went with a SO how did you go about talking her into it?
I've been to Wicked and Oasis with my SO many times. You can't simply talk your SO into going. You can ask her if she's ever considered going and take it from there. But first you need to know what your swingers club goals are? What do you want to happen when you go with her?
Some things to consider before you broach the subject:
- Does your SO watch porn or open to watching?
- Has a swingers club ever come up in conversation?
- Would she like to watch others have sex?
- Would she like others to watch you two have sex?
- Have you ever talked about MFM, FMF threesomes or group sex?
- How open-minded is your wife?
- Is your wife bi or bi-curious?
I would bring up a couple points next time you've got her all hot and horny. You could say a friend told you he and his wife like to go to (pick club of your choice). See what kind of reaction you get from her. Key is to start off slow and let her feel she is making any decisions. If you choose a place like Oasis, you can check out their website together and review the FAQs. Since they have a hot tub and an outdoor pool, that may be a plus over other clubs.
Thing to remember is you don't have to have sex in these places. You can just chill, have a drink and at a place like Oasis, jump in the hot tub, sauna or pool. Some girls wander around wearing bikini bottoms and a towel on top, others are completely nude.
Anyway, hope this helps. Good luck on your adventure.