Definition of ideal client?

[Tempted Monk]

It is a question to Ladies (and maybe to Gentlemen as well).
What is your definition of ideal client?

There are several threads with the discussions how to be a good client, what to do or not to do for this. And most of discussed qualities (like being on time, being polite, respectful etc...) are obvious qualities of normal business client who is interested in the business deal. But escorting is very personalized area, being polite and respectful is not enough for being attractive and expected to return. I ask you to look from this "personalized" point of view.

I asked this question one girl several years ago. Her answer was: "It is easy. The ideal client is the guy with whom I would get intimate in the real life, outside the business".
Do you agree with such definition?

 

[Scarey]

Leaves the money. Walks out the door..........doesn't come back

 

[Caelus]

I asked this question one girl several years ago. Her answer was: "It is easy. The ideal client is the guy with whom I would get intimate in the real life, outside the business".
Do you agree with such definition?

I can't believe any pro would say such a thing... most of girls in this industry are not in this to find a S.O and would never want to mix personal and pro lives. This is a business and a source of income... not speed dating.

Leaves the money. Walks out the door..........doesn't come back

+1 LOLL

 

[bazokajoe]

I can't believe any pro would say such a thing... most of girls in this industry are not in this to find a S.O and would never want to mix personal and pro lives. This is a business and a source of income... not speed dating.



+1 LOLL

agreed. But lets face it,its all about the $$$$$$$$

 

[Mr Deeds]

Clean, Quick, and leaves a good tip

 

[sweetiepieexo]

For me an ideal client is someone who

1.) is respectful to me before during and after the session
2.) doesn't negotiate or haggle my prices and just comes prepared with the correct donation amount
3.) is hygienically groomed and punctual for our appointment
4.) is an overall gentleman

Sps and clients should not have the same intimate relationships outside of the "business" aspect of escorting.. I have had many situations with different regulars who thought I was such a "down to earth chick" and became emotionally attached.. eventually arguments break out because they forget about the business aspect and think that you guys are now " friends" ; so unfortunately for me I had to tell them I couldn't see them anymore.

 

[oil&gas]

And most of discussed qualities (like being on time, being polite, respectful etc...) are obvious qualities of normal business client who is interested in the business deal. But escorting is very personalized area, being polite and respectful is not enough for being attractive and expected to return. I ask you to look from this "personalized" point of view.

Being gullible is a very desirable quality from the perspective
of a SP (or a mistress or sugar baby).

 

[The Miracle]

For me an ideal client is someone who

1.) is respectful to me before during and after the session
2.) doesn't negotiate or haggle my prices and just comes prepared with the correct donation amount
3.) is hygienically groomed and punctual for our appointment
4.) is an overall gentleman

Sps and clients should not have the same intimate relationships outside of the "business" aspect of escorting.. I have had many situations with different regulars who thought I was such a "down to earth chick" and became emotionally attached.. eventually arguments break out because they forget about the business aspect and think that you guys are now " friends" ; so unfortunately for me I had to tell them I couldn't see them anymore.

"Emotionally attached" is the key word. I can agree that the "down to earth" ladies I have seen make it so hard for me to differentiate fantasy and reality sometimes.

But back to the the OP's question: 1) Be clear and forthright with the LADY you are trying to book 2) Be at the predetermined rendezvous on time and be somewhat of a clockwatcher so you don't go over time 3) Have good hygiene 4) Respect the boundaries of the lady, as she respects yours

 

[Conway_Stewart]

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I asked this question one girl several years ago. Her answer was: "It is easy. The ideal client is the guy with whom I would get intimate in the real life, outside the business".
Do you agree with such definition?

I was surprised to read this tbh as that sounds like the worst of all clients. It's just asking for trouble. It's inevitably gonna lead to bad feelings, misunderstandings, etc.

I've met many sp's whose company I genuinely enjoy; I've even become friends with a couple. But there's always a boundary there that doesn't get crossed around dating, emotional attachment, etc. It just has to be that way.

 

[WULA]

I asked this question one girl several years ago. Her answer was: "It is easy. The ideal client is the guy with whom I would get intimate in the real life, outside the business".
Do you agree with such definition?[/QUOTE]


I completely agree with the Monk's girl. She is talking about IDEAL ...not a good client, not a great client, not even the best 1.0% of clients. She is talking about the concept of ideal, not reality.

Being on time, clean and polite is not the differentiator to being IDEAL.

Monk is asking about a "personalized" point of view.

To me, an ideal connection is with someone that really turns you on, has an understanding of your personal complexity and that you would like to hang out with. Someone that has the values and qualities to be a life long friend whether you are still sleeping with them or not. Someone that whether they are in or out of the business OR gets married OR gets rich OR gets sick, is someone that you think you will know for the rest of your life.

To me that is ideal, ideally, as long as it is effortless. I have met some escorts that I feel or have felt this about. This city is blessed to have many incredible fabulous escorts who are smart, strong, hot and independent ....and I think ideal is out there - just rare and never really effortless. Like all wonderful things in life, they generally do take some work to receive them.

And I do like it when all the others are on time, clean and polite. And hot !!!

 

[sweetiepieexo]

In this industry it is dangerous and not healthy for clients and sps/ mpas to have "personalized" relationships with their clients... Clients sometimes forget a sp is an sp and wants to keep her all to himself all while forgetting that this is her line of work and how she makes her income. Ive had several guys say " oh ill be your bf and take care of you and youll never have to work again" but who wants that? I know I don't want to be dependent on someone else my whole life.. If I did I would be living with my mom lol.

You can still get "turned on" by clients without having "personal" relations with the client/sp. Its a difference to be a regular and be a friend then being like "oh why do u do this? " . What people fail to understand and I say this all the time is , its easy to judge when you are on the outside looking in.. I have had tons of regulars who I let be my "friends" and then they would ask for things I didn't do or would want me to stop working so they can "take care of me" but once they realized that's not what I wanted attitudes changed and I could no longer see them..

You can still be effortless without getting "personal". Whenever I see my regulars its an effortless performance because I know them already. To me an ideal client is definetly someone who is polite, SOMEWHAT attractive ( looks ARENT everything people! ) , and who is clean and on time. It should NEVER get to the point of liking a client or sp. Ive heard of only ONE good story that came out good between a client and sp. It may not be effortless on the first two dates but they always say third time is a charm.

That's just my opinion..

 

[Born2Star]

Ive had several guys say " oh ill be your bf and take care of you and youll never have to work again" but who wants that?

This is exactly the problem. Guys are by nature dominating and wanting to own the relationship that way. We need to understand being respectful includes respecting her boundary and allowing people to do whatever they want. This applies to real life relationship and how we treat everyone we meet in life. An ideal client/person is about being considerate and think more about the others need, a lot of time people are just thinking about themselves rather than anything that's mutual.

 

[gww]

Leaves the money. Walks out the door..........doesn't come back

Leaves the money. Walks out the door.... and comes back once a week to repeat the same (or once a day).

 

[checks]

A two pump chump with a millimetre Peter.

 

[Brill]

but not realistic to expect that most clients would be someone you'd see outside of work.

Agree, not realistic but we're talking about a fantasy ideal client. Why not hope for meeting a great guy you really click with?

 

[TFZL1]

I try to be a good client, but I've never expected to anyone's Ideal client.
The ideal session for me is when a lady makes me feel wanted and appreciated. If she makes me feel sexy I'll treat her like a princess. I'm starved for affection, so if a lady is very affectionate, I'll go all out, repeating again and again.
With some SP's I like the social dates as well as sex, dinners, movies, concerts, even shopping.
But if she makes me feel like her personal ATM, the bank will close.

 

[Tempted Monk]

In this industry it is dangerous and not healthy for clients and sps/ mpas to have "personalized" relationships with their clients... Clients sometimes forget a sp is an sp and wants to keep her all to himself all while forgetting that this is her line of work and how she makes her income. Ive had several guys say " oh ill be your bf and take care of you and youll never have to work again" but who wants that? I know I don't want to be dependent on someone else my whole life.. If I did I would be living with my mom lol.

You can still get "turned on" by clients without having "personal" relations with the client/sp. Its a difference to be a regular and be a friend then being like "oh why do u do this? " . What people fail to understand and I say this all the time is , its easy to judge when you are on the outside looking in.. I have had tons of regulars who I let be my "friends" and then they would ask for things I didn't do or would want me to stop working so they can "take care of me" but once they realized that's not what I wanted attitudes changed and I could no longer see them..

You can still be effortless without getting "personal". Whenever I see my regulars its an effortless performance because I know them already. To me an ideal client is definetly someone who is polite, SOMEWHAT attractive ( looks ARENT everything people! ) , and who is clean and on time. It should NEVER get to the point of liking a client or sp. Ive heard of only ONE good story that came out good between a client and sp. It may not be effortless on the first two dates but they always say third time is a charm.
That's just my opinion..

Most of this is absolutely valid point but it has nothing to do with my question.
I never meant any form of client - sp relationship or going with client outside business. The answer of that girl means that ideal (preferred) TYPE of client is a guy who she could date IF SHE MEET him in the real life, outside business. I guess everyone would agree that spending session time with the guy you enjoy being with is much better than with the man you would never like to be together if it is not a business, doesn't matter how professional you are.
Being on time, respectful etc.. are just mandatory requirements, without them client should be black listed and refused to book. I ask about IDEAL client who you maybe never met, who would it be if you could create one ?

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I completely agree with the Monk's girl. She is talking about IDEAL ...not a good client, not a great client, not even the best 1.0% of clients. She is talking about the concept of ideal, not reality

To me, an ideal connection is with someone that really turns you on, has an understanding of your personal complexity and that you would like to hang out with. Someone that has the values and qualities to be a life long friend whether you are still sleeping with them or not. Someone that whether they are in or out of the business OR gets married OR gets rich OR gets sick, is someone that you think you will know for the rest of your life.
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Regarding the "ideal connection" and the possibility for client - provider relationship to be extended outside business - it is possible, I know this.
I met that girl who answered my question ten years ago as sp. And we had been the best friends (she was the only person who knew everything about me and who always helped me in any circumstances) for nine years until the end of her life (not curable cancer)...

 

[Insidious Von]

A moment please while I look in the mirror.

 

[Conway_Stewart]

A moment please while I look in the mirror.

Hahahaha!

 

[sweetiepieexo]

My point has everything to do with your question lol! You asked what the ideal client would be , and clients are PEOPLE IVE NEVER MET IN REAL LIFE , until they book an appointment with me ! lol. You cant just blacklist someone because their late , that my friend is not fair. I created my perfect "ideal" client. Personally I think this is an OPINIONATED question which means that their are no wrong answers to each their own my friend, to each their own. If you asked what the perfect BOYFRIEND was now that would be different because then I could imagine the perfect guy for me but you asked about the perfect ideal client so therefore I gave an answer.

Most of this is absolutely valid point but it has nothing to do with my question.
I never meant any form of client - sp relationship or going with client outside business. The answer of that girl means that ideal (preferred) TYPE of client is a guy who she could date IF SHE MEET him in the real life, outside business. I guess everyone would agree that spending session time with the guy you enjoy being with is much better than with the man you would never like to be together if it is not a business, doesn't matter how professional you are.
Being on time, respectful etc.. are just mandatory requirements, without them client should be black listed and refused to book. I ask about IDEAL client who you maybe never met, who would it be if you could create one ?


Regarding the "ideal connection" and the possibility for client - provider relationship to be extended outside business - it is possible, I know this.
I met that girl who answered my question ten years ago as sp. And we had been the best friends (she was the only person who knew everything about me and who always helped me in any circumstances) for nine years until the end of her life (not curable cancer)...