Seemingly obsessed guys?

[TFZL1]

I've been there, obsessed, addicted, whatever you want to call it. I had to back off.
I have family and friends so I had to put things in perspective and take care of those who care about me.
Some Lady's are so good at the gfe that you can start to think it's real, but they're just out to make a buck like everyone else. I've contributed more than my share. Getting to know some of them better on twitter helped me out.
Sometimes they over do the whining. Or some ads sound like begging. One lady I was about to book posted a tweet showing all her cash, glad she let me know she doesn't need my money.
Falling for an SP gets expensive. Gotta know when to real it in.

P.S. One of my favourite strippers texted me just after I wrote that, just to let me know she's working if I wanna come by...
I said no thanx but thanx anyway.

 

[maniac1911]

Sex can turn a man completely irrational and make him do stupid thing when he wants a beautiful woman. I think it stems from loneliness, insecurity and lack of strong social bonds. They try to project those things on the woman. And lets face women are very socially savvy and know how to be exactly to be what the man wants when they want something from him. It easy to get lured in.

 

[wazup]

I remember when a tweet was something Barbara Walters gave her dog...jimmy Kimmel

How much do they make in a 4 hour session, 60 per hour door fee and she gets the extras, would she want 600 minimum for a 4 hour session?

 

[Dougal Short]

Some else sounds obsessed by all this too.

hehe. more like jellllly.

I figured someone would make a comment like these, but I assure you, I am not. The girl that I was booking today that had the four-hour session booked, I saw her for an hour prior to her session (it had since been upped to 5 hours). I want to choose my words carefully here, since he may well be a Terbite... Clearly she liked him, but it was definitely work for her and she said that she didn't prefer to have to be "on" for that amount of time. She said that she really needed breaks and food and all that stuff. And she said that most of the time they just talked. He was recently divorced and my guess is he's lonely and buying companionship. But then aren't we all?

And as I said to someone in a PM, if everyone is happy, then why not. I have met some awesome ladies in this hobby, and I would happily spend four hours with them. But to do it week after week just seems kinda sad, especially when the time is within the walls of the MP.

As this girl and I were showering together, I said that I would love to spend four hours with her, but if I did, it would include dinner and a movie and some quality sack time, not a forced stay in a 9 x 9 room with a shitty, skinny bed. She completely agreed.

I don't want to come across as being critical, but as others have said, I think these guys are a bit delusional as well. I hope that they understand that the ladies are with them because they are being (well) paid to be there. Now in the case of Bella, I know for a fact that at least two of these guys see her off the clock because they both Tweet about it. Presumably she's not charging for that time, so maybe it all works out to $20/hour...

It just seems unhealthy to me... But WTF do I know? I spend my days underwater!

I should add that if any of the ladies read this thread, I am NOT in any way being critical of them. Hell, if I had a client who obsessed over the services I provide, that would be awesome! To them I say, "Go for it!"

 

[The Miracle]

One lady I was about to book posted a tweet showing all her cash, glad she let me know she doesn't need my money.
Falling for an SP gets expensive. Gotta know when to real it in.

I think I know which SP you're alluding to.

 

[Brill]

Falling for an SP gets expensive. Gotta know when to real it in.

Great phrase. It's good to real it in with anything in life that becomes obsessive.

 

[italianguy74]

If I was to spend 4 hours at a mp it would have to be a very special occasion and id want to split the time up between 4-8 different girls, one after the other like a train. Woo! woo! all aboard! next stop heaven....If that is even possible.

 

[rhuarc29]

Some Lady's are so good at the gfe that you can start to think it's real....

You don't have to think it's real to get addicted, though. But if you do begin to think it's real, a real simple solution is to cut off the flow of cash and see what happens. Problem solved!

There have been plenty of ladies that I've fallen in lust of in the industry. But never love. And that makes all the difference in the world. Nothing wrong with lusting after particularly women in the industry. But when you start to think there's a deeper connection there, you will get in trouble. Your perspective will change, you will expect more, you will make unwanted advances, you will say uncomfortable things, and you will feel wronged when your efforts and sentiments aren't returned. Just like any one-sided relationship. Plenty of industry ladies will share horror stories with you once they're comfortable.

Even the few ladies I've seen mutually off-the-clock have been on a pseudo friend/friend-with-benefits basis, not as a couple. While I wouldn't be adverse to going further, it would mean completely cutting off the cash flow. Then the chips will fall where they may. While I have maintained some friendships after the cash flow stops, some have melted away. And it is very difficult to tell between the two groups before you cut the money. Frankly, I find it despicable that some ladies would development fake out-of-work relationships solely to rope in more money during business hours. I have great respect for ladies who will keep it all business, even when a client opens the door.

So I have two suggestions. One, if you start to think it's the real deal, cut off the cash flow and see what reality is. Two, if you become addicted with a particular lady, stop seeing her until you recover.

 

[ExoticCharmer]

There's something for everyone... but if I may make a suggestion for the interested parties here, go the Sugar Baby route, it's more stable and probably more cost effective long term. I tend to book longer sessions with SPs or see my SBs for multiple days at a time but that's at my place, their place or a hotel + going outside. I can't imagine spending 4 hours in a tiny room with an MPA...

 

[Conway_Stewart]

There are ladies in this biz who are terrific people and a joy to spend time with. Add great sex to the equation and it becomes completely addictive.

I don't really have an answer to this dilemma...I just try to be aware of it and manage it the best I can.

 

[lucky lucas]

I'm married, mortgage free, with usual monthly bills, with a good job. I'll see an agency SP for two hours once a month, that's MY treat to MYSELF, roughly $6000 a year at 250/hr. $6000 is a good amount of money, multiplied by let's say 20 years it's $120,000. Some SPs are making $120,000 in one year. No idea how taxes are dealt with in the SP world.

Just my 2 cents,

LL

 

[Dougal Short]

LL, I have it on somewhat reliable sources that some of these popular girls are making $250K +, mostly in cash. In other words, roughly the equivalent to perhaps $450 - $500 k in pretax earnings.

I don't think we need to feel guilty when we debate the $20 vs $40 tip, although I imagine that the bottom 95% will make far less....

 

[mitchell76]

Guys get all fucked up over beautiful women.

If she wasn't upper end attractive (if one considers the entire spectrum of women out there), he would not be so enamored.

3's don't date 9's (to quote my favourite thespian Dr. Gregory House). So now he goes and pays for it and Mr. 3 is able to get Ms 9 all naked and rubbing his cock and making him feel all horny and he loses his perspective and starts to think he's in love. Dumb ass. He's not in love. He's in lust and doesn't know the difference. Love is a woman who cares whether or not you live or die. Cares that you are well, cares that you are well in spirit and soul and cares enough to look out for you. Love looks past a little junk in the trunk or a bald spot or average looks.

Too many guys start to get obsessed as per the original poster's point and they lose that sense of reality and start to think that the sex worker is also in love. Odds are, she is not. Don't believe me? Just stop paying and see what happens.

Great post.

 

[The Miracle]

One, if you start to think it's the real deal, cut off the cash flow and see what reality is. Two, if you become addicted with a particular lady, stop seeing her until you recover.

I agree with both of the things you said, rhuarc29, especially the latter. I saw this one lady, who I will not share the name of but is a lovely SP, in the summer many times and things never felt like business, which is great. But, I knew it was because of her personality that kept me coming back. Furthermore, things got to the point that we both knew each other "personally." I mean, personally.

Knowing that, I haven't seen her since, but we have kept in contact. I am just glad I knew I was close to being attached and withdrew.