Would you marry an SP?

[Titalian]

This is so true. It quite easy to figure out the poison in this industry from both guys and gals. If a girl thinks we are all loser johns and dead beat cheater husbands, it says a lot of how she sees her self, how she values her self, what she does, her morals, and who she is. The same applies to clients who think the girls are dirty whores etc...

This is only weak people who are failing at life projecting their insecurities and faults onto others.

Very true but when someone gets dumped or rejected in any relationship sometimes unfortunately the mud-slinging starts. And yes it is
a characterisation of the person doing it.

 

[Vermeer27]

I think we're a little insulated on this board, and perhaps that's why we enjoy coming here. But mainstream attitudes toward the "hobby" are more negative than we sometimes realize. I know of one case where a retired sexworker was getting serious with a man who didn't know her past and when she tried to come clean so as to not have any secrets from him, he reacted violently. I won't give any more details, but it was a tragic situation. In this regard, I don't blame sp's who date or even marry clients: at-least there are no secrets.

 

[ultistar]

... as I've met the most amazing people I know through this industry.

This last sentence reminded me of one caveat. I do tend to look down on judgmental guys moreso than gals in this hobby.
(am I judging the judgmental? whatevs, trying to make a point.)

Why? Generally SP's are young ladies in their early 20's finding their way through life. Johns are typically middle-aged, say around 40's. In the 20 extra years of living, guys should have figured out how to treat people with respect.

Of course there are judgmental MILF SPs but I rarely cross paths with them, intentionally

 

[JackBurton]

The old classic saying "you can't make a whore a housewife" applys thru the ages. Take heed your man and marry someone with your own values

 

[fuji]

The old classic saying "you can't make a whore a housewife" applys thru the ages. Take heed your man and marry someone with your own values

I would never marry someone with my own values, I want my wife to remain exclusive to me.

 

[DaleyDDD]

The old classic saying "you can't make a whore a housewife" applys thru the ages. Take heed your man and marry someone with your own values

And those who will classify us as "whores" are (and I'm sorry for being blunt and if you didn't know this already), are the guys that NONE of us want to see. I don't speak for all SPs on here, but I can fairly confidently claim this. Treat us with respect and we should do the same. Treat us like meat as your post claims to and you will be treated as someone deserving as such.

I think posts like this are the reason I avoided the first thread on this topic.

Shake my head at ignorance.

 

[Titalian]

The old classic saying "you can't make a whore a housewife" applys thru the ages. Take heed your man and marry someone with your own values

Does that hold true for client's values as well ? This is hypocrisy, at its very best.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Truth is both providers and customers are human, so anything is possible. A customer falling deeply for a provider and vice versa. This is also true of two people who work at wal-mart or even customer/client relationship at the local whatever. The difference is the nature of the interaction, it is intimate, so I would say that most guys/girls wouldn't mind if their SO was interacting in a non intimate business relationship. It is the few that can handle the intimate ones. Each have our own level, for me, if my wife was chugging cum we wouldn't be having this convo.

Call me an ignorant racist, but I believe most men would feel the same and that is one of the reasons the ladies want relationships outside, at least the lasting ones.

I wouldn't call you a racist or ignorant, just that you can't generalize. Deception is not necessarily sinister but to protect her and possibly even loved ones, although I'd prefer openness.

I know of a provider who isn't so truthful to her S.O. and may have fallen somewhat out of love, but that could happen outside the industry too.

I'm open-minded and can handle a bit of the swinging lifestyle, but I can't say 100% if I would be comfortable being married to an SP, but it's possible. I think if she's honest and doesn't hide anything, it might work better, if not turn on the guy (not necessarily as a cuckold but the appeal for her as highly desirable and freaky).

I can tell you one thing: If you don't judge an S.O. who's a provider, she may love you more knowing that you support her work and aren't judging her. She can confide in you and that sort of intimacy is a very powerful connection or bond.

 

[thumper18474]

The old classic saying "you can't make a whore a housewife" applys thru the ages. Take heed your man and marry someone with your own values

At my age...if it were to happen...I dont want a house wife....I want a companion/friend/lover/confidante.....all in one

 

[GPIDEAL]

And those who will classify us as "whores" are (and I'm sorry for being blunt and if you didn't know this already), are the guys that NONE of us want to see. I don't speak for all SPs on here, but I can fairly confidently claim this. Treat us with respect and we should do the same. Treat us like meat as your post claims to and you will be treated as someone deserving as such.

I think posts like this are the reason I avoided the first thread on this topic.

Shake my head at ignorance.

Don't avoid these threads please because you POV is insightful and valued.

You're a great communicator.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I think we're a little insulated on this board, and perhaps that's why we enjoy coming here. But mainstream attitudes toward the "hobby" are more negative than we sometimes realize. I know of one case where a retired sexworker was getting serious with a man who didn't know her past and when she tried to come clean so as to not have any secrets from him, he reacted violently. I won't give any more details, but it was a tragic situation. In this regard, I don't blame sp's who date or even marry clients: at-least there are no secrets.

Well, there still may be secrets or things that he or she only learn about or convey on a need-to-know basis.

But I agree with your statement as to how feelings can develop between SP and John (eg. they enjoy each other's company plus he treats her with respect and like any other lady despite knowing what she does for a living).

 

[GPIDEAL]

Precisely. The respect should go both ways between client and SP.

I once had a guy dump me because of the escorting. Fair enough (and he was not one of my clients). He had previously admitted to me that he had seen probably 50 or more escorts around the world but when dumping me referred to me as a 'hooker'. Double standard.

Sorry to hear about that.

You're too good for him Chloe.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Bravo. My exact opinion.

You can't think of me as a dirty whore as much as I don't (and never do) think of you as a gross John. Sorry if I'm more explicit than other girls here I am just a realist.

I just share the same opinion in terms of hating being judgmental in this business as I've met the most amazing people I know through this industry.

I wouldn't think of you in such a way so as to mean "a second-class citizen", but I have used that phrase or similar dirty-talk in the heat of the moment or in a very passionate interlude with a provider that I truly adore. :eyebrows:

I think couples in love should have dirty or rough sex besides cuddles and snuggles.

 

[peter4025]

The old classic saying "you can't make a whore a housewife" applys thru the ages. Take heed your man and marry someone with your own values

you think your moral values are higher than a service provider's, however you go visit them. Sorry, but your values are fucked. There is nothing wrong with marrying a sp if you want. Many of them are wonderful people. This is a profession like any other.

We are in this hobby/industry together. Both SP and clients have no right to be judgmental against the other side. There is no hobby without both parties.
However there are many folks who are still judgmental, but that's more a reflection of their own character.

I couldn't have said it better.

 

[foxxxy lady]

Well, since the idiot asked, I've been there and done that. Didn't marry her, but we lived together for three great years, until I messed around with another SP and she kicked my sorry ass out on the street!

muddy you are such a slut lol

xo

 

[foxxxy lady]

you think your moral values are higher than a service provider's, however you go visit them. Sorry, but your values are fucked. There is nothing wrong with marrying a sp if you want. Many of them are wonderful people. This is a profession like any other.



I couldn't have said it better.

+1000

 

[foxxxy lady]

This is totally anecdotal evidence, but the few sp's I count as friends are unanimous in not wanting to get married, to clients or otherwise. They've fucked too many married men to ever believe that a man can be faithful, and they question their own interest in monogamy too. That pretty much leaves polyamory and the swinging lifestyle which is generally full of older couples who've been together a long time. Honestly, the only sp/civilian relationship I personally know of that really works is a sub/cuckold relationship where the guy gets off on his girl being a sexworker. She makes more money than him and pretty much carries all the power in the relationship, and they're both happy with this. So, of-course it can work, but it seems to work only under very specific conditions.
If you're running for office, or happen to be a highly public person, then I would say forget about marrying an sp, for obvious reasons.

Is the human species meant to be monogamist? I never want to be in a controlling relationship again

whether I be a doctor ,baker or blowjob maker :ballchain::ballchain::ballchain::ballchain:

xo

 

[foxxxy lady]

Your generalising, I know many women in this industry some of which are friends. I believe that maybe you had hardships with a certain
provider and now you are clumping every provider into this category. WRONG ! I've dated civie women that would make providers look like saints.
Please be careful on how you classify these women.

:angel:lol Thanks Titialian even though no ones perfect Im glad u understand that we sp's are not just people who lie on their back

 

[Titalian]

Well, since the idiot asked, I've been there and done that. Didn't marry her, but we lived together for three great years, until I messed around with another SP and she kicked my sorry ass out on the street!

Lol Muddy, I missed this lone post of yours, thanks Amber for bringing it up, the reality of your post is somewhat sad, but at least you got to spend quality times together.
This can happen to the best of us, as I for one can attest to.

 

[Mikehorn]

Precisely. The respect should go both ways between client and SP.

I once had a guy dump me because of the escorting. Fair enough (and he was not one of my clients). He had previously admitted to me that he had seen probably 50 or more escorts around the world but when dumping me referred to me as a 'hooker'. Double standard.

The first thing that came to mind was - you dodged a bullet.