Online dating questions-tinder, pof

[crocket]

So I've been feeling like I wanna date again, and I got the tinder app. I see there are a lot of women on there, some I would like to meet for sure. Now how good looking does one have to be to connect with women online? I've been told in real life by women that I am not bad looking, and I've been told that I am good looking, and I am not fat or bald. Yet I don't have a gf :frusty: Never had a bad session with an mp, and an mp recommended I try online dating. I just think I look better in real life than in photos. I mean I have dated women almost 20 yrs younger than me so it ain't like I look so old or ugly.
Should I expect to get rejected a lot when I post pics on tinder? Is Pof better for dating? I feel sorta funny posting my face pics online, mainly cause I don't want to get rejected by dozens of women and then I will feel so bad about myself. I also wouldn't want anyone in my working life to recognize me either, feels sorta embarrassed. Wear sunglasses?

Any advice? How was your experience with online dating?

 

[black booty lover]

Should I expect to get rejected a lot when I post pics on tinder? Is Pof better for dating? I feel sorta funny posting my face pics online, mainly cause I don't want to get rejected by dozens of women and then I will feel so bad about myself. I also wouldn't want anyone in my working life to recognize me either, feels sorta embarrassed. Wear sunglasses?

If this is the case don't even bother. Doesn't matter who you are, you will gets lots of rejections for a few reasons. 1), lots of women on there aren't even serious. They create profiles just to see how many guys message them and don't get back to ANYONE. 2) For every 1 women on a dating site, there are about 20 guys. That means despite your confidence and feeling like your good looking because your not "fat and bald", you are competing with 19 other guys. Dating sites are a lot of work, you can expect tons of messages back and forth dragging on and on. Then you finally decide to make a date, of a sudden she will stop correspondence.

 

[NHFL]

If this is the case don't even bother. Doesn't matter who you are, you will gets lots of rejections for a few reasons. 1), lots of women on there aren't even serious. They create profiles just to see how many guys message them and don't get back to ANYONE. 2) For every 1 women on a dating site, there are about 20 guys. That means despite your confidence and feeling like your good looking because your not "fat and bald", you are competing with 19 other guys. Dating sites are a lot of work, you can expect tons of messages back and forth dragging on and on. Then you finally decide to make a date, of a sudden she will stop correspondence.

This is quite accurate.

No matter who you are or what you look like, you will be sending out a lot of messages, getting rejected, etc... no matter who you are!!! What I noticed about myself on dating sites is that I became incredibly picky about people, and I suspect that women do the same. I found myself rejecting women for the most inane reasons... they would look really good but in their profile they mentioned they liked Indian Food, which I hate, so I wouldn't message them back.

Also you try to figure out which picture, of of all the ones they have is what they would "really" look like. I found that if out of 10 pictures 9 were good looking and 1 was ugly, I wouldn't message them. Basically, there are SO MANY profiles online, you become very picky, and they become very picky... so you best develop a thick skin NOW.

Finally, and this one really shocked me, for a while I found I was not getting a lot of replies when I messaged women, and I bemoaned this fact to a female friend. She looked at my online profiles and pictures and said the following "You know I find you attractive and that you're handsome, but in these pictures you look TERRIBLE." If indeed you are a stunningly handsome fellow like myself, be sure to get professional pictures done by a female photographer and have your female friends select the best pictures of you. It will go a very long way.

 

[destillat]

If indeed you are a stunningly handsome fellow like myself

LOL. I thought I was the only stunningly handsome fellow around here!

 

[surferboy]

Tinder is a great way to find out if the opposite sex finds you attractive if nothing else. If you got the goods,you'll have no problem picking up girls in their 20's to cougars in their 40's. Friend introduced me to it back in December & i'd say its almost like shooting fish in a barrel! Good luck my friend

 

[drlove]

The truth is, you'll have to do a lot of digging to find the gold, so to speak.... that's not to say you can't hit the jackpot however. It just requires a lot of time, effort, patience, and perseverance. It really comes down to how committed you are. In my experience, things usually happen when you least expect them to, so if you hold out long enough you may be handsomely rewarded. Remember, it doesn't matter how many women say no... it only matters when one says yes!

 

[NHFL]

LOL. I thought I was the only stunningly handsome fellow around here!

All I will say is this... I'm no longer on dating sites (and haven't hobbied for a long time) because I found someone a while ago, and I found her offline, not on a dating site. Funny how I have to drive her to weekly ophthalmologist appointments though

 

[NHFL]

The truth is, you'll have to do a lot of digging to find the gold, so to speak.... that's not to say you can't hit the jackpot however. It just requires a lot of time, effort, patience, and perseverance. It really comes down to how committed you are. In my experience, things usually happen when you least expect them to, so if you hold out long enough you may be handsomely rewarded. Remember, it doesn't matter how many women say no... it only matters when one says yes!

Another point to keep in mind... I started getting a lot of replies and interest when I first joined-on and interest waned within about three months. I think it's called the "Fresh Meat Phenomenon", where the ladies see someone new and will test you out - so don't get your hopes up if you have an initial spike in interest.

 

[SchlongConery]

All I will say is this... I'm no longer on dating sites (and haven't hobbied for a long time) because I found someone a while ago, and I found her offline, not on a dating site. Funny how I have to drive her to weekly ophthalmologist appointments though

Bet she has a nice dog too!

 

[Laird]

I tried online dating off and on between ages 22 to 24. Despite having a good body, I never got a single legit response from a non-obese Canadian girl.

 

[explorerzip]

Rejection is part of the process online dating or not. I wouldn't waste time on Tinder or POF or any other free dating site if you're looking for something serious. Too many people just browsing and not enough serious ones. It's very telling when people use a bathroom mirror selfie as their profile pic. At least get a decent pic or you could go professional too. You could try also eHarmony, but that's only if you want to go to the serious relationship / marriage route and it can be expensive.

You could also try a site like meetup.com or eventbrite.com to find activity groups that you are interested and not necessarily dating related. At least you will meet people in the flesh, which should make the "dating" part a bit easier.

 

[Titalian]

The truth is, you'll have to do a lot of digging to find the gold, so to speak.... that's not to say you can't hit the jackpot however. It just requires a lot of time, effort, patience, and perseverance. It really comes down to how committed you are. In my experience, things usually happen when you least expect them to, so if you hold out long enough you may be handsomely rewarded. Remember, it doesn't matter how many women say no... it only matters when one says yes!

What a true statement Drlove. You are obviously experienced. And yes, when you least expect it. :thumb: Never look for it, let it come to you.

 

[SchlongConery]

. At least get a decent pic or you could go professional too.

 

[waynward]

So I've been feeling like I wanna date again, and I got the tinder app. I see there are a lot of women on there, some I would like to meet for sure. Now how good looking does one have to be to connect with women online? I've been told in real life by women that I am not bad looking, and I've been told that I am good looking, and I am not fat or bald. Yet I don't have a gf :frusty: Never had a bad session with an mp, and an mp recommended I try online dating. I just think I look better in real life than in photos. I mean I have dated women almost 20 yrs younger than me so it ain't like I look so old or ugly.
Should I expect to get rejected a lot when I post pics on tinder? Is Pof better for dating? I feel sorta funny posting my face pics online, mainly cause I don't want to get rejected by dozens of women and then I will feel so bad about myself. I also wouldn't want anyone in my working life to recognize me either, feels sorta embarrassed. Wear sunglasses?

Any advice? How was your experience with online dating?

Might find some tips here for online dating : http://bit.ly/1MT1OSu

 

[Gentlescorp]

Most of you guys are missing the point here. Pls remember the saying "women are emotional creatures, not the logical ones. If you can open that secret door in their psyche and are welcomed in, they become your play ground". Look and money helps but it's not the only thing women look for in men, They just want to be with somebody who they feel happy to be with. I have slowed down now. I used to be on dating sites and had hooked up with lots of gals. You need to have a good profile which shows you are a secured decent man, easy going and fun to be with. Women love confidant men with sense of humour. Some of the profiles of some guys I had seen were horrible. I have a close terb friend who is very good looking with great body, but his profile in POF site was written horribly and never had any luck getting gals. It was all about him and him. No wonder he couldn't get any dates. I fixed it up for him and he was getting responses left and right but he messed it up pretty fast to a point POF finally banned him..lol.

 

[black booty lover]

who cares about this thread anymore anyways...since his original post, the OP hasn't even participated in his own thread, so why should anyone else....

 

[crocket]

who cares about this thread anymore anyways...since his original post, the OP hasn't even participated in his own thread, so why should anyone else....

I started this thread only day ago. I am reading it.

 

[Butler1000]

Do you not have friends and family who may be able to hook you up with possible mates? I've always found that the best relationships come from face to face contact first as opposed the "checking the boxes" that seem to occur from online dating.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Yup look how great it turned out for me...found my wife on POF 10 years ago and could not be happier Luckily I figured out the system and got to her early right after she joined b4 anybody else had a chance to take her from me, it was her first time trying online dating. Luckily my irresistible charm was too much for her to resist and she never went back. Before her I picked up a girl from Adult finder and dated her for 2-3 years, fucking freak in bed but not very loyal or trustworthy.

Now I Happy as a Hippo!

 

[waba]

Now I Happy as a Hippo!

Is that why you are on terb?