can i have some female advice

[newyear5774]

Ive seen this gal on the bus every single day for months
never spoke to her.
today she was walking and i was at the same cross walk
i said to her
hey how are you, i havent seen you in awhile, shes like i dont know who you are
i said , i used to see you alot on the bus
she muttered-"creepy"
what was the problem with me being friendly
didnt stalk her, or anything
i was just being friendly

 

[oil&gas]

I am a male so excuse me for this post.

You are living in a city with a population of more than 2 million.
People in a big city are generally more aloof and distant than those
living in a small town. You will find people living in a small community
more approachable.

 

[peter4025]

May be you should have stopped at "hey, how are you? "

 

[DB123]

May be you should have stopped at "hey, how are you? "

At MOST

Think about it OP, if someone you don't know and presumably don't recognize said that to you, what you would you think?

 

[Yoga Face]

Do not be so intimidated by her comment

Continue the conversation, and explain you have noticed her on the bus every day

If she gives you a cold response do not let it affect you

Simple as that

She seems a bit creepy to me


Her ethnicity could have something to do with it

It is difficult being friendly with someone in a situation that does not seem to justify friendliness

Move on to the next one and do not let such simple things bother you

 

[bazokajoe]

I think when you said : I haven't seen you for awhile" ,when she doesn't know who you are most likely freaked her out.

 

[Mr Bret]

You said you've seen her on the bus for months.
This provides a certain context for your "relationship" with her.

I think by speaking to her outside of that familiar context may have thrown her for a loop. Maybe she hasn't noticed you quite as much as you've noticed her, so she just didn't recognize you off the bus.

By saying you hadn't seen her in a while, you probably spooked her into thinking you've been scoping her out.

 

[foxxxy lady]

Ive seen this gal on the bus every single day for months
never spoke to her.
today she was walking and i was at the same cross walk
i said to her
hey how are you, i havent seen you in awhile, shes like i dont know who you are
i said , i used to see you alot on the bus
she muttered-"creepy"
what was the problem with me being friendly
didnt stalk her, or anything
i was just being friendly

well talk about creepy I just wrote out a bunch of things to say to you and it was like it was copied and pasted and took right off the screen before my own two eyes. Anyways here goes again. This would have appeared to be creepy as she may not have recognized u from the bus, so that approach would of been kinda strange. Like the other op said if you want to approach her start with a hi, then explain to her that u did not mean to creep her out. There are a lot of douche bags in this world ,so her being standoffish is understandable. it is a shame however understandable. If she still appear un interested then don't take it personally just move on

xo

 

[oldjones]

I said to her…

hey how are you, i havent seen you in awhile,

…meaning that you've been watching her for awhile. You may not think that's stalking, but you're not a gal accosted by a complete stranger who wants her to account for herself. One needs to make some sort of connection, however casual, before opening a conversation about what some other person's been up to elsewhere.

Move on. When the next gal catches your eye, try, "Good morning," at least a few times before getting deeper into her business. And if she doesn't respond, then you are still that complete stranger/stalker.

 

[Titalian]

My take on this is, You noticed her on the bus, she probably never noticed you. So on your approach you were a stranger.

 

[TESLAMotors]

My take on this is, You noticed her on the bus, she probably never noticed you. So on your approach you were a stranger.

^this.

 

[trod]

My take on this is, You noticed her on the bus, she probably never noticed you. So on your approach you were a stranger.

Yeah, pretty much this.

OP, take it on the chin and move on.

 

[Terminator2000]

dont microanalyse it. Move on

 

[foxxxy lady]

dont microanalyse it. Move on

hey, he asked for female advice lol

 

[Ref]

Next time you see her wear a t-shirt with both of your faces on it surrounded by a heart

 

[Titalian]

Next time you see her wear a t-shirt with both of your faces on it surrounded by a heart

Now that's creepy :Eek:

 

[Polaris]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=ZIRdTnQrDIg

 

[icespot]

You gained experience son. Now next time dont ask girls what you did wrong. Instead ask men for advice. Girls know nothing of what it takes to approach them.

From your post it sounds like you wanted to talk to her, but never had the chance before. Then you saw what you believe d to be an opportunity you took it. That takes balls and you got burned, but you learned a great lesson.

Her response would have been less dramatic had you just said hello. At worse she would have not responded. At best you could have gotten to date her.

If you see her again and she is close to you. Just tell her " Look I did nt mean to crep you out last time. You are a very beautiful woman and I always notice. Have a great day"..... and then son never talk to her again. ( make sure you say it like you got a pair. )

Now time to move on and dont give up trying. Eventually you will build almostlike a radar for women you will hit it off with.

 

[nobody123]

You gained experience son. Now next time dont ask girls what you did wrong. Instead ask men for advice. Girls know nothing of what it takes to approach them.

From your post it sounds like you wanted to talk to her, but never had the chance before. Then you saw what you believe d to be an opportunity you took it. That takes balls and you got burned, but you learned a great lesson.

Her response would have been less dramatic had you just said hello. At worse she would have not responded. At best you could have gotten to date her.

If you see her again and she is close to you. Just tell her " Look I did nt mean to crep you out last time. You are a very beautiful woman and I always notice. Have a great day"..... and then son never talk to her again. ( make sure you say it like you got a pair. )

Now time to move on and dont give up trying. Eventually you will build almostlike a radar for women you will hit it off with.

Or, you know, end up with a bunch of restraining orders. Six of one, half a dozen of the other.

 

[BULLRYDER]

You dodged a bullet but don't be discouraged on finding someone to connect with. Look at it this way, do you really want to be with someone that is not aware of their surroundings? Daily users of Public Transit eventually know routines of regular passengers. However, don't be fooled, she recognizes you and choose to display her true character. Take the advice and move on.