It's possible that you could fall in love with an SP. then become her bf (not sure how you deal with her getting banged by 8 guys a day), and then you propose and marry an SP. would you guys ever marry an SP? how would you deal with her lifestyle and all the attention she gets from guys every day while you go to your boring 9-5 job?
would any of you guys marry an SP?
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This has been discussed many, many times. No doubt this will devolve into accusations of hypocrisy and misogyny. IMO, it's an intensely personal decision You have to live with it so only you can say. Some guys are perfectly fine with a sex worker as partner. Some compartmentalize that part of her life and ignore it. Some turn to substance abuse. Some resort to abusing her.
If she was an active SP, your boring 9-5 job probably couldn't keep up.
If she was an active SP, your boring 9-5 job probably couldn't keep up.
Perhaps a "former" SP, but probably not an active one...last thing I want to hear is "honey I've seen nothing but dick all day, put your away"...
Speaking from experience, it has happened twice to me in relationships. The first time it wasn't a problem because he was very open minded, Scandinavian and had a broad outlook sexually. He was also confident enough in his own sexuality that it didn't become an issue. The second one has become the elephant in the room with constant heckling and derogatory remarks being made about my choice. He simply can't take it and it will be the demise of our relationship. He has an over active imagination and so he thinks of things that aren't remotely close to reality in terms of what he thinks is being done to me. It actually makes me laugh and then cry out of frustration. I can't win in this situation. So there are simply some men who can get along with it and some men who cannot... and it is no reflection on them in either case. I could go on about compartmentalizing and about how what I am is not what I do but that has already been hashed to death. For some men, their egos simply can't endure it. I would really like to know why it took him three years to figure this one out.
Relationships are hard enough to keep going, never mind the nuances of an industry relationship.
Then again, I've also learned that any relationship will work as long as both parties want to make it work. As I read in another thread yesterday, those who want justification will find it...which, I suppose, goes both ways.
That's pretty much how it is.
Each man would have to weigh it out individually. Can he handle knowing his girlfriend is the sexual object of so many eyes? Can he handle knowing she's giving that level of intimacy to other people? What concessions would it take to make that acceptable? Is it fair for him to ask her to drop her line of work because he's insecure?
Personally I'd like to think I'd be able to tolerate it with someone I trust. Truth is I'm not sure. I dated a stripper when we were both going to university. She agonized over telling me what she did for a living, but wanted to stop lying to me about it. It was a shock. I told her it didn't matter just to buy myself time to figure out if it did. It certainly added some pressure to the relationship; a relationship that ended up falling apart. So how much did her job impact that? Hard to say. We never argued about her line of work. We did discuss it sometimes, but I think that's the only healthy way to deal with it. If you close the lines of communication, even the most confident person would wonder....
I'd marry an SP. But it would be dependent on other factors. And as much trust as any marriage requires, such a marriage would probably require even more for comfort.
Yes anything is possible. I mean just being in this hobby is break from the "traditional". I would have to have my own regular women I see to maintain my sanity. And consider it to a polyamorous relationship.
Would I marry an SP? In a heartbeat. I'm an ugly bastard who isn't rich. If an SP wanted to marry me, I would know for a certainty that they wanted to do so because they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with my charming motherfucker self.
Call me old fashioned but I could see myself with a dancer or possibly an MPA, no interest in a relationship of any kind with one who provides SP services. That is my line and I'm sticking to it.
I'll answer the question that hasn't been asked:
I'd like to know if the lady was in this profession and there was a relationship brewing between us. I suppose the double standard exists, how many men here would tell their girlfriend that they used adult services (question already asked in other thread).
If men aren't willing or don't want to tell female/male partners then why should a lady tell a man what she's done?
I'd like to know if the lady was in this profession and there was a relationship brewing between us. I suppose the double standard exists, how many men here would tell their girlfriend that they used adult services (question already asked in other thread).
If men aren't willing or don't want to tell female/male partners then why should a lady tell a man what she's done?
At least you'd know upfront what she was up to and with whom.
A cheating wife having affairs behind your back would be worse as you would be in the dark.
I've often heard that an SP would make a good wife.
Not sure why guys say it. Whether it's for her sexual experience and willingness to please.
Or she is more likely to appreciate a monogamous relationship.
A cheating wife having affairs behind your back would be worse as you would be in the dark.
I've often heard that an SP would make a good wife.
Not sure why guys say it. Whether it's for her sexual experience and willingness to please.
Or she is more likely to appreciate a monogamous relationship.
I wouldn't scoff at it, if I truly knew, we could make a go of it, But I being recently divorced, would need a lot of convincing.
Yeah, but what if she provided "extras" to certain clients.
Ok, let say you marry an active SP, does that mean you can still see other escorts?
