The sexodus: Men giving up on women and checking out

[eznutz]

"My generation of boys is fucked," says Rupert, a young German video game enthusiast I've been getting to know over the past few months. "Marriage is dead. Divorce means you're screwed for life. Women have given up on monogamy, which makes them uninteresting to us for any serious relationship or raising a family. That's just the way it is. Even if we take the risk, chances are the kids won't be ours. In France, we even have to pay for the kids a wife has through adulterous affairs.
"In school, boys are screwed over time and again. Schools are engineered for women. In the US, they force-feed boys Ritalin like Skittles to shut them up. And while girls are favoured to fulfill quotas, men are slipping into distant second place.

Part 1: http://www.breitbart.com/Breitbart-...ving-Up-On-Women-And-Checking-Out-Of-Society/
Part 2: http://www.breitbart.com/Breitbart-...eminist-Panics-Leave-Male-Sexuality-In-Crisis

 

[LisbethNova]

Just another example of men's fear of women in power.... I don't buy it.

 

[Marla]

Just another example of men's fear of women in power.... I don't buy it.

I don't buy it either. I know a lot of real men.

 

[GameBoy27]

Sounds like just another woe is me story. Bla bla bla...

 

[canada-man]

 

[SkyRider]

The past 20-30 years have been hard on young white males (definitely true in North America and probably Europe as well).

 

[canada-man]

isn't it women losing their femininity a part of the problem?

 

[out4fun]

I think the need for a long term partner is fading, and the risk of a long term relationship is increasing, making courtship and marriage less desirable.

I still think for the most part, women are interested in "marrying up" (I may be completely off base here though) and a man is defined by his job and earning power. As women have advance in the work force, the pool of men that would make a suitable marriage partner for them shrinks. Men that are not up to their standards have limited opportunities and so they eventually "check out".

Men with financial means that are "marriage material", are of diminishing numbers as women's earning power continues to grow. Thus, given the scarcity of suitable men, these marriage candidates can be more selective. With less competition, along with the long term financial risk of commitment, there is little incentive "to put a ring on it" anymore.

The guys on the couch that can't live up to the lady's standards check out...the guys in the boardroom don't need to commit.

Now, if my premise that woman want to "marry up" is false, than this theory is complete, male chauvinist garbage and I'm probably just an ass. I don't discount this possibility.

 

[wangbang]

A good friend of mine specializes in couples counseling. She has told me that there was been a real trend to girls in their 20's bringing their long time boyfriends who won't marry.

When she talks to the guys alone it is usually, "I'll lose the house, the kids, the dog, our friends, get the legal bills and live on a lot less for a long time". You'd be surprise how many bring up " I watched my mother emasculate my father after the divorce" and they want no part of that going forward.

Now that women leave marriages almost as easily as men have I simply think the deal no longer works for men.

 

[asterwald]

I don't buy it either. I know a lot of real men.

Most women also think its easy to approach women. They get approached all the time by a small minority of men and have no clue how terrified MOST men are.

There was a post about a former hottie, who assumed her whole life that people were generally nice, because they always treated her with kindness. Only after she started losing her looks did she realize how wrong she was. Womens world view is incredibly limited to their own experiences:



was a former super hot chick, and now older woman. I can tell you a few things of what it is like from the other side.
When I was 25, I too was into running and lifting weights and my body was spectacular and I had six-pack abs and a naturally large chest (36F). Everywhere I went, men of all ages stared at me. It was really annoying that most didn't even try to hide it. The ones that were the worst were the creepy middle aged men who would hit on me, thinking that they could somehow fool me into going out with them.
No matter how grounded you are, you get a skewed perspective of the world. I truly believed that men were genuinely nice to women as a matter of course. I believed that most people were nice and accommodating and liked people. This was because most of my friends were hot as well, and guys were falling all over themselves to help us, so this is all I knew. I simply didn't realize that some men are deeply hostile and only nice to women they want to fuck. I did not realize the weird code in society which equated beauty with importance. Such a thought never occurred to me that the world might be a different place than I had experienced.
I can tell you that men now are neither hostile or overly helpful. In fact, I feel pretty much invisible. And that, by itself, is okay. I can tell you I am equally ignored by females as well. It could be the age, or it could be a combination of old and not attractive. Who knows, except that I am no longer hawt.
There were a lot of privileges you don't realize as well, like making great money, getting preferential treatment, or being dealt with respectfully. It blew my mind to realize that everyone is not entitled to this as a matter of course, but it is reserved for those who are physically desirable.
I think the biggest shock to me was realizing that my entire worldview had been wrong FOR DECADES. That was the most shocking. That the shitty treatment other people whined about was indeed true, and that just because I didn't experience it firsthand did not mean it wasn't a reality. I would think to myself, "Well, if they would just project a more positive attitude, people would respond with positive attention." I was very naive about the depth of the beauty privilege until I experienced both sides. All those bullshit things I believed simply weren't true. No matter how well put together I was, how well groomed, how charming and funny I tried to be, I could not overcome it.
It wasn't losing my attractiveness that was the biggest mindfuck, being ignored or even being treated badly. It was the idea that I really didn't understand how the world worked for so long. It was the idea that I believed you could overcome this enormous force around you everywhere you went -- all day, every day -- by simply being more cheerful and charming."

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[DB123]

Because if you can't trust a young German video game enthusiast in matters of the opposite sex, who CAN you trust?

 

[asterwald]

The sexodus: Men giving up on women and checking out

You're obviously talking about girlie men, not real men.

Its mostly gen y and some gen x. Real men would only be relevant if "real" women meant cooking, cleaning and taking care if laundry. Gender roles are obsolete.


Plus. Now we have porn.

 

[WJ49]

God, I hate this kind of article.

Some self-styled experts claim that young men are "checking out of society altogether, giving up on women, sex and relationships", but not a shred of evidence is given for any of these claims. Has the average number of sexual partners a man has had by his 30th birthday dropped significantly in the last decade? Has the percentage of 25-year-old men currently in a 6-month-plus relationship dropped much in the last decade? If there was, indeed, a 'sexodus' , that sort of data would be pretty easy to find, and since nothing like it was cited, I'm guessing that that its just not there.

 

[Keebler Elf]

The only thing I agree with is men moving away from marriage. Better options out there.

 

[LisbethNova]

Guys always need to find a reason why they aren't getting laid...

 

[Rank5]

I'm one of the young men who checked out of society that this article is talking about.

I'm 25 years old and make good money. I don't have a girlfriend and bang escorts about once a week. When I'm about 35 and have a bunch of money saved up I plan to get a 20 year old bride from latin america or asia to start a family with. Or alternatively, i'll just move to thailand and bang ladyboys for the rest of my life if I don't feel like having a family lol.

In either case, under no circumstance will I ever marry a western women, or even date any woman over the age of 30. There are many reasons for this, most of which are talked about in this article. It matters not if our feelings are justified, but fact is they are there and there are many young men who think this way.

 

[canada-man]

Guys always need to find a reason why they aren't getting laid...

shaming tactics like that are getting stale

 

[canada-man]

Published on May 16, 2014
"Hello Sandman, The topic I wish for you to cover is being male and single. It seems as if it's always been socially unacceptable for a male to be single, and I'm not completely certain as to why

 

[Titalian]

The only thing I agree with is men moving away from marriage. Better options out there.

I agree with this statement, and thats just what I did, got divorced, I was tired of being treated like I was second class, where my opinions thoughts and my views
didn't count anymore. and this was besides the no sex policy and sleeping in separate bedrooms. The woman I married was a very competitive, but by the same
token very naive of my feelings as a man. Today I feel liberated. Isn't that ironic! Now since the separation, she listens to me when it comes, to the well being of our child, when in the
past she did not. Understandably so, my daughter decided to live with me, which my ex was not expecting. And has done so since the separation.
The adjustment for me was tough at the beginning, but to tell you the truth, I feel reborn, in every respect, in fact today I am self employed, which could never have happened
under the conditions I was living in. Please don't get me wrong, I am not condemning these types of relationships, My error was, I married a hottie, but never realised her true being.
With that experience, I am hoping to meet someone in the future, who truly understands me and I her, In the mean time, I will continue enjoying my life, as a single and liberated man !!

 

[Dorian Grey]

Guys always need to find a reason why they aren't getting laid...

...and 'Women always need a man to take care of them, and pay their way.'

Both statements, yours and mine, sound equally stupid.