Paid time is up - but you wish he wouldn't leave
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Actually, anyone who thinks the sex for cash industry is a dating service doesn't get it. You pay for no strings. To then brag that you got extra strings totally missed the point.
If I wanted strings, there are other ways, but they are not so simple. Strings mess with my marriage. Not good.
I disagree. You have your needs/desires and I have mine.
I enjoy spending time with beautiful women that I care about. I pay for the sex because that is their living--I don't expect to get an extra minute for free. If she's having a good enough time to extend my session by a few minutes, or more, who am I to say no? If I know that she doesn't drive, takes a cab, and I'm her last client of the day, why wouldn't I offer her a drive? I enjoy the time spent with her, and she gets to save the cab fare. If I offer lunch, I'm pretty sure she expects me to pay, and I always do. If she doesn't want to have lunch with me, she only has to say no. I feel no strings or commitments, just time spent with a lovely friend.
I would guess that is the case in at least a few instances (not that there is necessarily anything wrong with that in itself). The problem is when expectations (on either side) increase and boundaries are crossed.
Agreed.
And that is fine. But, as stated above, problems arise when expectations increase and boundaries get crossed.
This happened to me only once. I was travelling on business and met up with an SP at my hotel. At the end of our session, she was invited me to come hang out with me and some of her friends. She was like "You're really cute and cool and I want you to come out. I wouldn't say that if I didn't mean that". It was sincere and simple and we hung out afterwards and hit a bar.
I had one lady just straight out ask me if I wanted to go for lunch as I was getting dressed. That's the direct approach.
Others, just keep the conversation going. A much subtler approach. When the time is up I am looking for the opportunity to excuse myself to get cleaned up, but sometimes its obvious she's in no hurry to end our discussion.
Occasionally, usually with a regular, I will excuse myself to go to the shower and the lady will tell me there is no hurry. This way I am being respectful of her time, and she respectfully gives me the option of continuing my exit, or continuing to enjoy her company.
Others, just keep the conversation going. A much subtler approach. When the time is up I am looking for the opportunity to excuse myself to get cleaned up, but sometimes its obvious she's in no hurry to end our discussion.
Occasionally, usually with a regular, I will excuse myself to go to the shower and the lady will tell me there is no hurry. This way I am being respectful of her time, and she respectfully gives me the option of continuing my exit, or continuing to enjoy her company.
I've seen a couple Montreal ladies when they came to TO and they recognized me from when I used to spend time in Montreal for work. If I was the last client for the day before they had to leave or they were free for a bit, they'd just ask if I was busy after, if not, they asked if I'd go with them outside for a walk or grab a drink down the street or just lay in bed and chat/cuddle etc. No harm in asking the client if he wasn't busy after to chill for a bit.
I'm usually pretty time constrained myself, so haven't stayed for long after my scheduled time. I have had a couple of ladies ask to shower with me after because they wanted to continue chatting after having a good connection during the session. I also recently had a lady knock at the shower door to just chat while I was cleaning up after. I enjoy those little "moments" a lot.
I had invited this lady to my hotel for a massage+. She turned out to be a beautiful young lady with a great personality and we kinda hit it off. Anyway, after the finish, she hinted that she could stay longer and we could go for the full meal deal. I didn't realize what she was offering at the time but in retrospect the look on her face was hurt and not disappointment when I said I didn't have anymore roses. I'm such a bozo! Anyway, a short story just to say you should just say so if you want him to stay, life is too short.
Seven years ago met this amazing, beautiful, charismatic, funny, escort. Seven years later we are still travelling together at least 6 times per year. Now, she is one of my best and dearest friends.
I have been asked to stay 3 or 4 times over the years...
In a couple of cases I would have stayed, but in each case it was also made clear that I had to come up with more cash!
What kind of a "sentimental" invitation is that? It is simply an up-sell!!!
Perry
In a couple of cases I would have stayed, but in each case it was also made clear that I had to come up with more cash!
What kind of a "sentimental" invitation is that? It is simply an up-sell!!!
Perry
