When Is It OK to Walk Away?

[Tau]

During a phone call with the well-known Miss Taylor at Mirage, over an earlier incident, she asked me this question and caught me a bit off guard. She asked "why didn't you just walk away?". My initial reaction was, that option didn't occur to me. Thinking about why it hadn't occurred to me afterwards, I think it was because I had just assumed that it would not be acceptable or at the very least very bad etiquette. However, her question suggested otherwise -ie; there may be circumstances where it would be OK to walk away from an appointment. So here is the question. You've book with an SP you have not met before, and for whatever reason something doesn't feel right, you have a feeling that this is not going to work out well - it's looking like a mistake. Under what circumstances would it be OK to try and explain you do not wish to continue and walk away? Not sure if the answer would differ depending on the specific situation. For example, if you've booked:

a) With a Spa - presumably there would be other SPs available, and perhaps you can ask to try someone else instead? Would that be considered bad etiquette?
b) An incall with an agency - I guess you can ask if there is another SP readily available. Would that be considered bad etiquette?
c) An incall with an Independent;
d) An Outcall with an agency or independent - you options may be a bit different here (?)

Under the above situations, what would constitute reasonable causes to walk away from an appointment?

I would like to hear the views from both sides - the Terbites and the SPs. And as I write this, I recall that SPs usually state that they always have the right to refuse service, presumably for legitimate reasons (eg: Hygiene, drunk or bad behaviour & etc....) - which I fully support.

And, if you do walk away, what type of compensation (%?), if any, should the SP be entitled to?

 

[JanHammer]

You walk away when you're not happy. It's a service. There is no need to explain yourself. But, I am always kind and friendly about it. I often say 'you're not the girl in the photos', too.

I do it all the time. If I don't like the look of the girl, the apartment/hotel room, if there's someone in the bathroom.

Although crude - spaman has a point. There is no legally binding contract with the provider.

 

[Titalian]

Come on guys cut him a break, he's probably new to this.
First off to avoid these situations, do your due diligence and research the reviews thoroughly.

As far as walking out which has happened to me a few times especially with bp ladies there are many legit reasons
- Bait and Switch
- lying about service
- up selling
- Hygiene and this could include the room or establishment itself
- Poor or bad attitude
As far as compensation, that's optional and up to you, I've done it a few times.

 

[JanHammer]

Come on guys cut him a break, he's probably new to this.

What did I say

 

[Tau]

JanHammer; I don't think that comment was directed at your post. There was another post before yours that has been removed; by the Admin, I assume.

 

[Titalian]

What did I say

JanHammer; I don't think that comment was directed at your post. There was another post before yours that has been removed; by the Admin, I assume.

Thats right my comment was not directed. at JanHammer but at spaman.

 

[Cassidy-Jasmine]

It's okay to walk away before you start the session, but at least let us know why....And if you've begun at least compensate for the time you've taken up. But usually you can tell it's not going to work out in the first 15 minutes. Personally I'd rather you leave then be miserable. And as a professiona, I appreciate the feedback if there's something I can do to improve on.

 

[NorthernBear]

Leave immediately without compensation to the girl if you feel 100% that you have been taken in by a B&S situation. If the girl appears under the influence of drugs or alcohol it is another reason to leave without leaving compensation.

Regarding a pre-booked appointment at a spa, it is extremely bad etiquette to ask to see other girls once you arrive.
Photos can be deceptive, not necessarily B&S but maybe a bit different than how she really looks. My rule of thumb is that I do not book with a spa girl unless I have seen her before, either in the room or in passing.
If she is so busy that booking is your only option, bite the bullet since she must be doing something good to be that popular

If I were to go to an incall location and while the girl looked great the room and surroundings looked less than comfortable, I would bail but possibly leave $20+ depending on how much I think might be out of the girl's control.

 

[JoeyJames]

I agree with all of the above. It IS a service, and while it probably feels crappy to all those involved to walk away for certain reasons, there's no point in staying and paying for a service you know you aren't really going to enjoy. From an SP perspective, it wouldn't be fun to be with a client who wasn't into it anyhow. That said, go easy if your reasoning is purely personal preference. I have heard a number of girls over the years tell stories of how rude clients can be when turning them away/walking away. No need for that.
a) I have no experience here.
b) An incall with an agency - Don't ask to see someone else in front of the girl. That's not nice. You can politely give an excuse to her and then call the agency to explain why you're not going through with it, and my assumption is they will offer someone else.
c) An incall with an Independent; deal with it how you feel comfortable-- as honestly and politely as possible. Unless of course it's B&S or some other kind of crap she pulled on you. lol.
d) An Outcall with an agency or independent - If they're reputable, same as above. I know that some might ask for a cancellation fee for their travel expense, but in my experience most reputable providers and agencies wouldn't do this in most cases. You may feel that you'd like to provide something for her troubles, should it be that you simply aren't feeling it.

I know it probably doesn't feel good to turn someone away or walk away, but in this particular industry it happens. Just be reasonable and polite.

 

[Titalian]

It's okay to walk away before you start the session, but at least let us know why....And if you've begun at least compensate for the time you've taken up. But usually you can tell it's not going to work out in the first 15 minutes. Personally I'd rather you leave then be miserable. And as a professiona, I appreciate the feedback if there's something I can do to improve on.

My first time walking out, was with a high end escort, Her pictures didn't match ?? And?

 

[Tau]

Thanks for all your feedback so far; they have been helpful for me to formulate a better understanding of what perspective may be fair to both the SP and the Client. I would summaries the feedback so far thus:

For those SPs who were not totally honest in their ads -eg: pics, age, B&S, or if there are issues with hygiene or attitude, the client should be able to walk away as he was misled (or expected standards are not met) by the ad and no compensation should be expected.

If the SP's ad was accurate, and if the client is walking for purely personal preference reasons, then some compensation for the time booked would be fair, for the lost opportunity cost.

 

[Tau]

It's okay to walk away before you start the session, but at least let us know why....And if you've begun at least compensate for the time you've taken up. But usually you can tell it's not going to work out in the first 15 minutes. Personally I'd rather you leave then be miserable. And as a professiona, I appreciate the feedback if there's something I can do to improve on.

I have found that the SPs usually ask for the $ upfront, so I am not sure how one can get any $ back after you've paid. You may be one of the few who may offer this opportunity to your clients, but I am not sure if most of the SPs would be as generous.

 

[nobody123]

If the SP's ad was accurate, and if the client is walking for purely personal preference reasons, then some compensation for the time booked would be fair, for the lost opportunity cost.

Not "some", but "all". Some SPs will cut you some slack depending on why you cancelled and how long you booked, but basically, if you back out at the last second or beyond, you should be obliged to pay the full amount.