Do I need a lawyer, or just contact police?

[Omega 600]

So, I've gotten to know one gal over the years as an SP. I really enjoyed her service and followed her through various agencies.

She's now officially left the business, but we had maintained a relationship, unfortunately revealing my real name etc. She knows my married situation, kids activities.

She's recently sent me an email, that was apparently sent last week but I had not checked my email until now. She's demanding 10K by today or else she's spilling the beans to everyone!
According to the criminal code of Canada, those found guilty of extortion could get 4 years to life in prison.

I have not yet responded as I'm shocked. Thought there might be insight here.
Should I contact a lawyer? Should I call the police?
Don't want too much going on at home, so I need it discreet.
P.S. I don't even have 1K available right now as I have not been paid yet on various contracts and my line of credit is maxed out. I'm totally lost here!

 

[Carling]

So, I've gotten to know one gal over the years as an SP. I really enjoyed her service and followed her through various agencies.

She's now officially left the business, but we had maintained a relationship, unfortunately revealing my real name etc. She knows my married situation, kids activities.

She's recently sent me an email, that was apparently sent last week but I had not checked my email until now. She's demanding 10K by today or else she's spilling the beans to everyone!
According to the criminal code of Canada, those found guilty of extortion could get 4 years to life in prison.

I have not yet responded as I'm shocked. Thought there might be insight here.
Should I contact a lawyer? Should I call the police?
Don't want too much going on at home, so I need it discreet.
P.S. I don't even have 1K available right now as I have not been paid yet on various contracts and my line of credit is maxed out. I'm totally lost here!

contact police or a lawyer... i think it can be done discreet as well.. or if you want, call her bluff....

 

[Mr. Piggy]

Either way your wife will probably find out. This is extortion, call the police.

 

[MRBJX]

Getting the police involved WILL create alot of shit.

Your wife will find out about it, there'll be a long ass waiting period and possibly a trial, it's a stress better avoided.

Amicable resolution between you both should be tried, maybe you have, find out what her beef is and why she's doing this to you, it could be a new BF or involvement with the wrong crowd then you'll have to go to the police. Obviously save all the emails, change your email password and forward the emails to another account for backup.

 

[TeasePlease]

Wow! sorry to hear this. Obviously a very delicate situation. More facts are needed, like the background of your relationship,were you strictly professional or did it get personal, what you may or may not have told her, etc. I'd try talking to her first. Be reasonable.

On the surface, it sounds like extortion. She hasn't carried out her threat. So, the police can do something about (investigate and lay charges). A lawyer can't do anything really (other than write a stern letter, which will cost you $).

Note that once you file a complaint with the police, it's largely out of your hands.

For example, if they decide to lay charges against her, what would she have to lose by going ahead with her threat anyways?

 

[MRBJX]

Wow! sorry to hear this. Obviously a very delicate situation. More facts are needed, like the background of your relationship,were you strictly professional or did it get personal, what you may or may not have told her, etc. I'd try talking to her first. Be reasonable.

On the surface, it sounds like extortion. She hasn't carried out her threat. So, the police can do something about (investigate and lay charges). A lawyer can't do anything really (other than write a stern letter, which will cost you $).

Note that once you file a complaint with the police, it's largely out of your hands.

For example, if they decide to lay charges against her, what would she have to lose by going ahead with her threat anyways?

if they lay charges - she'll have conditions for release that probably include not talking with him or his family in any capacity - breach in this case would probably sit her in remand for a long while.

 

[asterwald]

I know some sp's that make that much in a month. If she is from the industry and reasonably good looking. She probably won't take the risk over a mere 10k. Also its pretty weird the day you checked the email just happens to be the deadline.


Just tell her the truth. If you ain't got the dough she is wasting her time.

 

[mandrill]

Call the cops, not a lawyer. They will protect your confidentiality and the trial will be held in closed court.

 

[danmand]

I doubt it is a real case of extortion. If it was, she would not have left a paper (email) trail. I would assume it is a request for payment for services, with hints of bad consequences if the payment is not forthcoming.

Of course, I may very well be completely wrong.

 

[richaceg]

Why would you think your wife will believe all this shit in the first place. Let your wife read the email...like this is some kind of spam which is possible. Call the cops. Plan your excuses to your wife you could be a victim of internet fraud and they stole your identity. Unless of course your wife don't find you credible. It's always better to give your wife the heads up about the shitstorm that's rising in the horizon.

 

[IRIS]

Did you contact her personally? Maybe his ex BF or a pimp or someone else used her email system and try to make some money. You never know.I don't want to save her but everyone has enemies.

 

[IM469]

Call the cops, not a lawyer. They will protect your confidentiality and the trial will be held in closed court.

Blackmailers never go away and like sharks with blood, money just encourages them.

A lawyer might scare her because you have enough proof to go to the cops if she does contact your wife. I'm not sure once the cops are involved, if your ability to get her to just disappear will be an option.

Keep us informed - I don't divulge anything outside my personal cell phone number during my hobbying but the resolution to your problem would be a valuable lesson.

 

[buttercup]

If she's been an SP for some years, agency and indie, she's obviously gonna know about terb. So now she knows what sort of strategies you're likely to be contemplating.

Obviously, your situation is a worry. But remember the golden rule - deny, deny, deny. However, if you do have that priceless benefit politicians call 'Plausible Deniability', don't tell anybody anything. Not police. Not lawyers. They can't help you with your denial, and it makes it hard for you to deny everything, if you've already 'confessed' to them.

You might counter-threaten her that, if she blabs, you'll go to rev.can. If she's the kind of person who stoops to blackmail, she's not likely to have declared every cent of her income as an SP.

 

[crazy_gurl]

Contact police and call her out on the boards in case she comes back in the business!!!
Why do people burn bridges. She deserves what ever comes her way
Best of luck
xo

So, I've gotten to know one gal over the years as an SP. I really enjoyed her service and followed her through various agencies.

She's now officially left the business, but we had maintained a relationship, unfortunately revealing my real name etc. She knows my married situation, kids activities.

She's recently sent me an email, that was apparently sent last week but I had not checked my email until now. She's demanding 10K by today or else she's spilling the beans to everyone!
According to the criminal code of Canada, those found guilty of extortion could get 4 years to life in prison.

I have not yet responded as I'm shocked. Thought there might be insight here.
Should I contact a lawyer? Should I call the police?
Don't want too much going on at home, so I need it discreet.
P.S. I don't even have 1K available right now as I have not been paid yet on various contracts and my line of credit is maxed out. I'm totally lost here!

 

[wangbang]

She's now officially left the business, but we had maintained a relationship, unfortunately revealing my real name etc. She knows my married situation, kids activities.

I can't give you advice on how to handle this but I can advise others and use this post as a warning:

Do not give out your real name, address, job, board handle(s) or park your car anywhere that would expose your lic. plate. This is supposed to be an anonymous business and I wish guys would get with the program! I'm single with a SO but even being single I never book without covering my ass.

 

[GEMSHINER]

To ensure complete anonymity you could contact a PI. I have a few clients doing this 2 are ex cops,they assure discretion and are very professional ,not the "In your face,TV portrayals".
Good luck

 

[rld]

In this case, lawyer first, then police.

 

[Omega 600]

Basically, with details omitted, here's her email

I have been doing a lot of thinking over the past while, the past long while… My life has been truly shattered by the world of escorting and manipulative men like you who prey on the poverty stricken. It must be nice to go on living your life as you do with your lovely wife, the kids, your home and business as well as your other involvement. Having me along on business trips for the only purpose to fuck me. These are things I could never do to the future father of my children; these are things I hope most people could never do…

It’s not fair that people like yourself succeed in life and people like me just fall apart, all used up and fade away…

I want a new life, a life men like yourself have denied me the chance of having … I want you to fund my 10 K run to freedom…

You have until February 14th 2014. I’m sure you will figure it out… I should hope for both are sakes you are able to figure it out…

 

[alex52]

Its clear sp is mentally disturbed, and is lashing out. I would inform her that you are prepared to go the police if she persist with the blackmail, there is good chance she will back down.

 

[rld]

Basically, with details omitted, here's her email

I have been doing a lot of thinking over the past while, the past long while… My life has been truly shattered by the world of escorting and manipulative men like you who prey on the poverty stricken. It must be nice to go on living your life as you do with your lovely wife, the kids, your home and business as well as your other involvement. Having me along on business trips for the only purpose to fuck me. These are things I could never do to the future father of my children; these are things I hope most people could never do…

It’s not fair that people like yourself succeed in life and people like me just fall apart, all used up and fade away…

I want a new life, a life men like yourself have denied me the chance of having … I want you to fund my 10 K run to freedom…

You have until February 14th 2014. I’m sure you will figure it out… I should hope for both are sakes you are able to figure it out…

The good news for you is that today is January 13, so you have a month, not a day as your OP suggested.

Details like that should be important to you.