boyfriends or husbands of sp's and mpa's?
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Recurrence of this question on this board makes me wonder if
those seeking an answer to it belong to one of these groups:
a) Those who hide their hobby from their families and friends.
b) Those who have no problem with their families and friends
knowing about their patronage of the sex industries.
c) Those who have no families and friends and hence have no idea
about what it is like getting caught doing what they are doing.
An appropriate response to this question asked by people of
group a and c would be: "Get a life".
those seeking an answer to it belong to one of these groups:
a) Those who hide their hobby from their families and friends.
b) Those who have no problem with their families and friends
knowing about their patronage of the sex industries.
c) Those who have no families and friends and hence have no idea
about what it is like getting caught doing what they are doing.
An appropriate response to this question asked by people of
group a and c would be: "Get a life".
Relationships are built on trust. If you can't trust the person you're in a relationship with it's time to find a new relationship.
I for one would not have a problem with a girlfriend/spouse who wants to be financially independent or contribute to that aspect of the household by working in this industry.
This industry pays very well and allows for a solid work-life balance. Time is especially precious in the child rearing years and the industry allows for solid pay and flexible hours.
I for one would not have a problem with a girlfriend/spouse who wants to be financially independent or contribute to that aspect of the household by working in this industry.
This industry pays very well and allows for a solid work-life balance. Time is especially precious in the child rearing years and the industry allows for solid pay and flexible hours.
I think only the bfs are qualified to answer this one. Anything from regular guys is just conjecture and speculation.
I wouldn't want a bf/gf/husband/wife loose it and attack me right afterwards. Sometimes you never know what they are thinking.
Oh. I wonder if the bf are also the ones who take the pics of them too?
I've been liking an mp and wondered how to handle her being with so many customers.
Well it hasn't bothered you so far since she has other customers and you still like her.
Maybe you can get hired as their towel boy and peer into the peep hole to get new ways to make her happy.
here is an example:
I was talking with a MPA and she wanted me to go to the spa party.
my response was, I can only spend a couple of minutes with you because you have to go around and mingle with your "potential" customers.
The other problem is that other customers will see your "connection" and may pass on her.
If you wonder, then it isn't for you.
If you think the spa would be happy about it - they won't.
If you believe you can continue in a spa relationship - you can't
You have to be past the "like stage" to be in a relationship, if it is an encounter, liking is fine, but it won't last past the second you disapprove.
UNLESS YOU HAVE A GOOD EXIT STRATEGY
I was the BF of a for a bit, about 3 months. Somewhat to my surprise I was OK with it. The thing that made it OK was that since I had met her as a client I had a great understanding of how different she was sexually as an SP vs. a girlfriend. I also had a strong appreciation for the lack of true emotion in everyday client/SP interactions.
Ironically, the reason we broke up was that over time she became very unhappy that I was OK with her continuing to work.
KK
I would imagine that part of the reason they are able to manage whatever uncomfortable emotions arise is connected to the fact that they don't regard their partner as "their woman." :wink:
Jealousy and insecurity are normal emotions that occur in all types of relationships, whether they are monogamous marriages, polyamorous relationships, or even client/provider relationships. I've had several clients confess to me that they feel jealous about my interactions with other men. They often find these feelings very confusing.
To get back to your question, though - How does anyone handle jealousy? How does anyone handle insecurity? The answer, of course, is in a wide variety of ways. Some men in monogamous relationships are constantly paranoid about being cheated on, while others are confident that the boundaries of their relationship will be respected. Some people will do the responsible thing and take steps to figure out how to cope with uncomfortable emotions in a mature way, while others will not.
It can be challenging, but not impossible to manage jealousy, and I think that statement applies to ALL types of relationships.
Thanks for bringing up the topic. I know it's been discussed before, but it's one I find particularly fascinating!
- Holly -
