being tied up by a client you have never meet

[foxxxy lady]

:Eek: I was just curious, I had a request from a member, who tells me its too bad that I'm not submissive, anyhow I asked him what he meant by that, The response 'Anything goes' so again I ask what do you mean?. This guy I don't know from a hole in the wall has no reviews on any girls, wants to tie me up. I would say this is stupid not submissive. Wtf

xo amber

 

[thumper18474]

Trust is a big part of doing something like that...cus you are at his mercy...so to speak
Tread carefully sweety and above all ..if your spidey sense starts tingling listen to it...and don't go thru with it...
That's something that you should do with someone you know and trust first.....NOT someone new right off the bat...
AND you need someone close by incase things go south

 

[foxxxy lady]

Trust is a big part of doing something like that...cus you are at his mercy...so to speak
Tread carefully sweety and above all ..if your spidey sense starts tingling listen to it...and don't go thru with it...
That's something that you should do with someone you know and trust first.....NOT someone new right off the bat...
AND you need someone close by incase things go south

He's all upset know cause I supposedly broke trust with him (like I know this guy), I never posted his handle nor was planning on it, now he is acting in a threatening manner. Weird shit xo amber

 

[thumper18474]

Fuckwads are everywhere...LOL
If he is from here..post it in the PSA area or wherever tell Admin.
don't put up with that shit sweety
if he is here he should be banned..period

 

[fuji]

He's all upset know cause I supposedly broke trust with him (like I know this guy), I never posted his handle nor was planning on it, now he is acting in a threatening manner. Weird shit xo amber

Threatening?

Clearly your initial gut reaction was the right reaction.

What a jackass.

 

[Aardvark154]

Foxxxy lady. The operative point is that you say you don't know him from a hole in the wall - which I presume means that you've never met.

As Thumper said this is all about trust, right now you don't trust him. He should respect that, in time perhaps you will but this sort of thing comes with time and mutual respect.

This is also a two way street. It is a extremely upsetting experience to have an SP who said they were perfectly comfortable with a particular scenario, go "all wiggy." (and an strong argument for having such a conversation via e-mail).

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Oh now additional information which in many ways changes what I said above. Sounds like your instincts were entirely correct.

 

[Keebler Elf]

I had a request from a member, who tells me its too bad that I'm not submissive

This is your typical negging from an insecure guy who wants to put women down and coerce them into doings things they wouldn't otherwise do.

Allowing yourself to be tied up by a complete stranger is completely fucking stupid and if that guy won't admit it then he's EXACTLY the kind of psycho that you want to avoid.

 

[asterwald]

welcome to the internet

 

[acutus]

'If he is from here..post it in the PSA'

I agree. This individual sounds like a dangerous, disturbed person. Sincerely, Jon .

 

[acutus]

Allowing yourself to be tied up by a complete stranger is completely fucking stupid and if that guy won't admit it then he's EXACTLY the kind of psycho that you want to avoid.

I agree. Sincerely, Jon .

 

[lazysausage]

Thats actually pretty fucked

 

[The Oracle]

Tell you what, you can tie me up anytime you wish.

I trust you.

 

[gcostanza]

:Eek: I was just curious, I had a request from a member, who tells me its too bad that I'm not submissive, anyhow I asked him what he meant by that, The response 'Anything goes' so again I ask what do you mean?. This guy I don't know from a hole in the wall has no reviews on any girls, wants to tie me up. I would say this is stupid not submissive. Wtf

xo amber

Urrrr, no.

 

[harryass]

:Eek: I was just curious, I had a request from a member, who tells me its too bad that I'm not submissive, anyhow I asked him what he meant by that, The response 'Anything goes' so again I ask what do you mean?. This guy I don't know from a hole in the wall has no reviews on any girls, wants to tie me up. I would say this is stupid not submissive. Wtf


xo amber

He's all upset know cause I supposedly broke trust with him (like I know this guy), I never posted his handle nor was planning on it, now he is acting in a threatening manner. Weird shit xo amber

you don't know him and now he's threatening you cuz you broke his trust? WTF! What a wacko fuck job!! Your decision to not do it is the only and right choice. Better yet, don't even see this big creepo again.

 

[AJstar]

I say let him tie you up,as long as you have a couple of armed bouncers in the room.
Seriously though, you already know this guy is a few cards short and to just stay away.

 

[MrMessi]

In this sketchy situation you have everything too loose and nothing to gain. Your decision should be crystal clear.

 

[foxxxy lady]

Thank you for all your responses, I think that being submissive is one thing, but being tied up by a stranger who then gets all defensive because I asked a question on this board, without saying his handle so( I wasn't trying to embarrass him, in anyway) or break his so call trust,( statement which is very strange) . I think he is just playing games I just think people need to ask questions when in doubt and this board is op's and sp's to do that. Thanks again Amber
http://foxxxylady.callgirlfiles.com/home/

 

[FlorenceYi]

Foxxxy Lady,
I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you before, but I think I can relate. I've had requests like this before and they really are not worth the risk in my opinion. For me it's just a matter of ruining the mood before you even meet, before the initial building of a rapport. I mean, once comfortable with someone, it's much easier to talk about kinks and fantasies right? I understand for many, they want to ensure they get the experience they want, but it may be a question of what risks you are willing to take in your profession. I know I'd be averse to agreeing to being tied up on a first date.. heck I'm even hesitant if a couple contacts me. I'm just a small person so safety is huge for me. If he had gone a different approach, perhaps.. but the way he went about it doesn't leave a good first impression and his reaction, completely distasteful.
Florence.

 

[anonymong]

I just wandered into this thread ... I just want to say that the picture of you behind the gauzy cloth is one of the most erotic pictures I have ever seen. Wow!

 

[blackrock13]

It's sounds like you spidey senses have proven to be right. Let's make it unanimous, walk away.