I'll give you this that there are women who fit your description to the letter. But they aren't the norm, just the exception. Imho, there are more women that prefer goals achieved through self-fulfillment. I work in the wedding industry, I have frequent interactions with women in relationships, and just on my own anecdotal experience, most of the women I've met would do almost anything for their S.O. I've rarely met a bridezilla, something I was quite surprised about initially. I can't speak to why the experiences for some of you here have been so bad, but even in the so called "frigid Toronto", I routinely find myself amazed by people, of both genders here.