Dating an sp
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Probably not as I did a search and nothing came up. This is likely the first time this question has been asked or commented on. Should be interesting.
LOLseriously... I wonder how many threads there actually are? probably hundreds....
I lied. I did not actually search as I did not want to risk crashing the server!
Consider that a dinner date session with a decent SP could cost you
around $1k. Dating a SP outside her business hours would make you
feel like you've saved yourself $10k.
1k just for dinner? she better be giving me head under the table at least.. In reality, the client is supposed to pay for the dinner as well as her eating the dinner? That's ridiculous.
I've taken out my regular 2 times which she did not charge me.. Though I did voluntarily pay for the bill. Unless you guys agreed on sexual activities prior or after the dinner, I don't see why you have to pay for her to eat and talk.. if she really enjoys your company.
Do a search! There's plenty of info already here. Your handle is copacetic.........lazy is right!
There's nothing wrong with paying for the bill.
In fact, there's something very unsexy about a man pushing the bill over to a woman on a date (especially if he asked her out).
I'm of two mind's on this issue. I've dated a former escort and one who was still in the Biz.The former escort was fantastic in bed, but a mess in real life......the one still in the biz was great to be with but left all the "work related" sex at work(read:her clients got all the really dirty stuff).If i was ever single again i would again but i'd be looking for the red flags unique to someone in her field.
http://runronred.wordpress.com/2011/07/26/the-stigma-of-dating-a-sex-worker/
This one might also be helpful.
This one might also be helpful.
Lets not act like jealousy is an inherent trait shared only by the male gender.
I dated an sp who was quite famous on this board years ago. At first it wasn't so bad, but as my feelings grew for her it became harder for me to deal with her work, every time she would take trips out of town she would call and tell me how much she missed me but would cut the conversation short because a client was coming. That was tough. After a while I convinced her to leave the business. she went back to school for a while and tried to hold down several jobs. The problem was she had been in the life for so long she couldn't fit in with so called "normal people." There were some other issues that she was dealing with and I stuck by her for about three years, and I know she was seeing clients and lieing to me about it. Finally we broke up and she moved to Ottawa and I haven't heard from her in years now. Looking back Im not sure I would do it again there was a lot of heartache but when we were together it was the best. And the sex was mind blowing. With all due respect to the ladies on this board I would have to say just based on my experience a man cant have a serious or healthy relationship with an sp.
You must have put a lot of heart into writing that, I respect that. Thank you for sharing your true thoughts.
Awesome referential material
I myself have had strange experiences, mostly due to not being able to read the situation or the Woman in question.
I met an SP years ago and saw her regularly for about a year when she mentioned we should go out and see a movie together, no strings. I still paid for actual "encounters" but we would hang out a lot. Here and there a non charged encounter if we were hagning out and it segued into something, but if I called her up and wanted to just meet up in a room somewhere then business as usual.
Eventually we came to an agreement of being a couple and it went well, or so I thought. Here and there I asked if there was something else she would rather do than be a SP. She wasn't interested, so I dropped it quickly.
Then at about year 3, she cries and screams at me, WHY DIDN'T I MAKE HER STOP....
as you can imagine it didn't go much further afterwards.
After that, different woman, not much of a build up, about 3 months, our dates were over nighters so things progressed much quicker. Actually together for another 3 months, and then came time for her to go see her family. I Loved her so much I asked her to marry me, she said no. That I was much too young, and that she had a boyfriend back home (her boyfriend is the one who had sent her out to be an SP), and that she was comfortable with her situation.
And a bit before I knew about this board, I met a wonderful SP. But drawing on my past experience I wondered "what's the play?".
Should I help her keep up her business by writing reviews? Would she see that as me not being interested in her outside of a professional context?
Should I stay quiet and silently hope she quits on her own? Should I tell her to quit? Should I just date her and see what she decides?
She has since retired, but honestly, how to even broach the subject without seeming clingy or like every want to be white knight?
Oh the humanity of it all
X
I myself have had strange experiences, mostly due to not being able to read the situation or the Woman in question.
I met an SP years ago and saw her regularly for about a year when she mentioned we should go out and see a movie together, no strings. I still paid for actual "encounters" but we would hang out a lot. Here and there a non charged encounter if we were hagning out and it segued into something, but if I called her up and wanted to just meet up in a room somewhere then business as usual.
Eventually we came to an agreement of being a couple and it went well, or so I thought. Here and there I asked if there was something else she would rather do than be a SP. She wasn't interested, so I dropped it quickly.
Then at about year 3, she cries and screams at me, WHY DIDN'T I MAKE HER STOP....
as you can imagine it didn't go much further afterwards.
After that, different woman, not much of a build up, about 3 months, our dates were over nighters so things progressed much quicker. Actually together for another 3 months, and then came time for her to go see her family. I Loved her so much I asked her to marry me, she said no. That I was much too young, and that she had a boyfriend back home (her boyfriend is the one who had sent her out to be an SP), and that she was comfortable with her situation.
And a bit before I knew about this board, I met a wonderful SP. But drawing on my past experience I wondered "what's the play?".
Should I help her keep up her business by writing reviews? Would she see that as me not being interested in her outside of a professional context?
Should I stay quiet and silently hope she quits on her own? Should I tell her to quit? Should I just date her and see what she decides?
She has since retired, but honestly, how to even broach the subject without seeming clingy or like every want to be white knight?
Oh the humanity of it all
X
Another good post that I enjoyed reading very much. A little piece of me dies inside every time I read one of these experiences and it seems like it always doesn't end well. I shall take these note to heart because I see that the pain and money you guys suffered and I can see it isn't really worth it. Hopefully you guys have started dating non-sp girls. There is always plenty of fish in the sea.
