Dating a Civilian Man? ;)

[Miss.Lexi]

In contrast to all the "Dating SP" threads, I thought I would share my personal experience with dating civilian men.

In my private life, I have dated a couple of men (yes, one of them was a client), who knew what I was doing for a living. Through this experience, I can definitely say that the experiences were not pleasant.

The one man who was a former client insisted that he could save me from the horrors of escorting (a proposal that I've heard numerous times). He also became extremely jealous of my work. I find it interesting how he was completely OK with my work until we started dating on a personal level.

The other civilian also slowly became extremely jealous of my work, and became quite obsessional!

In conclusion, I had decided a while ago to keep my work completely separate from work and personal relationships!



btw, this post is NOT an invitation to anyone to start a private relationship with me or to save me from the tragedy that is my work


Miss Lexi

 

[I'm not here]

As long as the relationship isn't serious I that will work. Are you going to tell him when it gets serious and he's ready to propose?

 

[avxl1003]

Just wondering.. At what point did you stop asking for "donations" from the guy who was a client but became a boyfriend?

Or did he one day just start insisting that it was free because it was a "date" and not an "appointment"?

I could never ask out an SP.. At least not during a session.. MAYBE if I bumped into a favourite SP in civilian life... But even then, I'd know that the whole time she'd be thinking I was just a guy trying to get a freebie...


OOH! And one more question.. As an SP, would you consider it cheating if your boyfriend were to hire other SPs?

 

[lazysausage]

Good question, since you're free to not be monogamous why can't we? I hate it when a sp thinks that I could only hobby with her like i'm sort of money cow.

 

[Toronto`s Finest]

PREFACE: This is NOT in invitation to start a private relationship. , lol. So for me as a guy owning an agency, I understand the psychology of many ladies working & realize it is biz & thus thay are not going to just fall in love with a client instantaniously & esp. if they are in a stable good relationship already: THUS for me dating an s.p. is workable becuase I don't get jealous knowing she isn't gunna fall in love with a client just like that AND am NOT trying to rescue. PLUS for me there is the opposite: civilian women are not so cool about their guy operating a service. There is the added aspect that I am a swinger type that gets off seeing my girl having fun..... at the swinger clubs. :eyebrows:

 

[Aardvark154]

a former client insisted that he could save me from the horrors of escorting. . . He also became extremely jealous of my work. I find it interesting how he was completely OK with my work until we started dating on a personal level.

Welcome to the world of male psychology. I rather doubt that the vast majority of us here would be any different.

Further, if you dated someone who wasn’t that way, I suspect that as time went by you would begin to find it troubling.

 

[TeasePlease]

In my private life, I have dated a couple of men (yes, one of them was a client), who knew what I was doing for a living. Through this experience, I can definitely say that the experiences were not pleasant.

The one man who was a former client insisted that he could save me from the horrors of escorting (a proposal that I've heard numerous times). He also became extremely jealous of my work. I find it interesting how he was completely OK with my work until we started dating on a personal level.

Miss Lexi

Consider how you met. I find it amusing when girls say that "it's just business". The fact is, shit happens. All the time.

 

[avxl1003]

I've heard interviews with porn stars where they complain that most civilian guys their with either get jealous or end up "cheating". And that they don't consider what they're doing "cheating" because it's their job... Which I actually get.. Hence why they usually end up with other porn stars (or total douche bags).. Because the male porn stars "get it".

However, in the case of dating an SP, would it be considered cheating if the guy did it with another SP? You as an SP are simply making money (not cheating).. It's your job.. But is it cheating if he hires ANOTHER SP? The argument might be made that he's also just taking part in the same business (just as a customer)..

 

[needtono]

It's cheating if your partner doesn't know about it. That's the same regardless of her profession.

 

[avxl1003]

It's cheating if your partner doesn't know about it. That's the same regardless of her profession.

But would you think that the SP should be okay with her boyfriend hiring another SP??

Should he be able to say to her "Lexi, I think I might go see a movie and then maybe swing by Ember's place for a $250 shag tomorrow night"?

 

[needtono]

But would you think that the SP should be okay with her boyfriend hiring another SP??

Should he be able to say to her "Lexi, I think I might go see a movie and then maybe swing by Ember's place for a $250 shag tomorrow night"?

Maybe... Maybe not. I would think that would be something that they would discuss before becoming bf/gf. She might not be OK with him seeing other people, SP's or civilians. If he chooses to enter into a bf/gf relationship anyways, and still see other people, that's cheating.

 

[wangbang]

The other civilian also slowly became extremely jealous of my work, and became quite obsessional!

Just the nature of the beast. The greatest fear most men have with women is that they will have sex with someone else. The greatest fear most women have with men is an emotional bond with another woman. Been like that forever.

 

[fmahovalich]

And to switch it around, would the OP be completely comfortable with her man being an escort, wined and dined by rich wives and then taken to her bed for frolic, arriving home late unable to perform?

would the OP be good with that in a reverse world?

 

[K Douglas]

All I know is that I could never date an escort, especially if I've already seen her as a client. One of my policies is never to mix 'business with pleasure' so to speak. I believe that providers should follow the same mantra because it almost always ends negatively. To the OP you are wiser due to the learning experience so not all bad

 

[Frosty]

Why I'm available, Lexi. :eyebrows:


All set aside. Yeah, what did you expect? If you date a client and you continued to be an escort. Of course the guy is gonna get jealous. You're screwing other men. Who the hell, in a serious relationship would agree to that.

 

[afterhours]

That's where the problem lies. If the SP see's it as "business" and her partner is having fun. Sex is sex, emotion is not always a part of it, but an "open relationship" is not something most can handle, even an SP who sees 10 to 30 guys a week.

Every situation is different.

it helps a lot if you are not in love

 

[fuji]

An open relationship is just another way of saying dating but not yet seriously attached. A failure to commit, like the relationship got stuck at the one month mark and never progressed.

Makes sense in the context of an SP, but I expect the moment she retires from the business she will expect to take it to the next level like every other woman.

 

[afterhours]

Makes sense in the context of an SP, but I expect the moment she retires from the business she will expect to take it to the next level like every other woman.

A proper way to date an SP is depicted in Pretty Woman. As soon as one likes an SP one should start paying her enough not to fuck other men while the relationship progresses. Since no one can afford that, dating SPs is always gonna leave a bad taste and can't really go nowhere.

 

[mrsCALoki]

A proper way to date an SP is depicted in Pretty Woman. As soon as one likes an SP one should start paying her enough not to fuck other men while the relationship progresses. Since no one can afford that, dating SPs is always gonna leave a bad taste and can't really go nowhere.

no one? I thought stats Canada said 1 in 10,000 men could? So hundreds can in Toronto?

 

[heatherstouch]

It's not easy to be an SP and date! I make up a lot of reasons to not get close!