Need Stripper Dating Advice
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I waited for a dancer to change into her street clothes so we could go play pool. When she came back out I didn't recognize her. She wore a plain beige pant suit and a blouse with a "nun's collar".
Wowzers I do feel lucky I didn't have that problem when I met my ex we were together for a year and the male strippers I take home I am not having that problem where they change like a hologram
Some strippers are happy to go on dinner dates with their customers. Meet up with her a couple of hours before her shift at the most expensive restaurant she can think of then drive her to work and drop another couple of hundred on a few dances.she's likely a full time student from a small town and part time dancer. She just want to be friends with you.
That is a stripper's idea of a perfect date.
On a second date you and your credit card can take her shopping.
Actually this is one of those really interesting "cultural" differences between strippers and escorts.
For whatever reason, MOST escorts are much clearer around where the lines are. If an escort accepts an invitation to a date, and she doesn't quote a price, it's probably really a date. Escorts are usually pretty sensitive around making it clear what is on, and what is off the clock. Strippers, for whatever reason, do whatever they possibly clan to blur the line between working and dating and get a real kick out of getting some sucker to fall in love with them and drop thousands of dollars before figuring it out.
Maybe because hustling is a clear part of the stripper job description to the extent of convincing you to head up to the VIP? Maybe because the escort transaction is just that much clearer on what you get for your money? I don't know.
For whatever reason, MOST escorts are much clearer around where the lines are. If an escort accepts an invitation to a date, and she doesn't quote a price, it's probably really a date. Escorts are usually pretty sensitive around making it clear what is on, and what is off the clock. Strippers, for whatever reason, do whatever they possibly clan to blur the line between working and dating and get a real kick out of getting some sucker to fall in love with them and drop thousands of dollars before figuring it out.
Maybe because hustling is a clear part of the stripper job description to the extent of convincing you to head up to the VIP? Maybe because the escort transaction is just that much clearer on what you get for your money? I don't know.
I dated a few strippers back in the early 80s. I freely admit that I was attracted to what I thought was a sense a vulnerability. I wanted to be a white knight.
Holy shit was I young and stupid.
Unlike escorts who make a living by selling you physical intimacy, exotic dancers sell the "promise" of physical intimacy and that requires perfecting the art of deception. There are exceptions to every rule but by and large dating a stripper will be nothing but grief. You're better to date an escort if you can keep your jealousy in check. There are fewer surprises.
Holy shit was I young and stupid.
Unlike escorts who make a living by selling you physical intimacy, exotic dancers sell the "promise" of physical intimacy and that requires perfecting the art of deception. There are exceptions to every rule but by and large dating a stripper will be nothing but grief. You're better to date an escort if you can keep your jealousy in check. There are fewer surprises.
Please that doesn't mean she's interested in dating you, although you may be the kind of guy that she would like to have you as a regular customer.
IF she trusts you over time, and you have things in common, then maybe, she may go out on a date, but start simple.
Manut, what he means is that strippers sell the mental idea of physical intimacy, not that they actually pretend to offer it. The whole lap dance experience had a kind of "if only" element.
Escorts don't usually mess around with the long slow tease that strippers do, they usually just get naked and fuck.
The stripper thing is all fantasy, and while the escort is providing a fantasy experience as well, the core service is very real.
We're just trying to think about why strippers are so much more likely to play the falling in love games. While escorts fake orgasms they don't generally want you to fall in love, whereas for a lot of strippers that's the goal.
Escorts don't usually mess around with the long slow tease that strippers do, they usually just get naked and fuck.
The stripper thing is all fantasy, and while the escort is providing a fantasy experience as well, the core service is very real.
We're just trying to think about why strippers are so much more likely to play the falling in love games. While escorts fake orgasms they don't generally want you to fall in love, whereas for a lot of strippers that's the goal.
Wow. You completely missed my point and oddly seem to disagree with my while completely validating what I said Let me try smaller words.
Strippers no sell sex but keep sex in air. Make bad girlfriend cuz always THINK fuck client.
Escorts sell sex. Always KNOW fuck client. Not best girlfriend either but simpler.
Ugh.
Just have fun, treat her like any other girl, hang out, grab a bite to eat, watch a movie, etc. If she starts to ask for major money, then it's time to call it quits. If she's good and I mean really good at her JOB, you'll be paying and paying and paying.
But if she doesn't feel comfortable seeing you in a club setting and wants to see you as a regular guy outside of that environment, then why the hell not? She's a woman and like any other she wants to be chased and caught. Just be a stand up guy and if you really like her, don't try to impress her, she probably makes more than you and has hundreds of guys crawling all over her. Be different and treat her like a lady.
But if she doesn't feel comfortable seeing you in a club setting and wants to see you as a regular guy outside of that environment, then why the hell not? She's a woman and like any other she wants to be chased and caught. Just be a stand up guy and if you really like her, don't try to impress her, she probably makes more than you and has hundreds of guys crawling all over her. Be different and treat her like a lady.
Seems people are split fairly even on whether or not to go for it. I'd say go for it, but only if you have very good self-control. If you start to development something for her, you may also start to development a tendency to overlook warning signs. I dated a stripper when I was in university and although I didn't meet her at a club, I did know what she did for a living. Even so, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and ended up getting burnt for it. Also remember that if you end up getting serious with her, you may have to come to grips with the fact she is gyrating over hundreds of other men day in and day out. Saying and believing you can accept that is much different than actually accepting it.
First time meeting you & she gives number: likely just networking for customers. All strippers do it
On the otherhand..... IF you are like my stepbrother: years ago when he was in his early 20's he was a total hot stud: 10/10. At every visit to a strip join girls were trying to pick him up. He was messin around with as many as he liked.
On the otherhand..... IF you are like my stepbrother: years ago when he was in his early 20's he was a total hot stud: 10/10. At every visit to a strip join girls were trying to pick him up. He was messin around with as many as he liked.
