Hi all,
There is a thread in one of the review forums that became hijacked (I know, happens all the time...) and rather than continue with the hijack, since I do want to hear other people’s opinion on the subject, I am creating a new thread in the General Area.
Recently a provider advertised that she was only interested in seeing clients of a particular race, I won’t provide the name and I do not want this thread to be about her, since that will elicit emotional reactions from her clients, and various other defences that are not germane to the subject. I don’t really want to discuss her; I want to hear opinions on what you think of this practice. I of course realize that a provider can absolutely choose who she chooses to see, I am not arguing that, but choosing based on race does raise my eyebrow.
I have heard responses like “since I as a customer am able to choose what type of providers I see, then it only seems fair that the provider should be able to choose” or “looking at dating sites, if a person states they only want to meet black people...that does make them racist...?”. All valid points, but I do not feel that they resonate correctly in this industry. Yes, customers get to choose, we always get to choose without any fear of reprisal or recrimination. Same way that I get to choose what type of restaurant I frequent based on my tastes, if I don’t care for <insert ethnic food choice here> food, I will simply not choose to frequent a restaurant that serves that kind of food. But a restaurant cannot choose its clientele, certainly not based on skin colour. And providers are not “dating” customers...the customers are paying them for a service; it is a business transaction in the end; so I am not sure that the dating analogy holds. Of course when dating or hooking up both parties have needs and they need to mesh in order to form a connection, which is generally not the case with a provider/client connection. I am certain that some providers “enjoy” some clients more than others, but there is no expectation of mutual attraction as there is in dating.
I am not trying to compare this industry with service in a restaurant, the level of intimacy clearly sets them apart, and I do not expect providers to act like automatons and not react to whom they are spending intimate time with. I am certain that providers have to put up with many male forms that would otherwise not turn their crank, but the race choice is of course very tricky, since there is a societal reaction to any form of...well...discrimination.
Again, please do not think that I am calling anyone a racist, I am not...I am simply asking for opinions. I am also not questioning an SP’s right to pick and choose who they see – it clearly is their right and it is unequivocal. And I have no clue on the background on why this provider chose to only see a certain race of people...nor do I really want to debate that...I just want to hear opinions on the practice in general.
There is a thread in one of the review forums that became hijacked (I know, happens all the time...) and rather than continue with the hijack, since I do want to hear other people’s opinion on the subject, I am creating a new thread in the General Area.
Recently a provider advertised that she was only interested in seeing clients of a particular race, I won’t provide the name and I do not want this thread to be about her, since that will elicit emotional reactions from her clients, and various other defences that are not germane to the subject. I don’t really want to discuss her; I want to hear opinions on what you think of this practice. I of course realize that a provider can absolutely choose who she chooses to see, I am not arguing that, but choosing based on race does raise my eyebrow.
I have heard responses like “since I as a customer am able to choose what type of providers I see, then it only seems fair that the provider should be able to choose” or “looking at dating sites, if a person states they only want to meet black people...that does make them racist...?”. All valid points, but I do not feel that they resonate correctly in this industry. Yes, customers get to choose, we always get to choose without any fear of reprisal or recrimination. Same way that I get to choose what type of restaurant I frequent based on my tastes, if I don’t care for <insert ethnic food choice here> food, I will simply not choose to frequent a restaurant that serves that kind of food. But a restaurant cannot choose its clientele, certainly not based on skin colour. And providers are not “dating” customers...the customers are paying them for a service; it is a business transaction in the end; so I am not sure that the dating analogy holds. Of course when dating or hooking up both parties have needs and they need to mesh in order to form a connection, which is generally not the case with a provider/client connection. I am certain that some providers “enjoy” some clients more than others, but there is no expectation of mutual attraction as there is in dating.
I am not trying to compare this industry with service in a restaurant, the level of intimacy clearly sets them apart, and I do not expect providers to act like automatons and not react to whom they are spending intimate time with. I am certain that providers have to put up with many male forms that would otherwise not turn their crank, but the race choice is of course very tricky, since there is a societal reaction to any form of...well...discrimination.
Again, please do not think that I am calling anyone a racist, I am not...I am simply asking for opinions. I am also not questioning an SP’s right to pick and choose who they see – it clearly is their right and it is unequivocal. And I have no clue on the background on why this provider chose to only see a certain race of people...nor do I really want to debate that...I just want to hear opinions on the practice in general.