Chances of being caught by wife or SO?

[Celticman]

I am single and not dating so I do not have any worries about hobbying. I have to tip my hat to the men with SO’s. There must be quite a few things to manage and, combined, the risk has to expand. I have no idea how you manage the whole enterprise. Some of the challenges that come to mind:

1. Money. Visibility of the bank account and withdraws on a regular or irregular basics.

2. Phone records and seeing a certain number on the phone or a bunch of numbers on the phone, or SO walking in on a phone conversation or reading texts, iMessages or BMMs. Locking the phone could bring on suspicions and a disposable phone could be found. Especially by a woman on a mission.

3. A change in behaviors like not answering your phone at certain times when your norm is generally to answer the phone all the times.

4. Being overly affectionate after seeing an SP because of guilt?

5. Internet browsing if you are carelessly leaving a browser history of hobby websites.

6. Hotel bills on credit cards for outcalls.

7. Return phone calls or texts from an SP an SP calls you back at the worst possible moment

8. Latent physical evidence like perfume or a long strand of hair on your shirt. I visited a lady on a Saturday morning. Had a quick shower to clean off the lower regions but never thought to wash my face. Went to work for a few hours in the afternoon. Huge office and always empty on the weekend. Except this time there was a female fellow employee, good friend, who I had not seen for quite a while. She ran over to give me a hug and she gave a look half way between knowing and surprise. The lingering aroma of DATY was still there! Cannot imagine trying to explain that in a relationship.

As I said, many men of Terb have to manage a great deal more than me.

 

[las venganza]

I am single and not dating so I do not have any worries about hobbying. I have to tip my hat to the men with SO’s. There must be quite a few things to manage and, combined, the risk has to expand. I have no idea how you manage the whole enterprise. Some of the challenges that come to mind:

1. Money. Visibility of the bank account and withdraws on a regular or irregular basics.

2. Phone records and seeing a certain number on the phone or a bunch of numbers on the phone, or SO walking in on a phone conversation or reading texts, iMessages or BMMs. Locking the phone could bring on suspicions and a disposable phone could be found. Especially by a woman on a mission.

3. A change in behaviors like not answering your phone at certain times when your norm is generally to answer the phone all the times.

4. Being overly affectionate after seeing an SP because of guilt?

5. Internet browsing if you are carelessly leaving a browser history of hobby websites.

6. Hotel bills on credit cards for outcalls.

7. Return phone calls or texts from an SP an SP calls you back at the worst possible moment

8. Latent physical evidence like perfume or a long strand of hair on your shirt. I visited a lady on a Saturday morning. Had a quick shower to clean off the lower regions but never thought to wash my face. Went to work for a few hours in the afternoon. Huge office and always empty on the weekend. Except this time there was a female fellow employee, good friend, who I had not seen for quite a while. She ran over to give me a hug and she gave a look half way between knowing and surprise. The lingering aroma of DATY was still there! Cannot imagine trying to explain that in a relationship.

As I said, many men of Terb have to manage a great deal more than me.

Very good points. I like the part about lingering daty smell...lmao!

 

[fuji]

1. Money. Visibility of the bank account and withdraws on a regular or irregular basics.

How hard this is to manage depends on whether the SP money is a significant portion of your ordinary spending. I wind up carrying around a lot of cash just from ordinary, non-suspicious stuff. I go out for dinner with friends, and put the whole bill on my card. Next time someone else picks it up. Sometimes I throw cash at the guy who paid the bill, sometimes they throw cash to me and it's on my card. There's lots of cash flow associated with some of my "legit" hobbies as well. I buy and sell guns online. Try one out, don't like it, sell it to someone else. Often it's cash trades, I bought a few hundred bucks worth of ammo off a guy the other day. Or sell a $3000 gun and buy a $2000 one. Anyway, a lot of cash flow there.

In the context of my lifestyle, a few hundred dollars here and there just disappears into the noise. If it was a lot of money for you, you might have to get creative.

2. Phone

Get a smartphone and install a VOIP phone app like Dell Voice or Vonage. Uninstall it when you aren't using it so there's no trace of it on your phone. When you want to make some bookings, install it, call out using the VOIP app and VOIP number. Receive call backs on it. When you're done, uninstall the app. It's a virtual hobby phone that is entirely digital and disappears when you aren't using it.

3. A change in behaviors like not answering your phone at certain times when your norm is generally to answer the phone all the times.

Long ago I developed the habit of not answering my phone every time it rings. The expectation everyone has if they call or text me, is that I'll get back to them within an hour or two. Aside from my belief that phone calls shouldn't interrupt conversations, my job is also the kind of thing that sometimes makes me busy at any time of day or night. If something goes wrong, I'm often the one calling around to organize a response. So I really might not be free, even if it's 9pm, sometimes shit just happens. This is actually true--my wife has seen me at home get a call at 10pm at night that cost me the next 2 hours putting out some sort of fire at work.

4. Being overly affectionate after seeing an SP because of guilt?

Grow up.

5. Internet browsing if you are carelessly leaving a browser history of hobby websites.

Again, install a browser just for this purpose and uninstall it when you aren't using it. On your phone, or on your PC. Or use a PC that you are sure your wife won't ever have access to.

6. Hotel bills on credit cards for outcalls.

Apply for a new credit card, opt for email billing.

7. Return phone calls or texts from an SP an SP calls you back at the worst possible moment

See above -- the app associated with your SP phone calls should be uninstalled at the worst possible moment.

8. Latent physical evidence like perfume or a long strand of hair on your shirt.

Hit the gym before you go home. Shower, change your clothes at the gym. Who doesn't? There are other strategies here as well. Avoid using smelly soap at an incall--a lot of them have perfumed soaps, and THIS is the smell that tends to linger on you, and it's not an easy one to explain. Bring your own, unscented soap if you have to. Cologne helps too.

 

[Closer68]

I recommend not participating in your own city/state/country.

 

[MrMessi]

When sex is absent at home and your always telling the wifey not today I'm tired.

She might know something is up or maybe your just jacking off, either way it's suspicious.

 

[mrsCALoki]

I guess from a slightly different point of view...

When I was young my Father used to see escorts, my mom knew, several of her friends knew, I knew. My Father seemed to think no one knew. Mom could not leave for several reasons, so she cried when he was not there, but stayed.

If my husband ever saw other women, I cannot imagine not discovering it.

 

[LKD]

you just gave any wives browsing this forum all the ways to bust their SO xDD

 

[HEYHEY]

How about don't get married if you gonna see escorts, or better yet don't see escorts if you're married lol
Seems like a no brainer

 

[Celticman]

How about don't get married if you gonna see escorts, or better yet don't see escorts if you're married lol
Seems like a no brainer

Just a wild guess, but would 90% of hobbyists being married be right? Ladies?

 

[papasmerf]

you want to play you have to pay or be free

 

[Celticman]

I don't think it much matters ... I think it's more important that we resist the urge to judge each other.

I learned that from Fred

Not about judging at all. This is no place to be judging people's sex lives, although a few do. I was curious about how many folk have to work at being safely discreet about this.

 

[Celticman]

I was directing my comment at the gentleman you quoted ... and his comment that married people shouldn't hobby. Sorry for the confusion. The majority of my clients are married or have a SO most certainly.

Both sorry

 

[dirkd101]

Here`s one guy getting close; https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?404545-Been-said-Before-just-a-reminder-Gentlemen

 

[GPIDEAL]

Very good points. I like the part about lingering daty smell...lmao!

Lingering smell of DATY is no joking matter. I'm single but got in an elevator still with pussy smell in my hair and nostrils years ago. Now I ensure I wash.

Do you remember a movie called The Incredible Lightness of Being? Do you remember when the married guy returns home and his wife slaps him in the head cuz he smells like 'sex'?

 

[S.C. Joe]

How hard this is to manage depends on whether the SP money is a significant portion of your ordinary spending. I wind up carrying around a lot of cash just from ordinary, non-suspicious stuff. I go out for dinner with friends, and put the whole bill on my card. Next time someone else picks it up. Sometimes I throw cash at the guy who paid the bill, sometimes they throw cash to me and it's on my card. There's lots of cash flow associated with some of my "legit" hobbies as well. I buy and sell guns online. Try one out, don't like it, sell it to someone else. Often it's cash trades, I bought a few hundred bucks worth of ammo off a guy the other day. Or sell a $3000 gun and buy a $2000 one. Anyway, a lot of cash flow there.

In the context of my lifestyle, a few hundred dollars here and there just disappears into the noise. If it was a lot of money for you, you might have to get creative.



Get a smartphone and install a VOIP phone app like Dell Voice or Vonage. Uninstall it when you aren't using it so there's no trace of it on your phone. When you want to make some bookings, install it, call out using the VOIP app and VOIP number. Receive call backs on it. When you're done, uninstall the app. It's a virtual hobby phone that is entirely digital and disappears when you aren't using it.



Long ago I developed the habit of not answering my phone every time it rings. The expectation everyone has if they call or text me, is that I'll get back to them within an hour or two. Aside from my belief that phone calls shouldn't interrupt conversations, my job is also the kind of thing that sometimes makes me busy at any time of day or night. If something goes wrong, I'm often the one calling around to organize a response. So I really might not be free, even if it's 9pm, sometimes shit just happens. This is actually true--my wife has seen me at home get a call at 10pm at night that cost me the next 2 hours putting out some sort of fire at work.



Grow up.



Again, install a browser just for this purpose and uninstall it when you aren't using it. On your phone, or on your PC. Or use a PC that you are sure your wife won't ever have access to.



Apply for a new credit card, opt for email billing.



See above -- the app associated with your SP phone calls should be uninstalled at the worst possible moment.



Hit the gym before you go home. Shower, change your clothes at the gym. Who doesn't? There are other strategies here as well. Avoid using smelly soap at an incall--a lot of them have perfumed soaps, and THIS is the smell that tends to linger on you, and it's not an easy one to explain. Bring your own, unscented soap if you have to. Cologne helps too.

How bout just manning up..so much work to be a sneak, IMO

Yeah I'm single and don't give a shit if I stay single, when I read stuff like this it makes my head spin. Hell if I let some lady boss me around

 

[richaceg]

I spend $300 + per half hour of fun depending on MP or SP. $40 door fee...$60 to $100 tip depending on which provider (MP/SP) and $200 always goes to the SO on her way to the mall...it's burning a hole in my pockets but I sleep soundly at night without worrying where my penis would be in the morning.

 

[good to go]

you want to play you have to pay or be free

Either way you are paying. If you take her out to dinner and other things you might find it would be more costly and it is not a sure thing.

 

[alb]

When sex is absent at home and your always telling the wifey not today I'm tired.

She might know something is up or maybe your just jacking off, either way it's suspicious.

No, she won't. When sex is absent at home it is mostly due to the wife not being in the mood on a constant basis to satisfy her husband. This I believe is the main reason men with wives or SO's hobby because they don't get hardly any sex from their wifes on a regular basis to satisfy their sex drive.

The only people telling their spouses they are too tired for sex on a regular basis are the wives. I have never been in a position where I am never too tired for sex when asked. I always rise to the occasion.

 

[good to go]

Variety is the spice of life.

 

[MyHobbyist]

Very good points. I like the part about lingering daty smell...lmao!

AHHAHA lingering smell!