Unreliable women - my story involving a nutcase

[JamesDouglas]

There's nothing I hate more than a woman who makes plans and then cancels last minute. Let me tell you a story about a woman who went beyond that.

I "met" her on a dating website about a month ago. This woman was seemingly perfect, very cute and gorgeous, she's a 5'3", 120 pound, 28 year old brunette who is extremely kinky and horny, and who's intelligent, sweet, witty, funny...and from Hamilton.

We make plans to see each other for the weekend, she doesn't drive so she'd have to take the train to come see me in Toronto (and yes I was going to pay her fare and more, and wine and dine her), the plan was for her to spend the entire weekend with me in my condo. She's late, and I text her asking her if she's coming...no reply.... several texts later asking the same thing and still no response, I give up and figure she's a flake and head to bed. I text her in the morning and ask what happened and she says, "I'm sooo sorry, I still want to spend time with you and come next weekend." I figured ok, I'll give her one more chance.

The next weekend she actually shows up, which was surprising and she was absolutely perfect. She was so hot, so horny, so kinky, so sweet, we kissed for hours and had so much fun in my bed, in the shower, on my couch. The plan was for her to come spend time with me every weekend, or as many as she can, from now on. She even left a couple of sexy outfits for me to keep since we'd be seeing each other so often.

So the next weekend comes, she says she's all packed, showered, and ready to go. She's late, and I text her asking her where she is....no reply... a few more texts, and no reply again. I go to sleep and the next morning she texts me saying how sorry she was and how she'd make it up to me next weekend (i.e. this weekend).

This weekend comes around, and the same story, she says she's all packed and ready to go, again she's late, I keep texting her asking her where she is, and no answer. I'm thinking, what a bitch, if you have to cancel that's fine, just let me know and tell me that you're not coming instead of having me wait around for you doing nothing for 3 out of the 4 past Friday nights. I could have made other plans. On Saturday morning I didn't get a text apologizing, I guess she figured no sane guy would tolerate her shit for the third time, so she obviously realizes it's over and I won't be giving her a 4th chance.

I've never encountered a woman who was so disrespectful and inconsiderate before. It figures that a woman that perfect had to have a major character flaw, it's unfortunate, but there's nothing I can do, I really liked her too.

 

[Closer68]

On any given night, you need to have dates set up with 3 different women.

Rank them, in order of attractiveness, 1, 2, and 3.

One or two of them WILL flake out on you (probably #1 and/or #2), so that way you have a backup ready.

In the event that two or three of them are available, then go out with the ugliest one, totally flake out on the most attractive one, and tell the other one that something came up but you want to see her later that evening (in case your date doesn't fuck you).

Remember, women are completely flaky and they have many options. The only way to keep your sanity is to have a plan.

In my opinion, this chick smells desperation on you and is repulsed by it.

 

[Klute]

I would say the girl has done the same thing making a Plan A, B and C. And you were not Plan A. So try not to get that upset over it.

Klute

 

[TheQuim]

You met her on a dating site. Guaranteed she has a few guys on the ropes. When you text her off the hook she isn't responding cause she's with another guy. Be more laid back and casual with her. Treat her the way she treats you. Don't make her a priority.Have a few girls as back up when she flakes out on you and DONT text her asking what happened, you know exactly what happened.

 

[JamesDouglas]

The past Friday night I did have a backup plan, see my thread on the unpleasant scent of some pussies, I was with a cute 20 year old Persian girl with a D cup, unfortunately her scent below was not that great.

About desperation...it doesn't explain her behaviour. If she thought I was desperate the first weekend she flaked out on me before she even met me and didn't bother to let me know she's not coming, why did she come the second weekend and spend the entire weekend with me?

If I'm her plan B or C that's fine, I have no issues with that, my issue is why she doesn't bother letting me know she's not coming. All it takes is one simple text saying "something else came up, I can't come", that's what a decent person would do.

 

[TheQuim]

Because her plan A fell thru,your'e plan B. The weekend she stiffed you she had better plans. Regardless she's obviously inconsiderate.

 

[RandyAndy2]

The way I see it, communication is important in any relationship. You have to let her know your expectations. That is, that she has to show you enough respect to let you know if she can't make it, preferrably far enough in advance so that it doesn't screw up your weekend. If this doesn't work for her then it's time to move on. You can't let her own you just because she's good in bed (or shower, couch, etc.).

 

[JamesDouglas]

I gave her sexy outfits to goodwill.

 

[Petzel]

On any given night, you need to have dates set up with 3 different women.

Rank them, in order of attractiveness, 1, 2, and 3.

One or two of them WILL flake out on you (probably #1 and/or #2), so that way you have a backup ready.

In the event that two or three of them are available, then go out with the ugliest one, totally flake out on the most attractive one, and tell the other one that something came up but you want to see her later that evening (in case your date doesn't fuck you).

Remember, women are completely flaky and they have many options. The only way to keep your sanity is to have a plan.

In my opinion, this chick smells desperation on you and is repulsed by it.

I wouldn't recommend that cuz then if all 3 show up he's in deep shit! Best to chalk it up to experience and cut your losses. Some women are flaky but not all and treat others as you want to be treated.

 

[simon482]

how is she is a nutcase cuz she didn't bother to follow threw on coming to see you ? sounds more like unreliable at best. if i read this right she hesitated for coming the first time which can be explained as simply as she was scared to go to a city and meet some guy off the net when she didn't really know anything about him. then she stopped coming altogether after coming to see you once which could mean you smell bad and suck in bed and she was just trying to let you down gentle.

so it might not be her fault. you got to think of the angles but on any angle she is not a nutcase.

 

[blackrock13]

Nut case no, just socially challenged, immature, irresponsible. She's not interested enough in you to show on time, more often or not, OR at all. Don't waste your time. She'll drive you bonkers. With cell phones, it's not hard to call someone and at least say you're going to be late, missed the train or something came up. Walk away. This is easy stuff. Can you imagine what she'd do with something more difficult or important?

Am I clear enough for you.

 

[JamesDouglas]

how is she is a nutcase cuz she didn't bother to follow threw on coming to see you ? sounds more like unreliable at best. if i read this right she hesitated for coming the first time which can be explained as simply as she was scared to go to a city and meet some guy off the net when she didn't really know anything about him. then she stopped coming altogether after coming to see you once which could mean you smell bad and suck in bed and she was just trying to let you down gentle.

so it might not be her fault. you got to think of the angles but on any angle she is not a nutcase.

After she saw me we texted and chatted on the phone every night, plus her behaviour was exactly the same on weekend 1 before she met me as it was on weekends 3 and 4 after she met me. I'm also often told that I'm well groomed and smell good, plus you can't fake squirting meaning I must not suck that much in bed, so your hypothesis is wrong, nice try though. Nutcase is not an accurate description, I think inconsiderate, flakey and/or a bitch is a better way to put it.

 

[JamesDouglas]

Nut case no, just socially challenged, immature, irresponsible. She's not interested enough in you to show on time, more often or not, OR at all. Don't waste your time. She'll drive you bonkers. With cell phones, it's not hard to call someone and at least say you're going to be late, missed the train or something came up. Walk away. This is easy stuff. Can you imagine what she'd do with something more difficult or important?

Am I clear enough for you.

She works part time with children at a daycare, and can't find a full-time teaching job, I wonder why.

 

[james t kirk]

You met her on a dating site. Guaranteed she has a few guys on the ropes. When you text her off the hook she isn't responding cause she's with another guy. Be more laid back and casual with her. Treat her the way she treats you. Don't make her a priority.Have a few girls as back up when she flakes out on you and DONT text her asking what happened, you know exactly what happened.

Bingo.

This man is wise.

Rule of thumb - you call her, if your call doesn't get returned, at most, make 1 more call and then never call her again.

(Note I said call and not text)

But I have the feeling that the OP is under 30.

Usually by about 30 or so, the 17 year old "in awe of women boy" burns off. One good thing about getting older is that you no longer give a fuck about playing mind games with women and putting up with female drama / bullshit.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

She is testing you to see if you are a Wipple Weasel. She has a stable of other weasels that are all in the contest to see which one she will pick. The one that gets her as a prize will be the one that is the most malleable of the bunch. This is not the only criteria on how she will make her choice. The other traits she is looking for is a person that will take care of her needs, and has the ability to do so. The one with money will also offer her an exit stategey in the form if divorce in the future.

 

[blackrock13]

She works part time with children at a daycare, and can't find a full-time teaching job, I wonder why.

don't knock her choice of work. It's hard grind, you won't get rich and people think it's a easy job. She's just not prioritizing her responsibilities, even for easy stuff.

 

[Closer68]

I wouldn't recommend that cuz then if all 3 show up he's in deep shit! Best to chalk it up to experience and cut your losses. Some women are flaky but not all and treat others as you want to be treated.

Like I said, you cancel the hot one and delay the silver medalist. The fatty will be so grateful she'll start sucking him off, he'll bang #2 later, and #1 will be intrigued since nobody ever blows her off.

This is what was going on with Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky btw... ML was the fatty, which is why he wouldn't allow her to make him cum... He was saving his old man seed for later that night..

 

[JamesDouglas]

Like I said, you cancel the hot one and delay the silver medalist. The fatty will be so grateful she'll stuck sucking him off, he'll bang #2 later, and #1 will be intrigued since nobody ever blows her off.

This is what was going on with Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky btw... ML was the fatty, which is why he wouldn't allow her to make him cum... He was saving his old man seed for later that night..

LOL, it must be true, why else would the most powerful man in the world risk his marriage and presidency for an unattractive porker?

 

[JamesDouglas]

don't knock her choice of work. It's hard grind, you won't get rich and people think it's a easy job. She's just not prioritizing her responsibilities, even for easy stuff.

She can't get hired full time because she probably just decides to skip days without calling in sick and notifying anyone of her absence. I wonder how she'll survive in this world once her looks start to fade. If she was smart she'd marry a sugardaddy as soon as possible, divorce him, and take half of his assets.

 

[james t kirk]

She can't get hired full time because she probably just decides to skip days without calling in sick and notifying anyone of her absence. I wonder how she'll survive in this world once her looks start to fade. If she was smart she'd marry a sugardaddy as soon as possible, divorce him, and take half of his assets.

She would only be entitled to half his assets that were accumulated while they were married, the exception being the "marital home" - which she would automatically own half of regardless of whether or not he owned it before they were married.