GF an escort?

[TROOPS]

She is what she does isn't necessarily true and is somewhat simplistic. A person is much more than just what they do or the sum of their acts! There are many compenents and qualities that each person has that makes them unique and multi-faceted. Saying she is what she does, doesn't take this into account.

I get your point.



But to me this whole topic is no different than the dumbass that goes to a strip joint to fall in love with a stripper. the dummy that says, i think she likes me, i think she loves me, ..................no dummy she love your money. She's young, she's hot........outside in the real world, she don't wanna be seen with you.


Let just say, your odds of having a better chance of making your relationship work, is with a NON industry girl. Theres millions of women out there. These industry women, who i respect are just a small number of them in the fish bowl of single women.

 

[IM469]

1. Keeps something special that is private and exclusive only to you.

For most pimp/ boyfriends - that would be all the money she earns.

 

[skyfire]

I couldn't agree more with bazokajoe! I think it's trouble..gf that is a SP...just saying!!

Holy shit another stupid thread about guys that have a gf thats an escort.It's usually started by someone who falls for an escort.

 

[bazokajoe]

I am the same way with my ex's.Spoil them rotten and get nothin in return.

 

[SinnamonFairbanks]

There are no serious relationships for an escort. Unless you lie about it so the other person doesnt have to think about it but thats not fair. In my experience relationships came and went. They come quick and burn out quicker. Even as a MA men didnt trust that i wasnt providing escort services... Even though i wasn't! But try and tell someone that when thats what they strongly believe... You can talk until your blue in the face... Then you get cheated on and there's all the emotional pain and the jealousy... Its better to just pick one or the other.... Dating an escort.... Is just a bad idea all around

 

[TeasePlease]

Not saying she can't. but you say, its what she duz, not who she is. She is what she does. theres no way to sugar coat this and say, i'm proud of my "girlfriend" at what she does for a living.

Reality for these women.............it just does not last. relationship that is. thats why for many of them, its a lifestyle choice they made when becoming an escort .

they know, one day they will have to choose what they want. Love or this job.

Absolutely. Rationalizing the job or an act doesn't change the fact if what is done.

And then there's the whole issue of what the job does to a person. Most women get into the job with some sort of baggage. The experiences they encounter simply add to that baggage. I don't care what anyone says. Even the most well adjusted women I've talked to will admit that they've been changed in a bad way, at least in part, by the job. Even if it's only lost innocence and a deep seeded inability to trust. Even if a girl has the extreme fortune of seeing only great, generous clients, she knows deep down inside that at least some of those kind, gentle men are inherently cheaters. It truly shakes ones confidence in love, loyalty and romance.

 

[GG2]

It's workable if you're both her boyfriend and pimp. I've known a fair number of guys in this style of relationship. If she's using the money she earns from sex work to lavish you with expensive clothes, furniture, trips, meals, and to pay off your loans, credit cards and gambling debts, the relationship can be successful for quite awhile.

 

[CamRooster]

It's actually quite simple.

If you're the monogamous type, it's going to bother you, and you won't get over it. If you're the non-monogamous type, you'll deal with it just like you would deal with her having relationship (sexual or otherwise) with other people than you.

I'm over-simplifying of course, and I know of monogamous type people who have dated/are dating escort and are doing just fine (and I'm sure some non-monogamous people would have issues with the sex-work thing), but as a general rule, some people are OK with their partner having sex with other people (for work or fun), and some people just can't wrap their head around it. Figure out which type you are, and proceed accordingly.

I really am not the monogamist type, I really don’t care what or who my GF does, the only thing I care about is what she does with me and our time together. I never have dated a SP but it would not bother me.
With that being said”I not the monogamist type” my GF’s usually have an issue with that.
Now that I am thinking about it maybe I should date a stripper?
CamRooster

 

[wyngarde]

Make her pay for dinner when you go out, then you'll be thinking every forkful of steak you're putting in your mouth was paid for by a naked middle-aged bald fat guy.

Yeah... or else horny as fuck hedge fund interns. lol.

You could always test her by telling her you want to have kids with her. That'll mess with her mind . If she doesn't dump you then you know either she truly loves you or she's totally fucking crazy!

 

[Medman52]

Great advice folks, thanks so much!

So many varying thoughts and they all somehow make sense, but it is extremely difficult, especially when the "L" word is involved!

 

[mademan]

The average person has about 10 sexual exploitations in their lives with 10 different partners. Truth is we probably know 90% more about sex than any civvies. Just because you got a BBBJ doesn't mean it was good. My theory has always been that just because you screw doesn't mean you know technique ....now apply that to DFK, DATY Greek, etc..
If most civvy women saw videos of us with some of the amazing PSE providers here, they would faint.Think about it.

WTF!!!
How can you say that living in The City.....FFS?!?!?!....:Eek:

You must not be a native New Yorker!....:eyebrows:

 

[Hiding]

Oh hi, dating-an-escort thread! Its been what, a month since we last spoke? Can't say I missed you...

YES, dating an escort is possible (but improbable). If you can't separate sex and love, you're doomed and if you have to post about it on TERB you're doomed already. If you're the type who thinks about what she's doing, its not going to work. The vast majority of the SPs I know aren't single and there are many longterm, loving, sustainable relationships within that not-single group. I really doubt the men and women I know who are dating escorts think about it any more than the men and women who are dating a woman in any other type of job. If it matters to you just don't get involved.


GG2: we're always disagreeing and I love it (read: I hate what you have to say and I think you're almost always wrong, but I like that you have the balls to say it). Book me under your handle so we can have a long-waited-for hate fuck, there has to be more to you than being hateful, close-minded and judgmental on the internet.

 

[wazup]

The reality is, you could have the most mind blowing session (according to the john), and two days later bump into the girl at the Eatons Centre, she would dive into a garbage can rather than talk to or be seen with you (us).

 

[TeasePlease]

The reality is, you could have the most mind blowing session (according to the john), and two days later bump into the girl at the Eatons Centre, she would dive into a garbage can rather than talk to or be seen with you (us).

Speak for yourself.

 

[Resolute]

I tend to think that if you have to ask the question and you can't come with any answers of your own that it's probably not a good idea to continue. It takes a very specific kind of outlook to be able to date an SP. I don't want to say "you either have it or you don't" but I feel as if that's fairly close to the mark.

 

[S.C. Joe]

The reality is, you could have the most mind blowing session (according to the john), and two days later bump into the girl at the Eatons Centre, she would dive into a garbage can rather than talk to or be seen with you (us).

Well a simple smile - without stopping, I don't believe most SP would mind. Sure you don't run up and throw your arms around her and French kiss her next to her BF, ha ha

The way things are today, IMO more gals then ever are putting out for cash. Maybe not full time but to think most gals only make love when they have sex is so old fashion its silly to believe most are like that.

Oh sure, you got the pretenders, this weekend in their favorite club, they might be acting like they are 17 once again with the young men checking them out.

 

[S.C. Joe]

It's workable if you're both her boyfriend and pimp. I've known a fair number of guys in this style of relationship. If she's using the money she earns from sex work to lavish you with expensive clothes, furniture, trips, meals, and to pay off your loans, credit cards and gambling debts, the relationship can be successful for quite awhile.

Cut out the pimp BS, its their BF in a open relationship. Pimp's abuse and exploit the ladies, most SP' BF are not pimps, that is a myth to give the BF's of SP's a bad name

 

[Vermeer27]

If she's attractive enough to be a successful Sp, then she can probably have her choice of men, including some of her clients, some of whom may be wealthier, taller, better-hung,or in rare case, even better looking than you. Yet, she "chooses" to be with you. Remind yourself of this.
However, that said, suggest an open relationship and see what see says.

 

[S.C. Joe]

If she's attractive enough to be a successful Sp, then she can probably have her choice of men, including some of her clients, some of whom may be wealthier, taller, better-hung,or in rare case, even better looking than you. Yet, she "chooses" to be with you. Remind yourself of this.
However, that said, suggest an open relationship and see what see says.

Who cares, you got a good thing going IMO. She isn't going to want you dating other gals, just how it goes. She feels she is not making love to her clients and its different. I doubt if she will not mind you seeing other gals, why ruin a good thing. Chances are it be history in a year or two, enjoy it while you can and don't rock the boat

 

[mrsCALoki]

It's actually quite simple.

If you're the monogamous type, it's going to bother you, and you won't get over it. If you're the non-monogamous type, you'll deal with it just like you would deal with her having relationship (sexual or otherwise) with other people than you.

I'm over-simplifying of course, and I know of monogamous type people who have dated/are dating escort and are doing just fine (and I'm sure some non-monogamous people would have issues with the sex-work thing), but as a general rule, some people are OK with their partner having sex with other people (for work or fun), and some people just can't wrap their head around it. Figure out which type you are, and proceed accordingly.

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