Dating a co-worker

[Samurai Joey]

I would concur with the others here that as long as the OP is technically the boss of the woman, he most definitely should not even think of pursuing a relationship with the above-mentioned woman until she moves to another position.

However, unless there are specific provisions within the company prohibiting this, I do not see any problem in dating a colleague. After all, we all probably spend more time at work than at any other time, and so there are opportunities to meet someone that is of interest to you. Of course, the situation could get complicated if you work in the same department, but then again, I've known co-workers who have met their future spouses at work, and I've known married couples working in the same company as well.

 

[kkelso]

How easy would it be for you to get another job? Jobs come & go, but true love can be once in a lifetime.

That having been said, given the current economic climate, and your lukewarm description of your feelings toward her it may be best to look elsewhere.

 

[Knight Rider]

Not a good idea. Too many complications can happen when dating a work collegue.

 

[GPIDEAL]

When will she move to that other position? Perhaps at that party, you can just discuss your interest in her too, but that it would be inappropriate to act on it until after she moves to that other position. At least you've made some progress and have set the stage without breaking any rules.

 

[sugardaddy76]

Never dip your pen in company ink. That can cause nothing but trouble going forward.

 

[blackrock13]

Never dip your pen in company ink. That can cause nothing but trouble going forward.

Well, i still stand by what I posted earlier, but I have to say there are exceptions. I know a number of happily married couples who met at work. It is tricky, but not a minefield. The big difficulty is you're almost never apart. You work, eat, sleep, and maybe play house together.

 

[CapitalGuy]

Its an awful idea, but in 200 years you will have been dead for the better part of 150 years, and no one will give a flying fuck what happened in your life. So, do what feels good, while trying not to hurt others. Fuck it, and ask her out.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

I disagree. Fucking your employee potentially puts them into a difficult position, where they may feel that their job depends on fucking you (even if that's not your intent). There are therefore legitimate questions as to whether it is really consensual. No such coercion exists in the case of simple adultery.

How is hitting on a vulnerable immigrant who thinks you are single and could become her Canadian spouse (when in reality you just want to get in her pants) more ethical than dating a co-worker?

 

[fuji]

How is hitting on a vulnerable immigrant who thinks you are single and could become her Canadian spouse (when in reality you just want to get in her pants) more ethical than dating a co-worker?

I never said dating a coworker was unethical. I said dating your employee had consent issues. Namely that the employee might feel that refusing sex would cost them their job.

Dating a coworker might blow up in your face and create a problem but that's a practical concern not an ethical concern.

 

[out4fun]

I don't see the big deal. I have worked with colleagues that have dated, and currently 2 of my co-workers are married to people that they met at our current work place.

 

[scrooge]

I don't see the big deal. I have worked with colleagues that have dated, and currently 2 of my co-workers are married to people that they met at our current work place.

Were they merely coworkers or was one a subordinate?

Gotta agree with Fuji here.

 

[fuji]

I don't see the big deal. I have worked with colleagues that have dated, and currently 2 of my co-workers are married to people that they met at our current work place.

Dating a coworker (as opposed to your employee) is not a big deal, the downside though is if you break up and it's not amicable your workplace can become a living hell.

 

[out4fun]

Were they merely coworkers or was one a subordinate?

Gotta agree with Fuji here.

Just co-workers - but one of my best friends is married to a lady that works for the company he runs. If both people are mature enought o handle it, I don't really see what the big fuss would be...

 

[assoholic1]

very very bad idea, you will effect not just the relationship between the two of you.
But it will also effect many other relationships you have at work.

 

[fuji]

Just co-workers - but one of my best friends is married to a lady that works for the company he runs. If both people are mature enought o handle it, I don't really see what the big fuss would be...

That is a very big if. People generally don't plan for a relationship to turn out badly, but if it does, and you are her boss, expect to be taken to the cleaners when she files her sexual discrimination lawsuit.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

Didn't Bill Gates marry an employee? They seem happy.

 

[out4fun]

I think there is a way to handle things tactfully. Not every work relationship ends with a lawsuit.

 

[Petzel]

Didn't Bill Gates marry an employee? They seem happy.

Yes he did. They met at the company picnic! Now she's the lucky wife of a billionaire.

 

[Gator3x]

Just co-workers - but one of my best friends is married to a lady that works for the company he runs. If both people are mature enought o handle it, I don't really see what the big fuss would be...

I would agree that many couples have met at work and are extremely happy, but remember about fishing in the Company Pond!

 

[blackrock13]

Not hard to spot the jilted ones in this thread.