About dating today's young women: a young male's perspective

[GPIDEAL]

I was at the bank today, and some customer left their keys at the wicket. I told the teller about it and joked that if the key chain was a Ferrari's, I might have traded it with mine. He joked that if I did, I could've at least taken a joy ride. I joked that I'd not return until after Friday night as it would be quite the babe magnet. Eventually, the rightful owner returned to pick up his keys.

Kidding aside, we talked about the dating scene and what it takes to go far in this day and age. This was a good-looking guy in his twenties, so it was surprising to hear from him that it was tough even for young guys. He said he knew a mate who was young and good-looking but said, 'You can be nice and good-looking, but if you ain't got game, girls these days will eat you up. You wouldn't survive."

I said "Really? Are these girls at posh clubs? What do they want?".

He said money helps but if you ain't got game, you're toast. He said that attitude wasn't limited to gold diggers at posh clubs. (I was told you'd find them even at Arizona's by the Airport).

Interesting observation, but I'm not sure if I'm that surprised given the material world we live in and effect of pop culture on society.

 

[Frosty]

What is "ain't got game"? Help me with the lingo.

 

[GPIDEAL]

In dating, when you can charm girls to get want you want. Basically, a guy who knows how to impress and get a lot of chicks.

(In sports, when you're really good. Right now, Tiger's got no game).

 

[Frosty]

Oh man, I'm fucked.

 

[Don Draper]

Having 'game' is just another metaphor for having confidence, charm and moxy. All the qualities that make a man forever more interesting to a woman than any material possessions.

If you can engage a woman in good conversation, make her feel sexy and desired and make her want and miss you, she won't measure you by what car you drive or how much $ you make. All desire, lust and passion roots from the brain, not a bank account.

If a woman is that shallow, she's not worth any kind of pursuit anyway.

 

[1HandInMyPocket]

What is "ain't got game"? Help me with the lingo.

Having "It", or the "X" Factor

 

[GPIDEAL]

Having 'game' is just another metaphor for having confidence, charm and moxy. All the qualities that make a man forever more interesting to a woman than any material possessions.

If you can engage a woman in good conversation, make her feel sexy and desired and make her want and miss you, she won't measure you by what car you drive or how much $ you make. All desire, lust and passion roots from the brain, not a bank account.

If a woman is that shallow, she's not worth any kind of pursuit anyway.

From the master himself - yes, well put.

Add to the charm list, having a good sense of humour and making girls laugh.

 

[flyingwood]

make her want and miss you

That's the key part. Once you achieve that, she would do anything to please you. And you got married and she let herself go. You found her less and less desirable. Then you start booking SPs.

 

[Jane Bond]

lol I like how this thread is developing. Hmmm I think if the guy shows respect for the girl and genuinely shows concern for her well being that's the most appealing type. Agreed - $ is not the most important b/c money can't buy everything.

 

[Babypowder]

$ is definitely not important. But showing value is very important.

 

[gudnite]

You need to be able to touch that deep senitive inner part in a woman...... And when you have she will let you know it. Guys are a lot easier big head little head...........

 

[capncrunch]

I think if the guy shows respect for the girl and genuinely shows concern for her well being that's the most appealing type.

One would think or even hope that. But it's been proven over and over and over again: It's the guys with that "edge" that says "bad boy" are the ones getting the chicks. Even those women who appeal the loudest and holler, "No bad boys for me. I want a nice guy!" are the very same ones that go back to the bad boy over and over again.

But hey, don't take my word for it. Smiling men study: Do women prefer bad boys?

Where do I pick up some of this bad boy stuff?

 

[flyingwood]

lol I like how this thread is developing. Hmmm I think if the guy shows respect for the girl and genuinely shows concern for her well being that's the most appealing type. Agreed - $ is not the most important b/c money can't buy everything.

Not really. You have to concern your well being as well and let her do her part of work so that she feels you two building something together. That feeling will bring her close to you. If you fail to let her move her ass to do something for you, you will get nothing. It's all about how to achieve a favorable power dynamic in an relationship.

 

[Art Mann]

One would think or even hope that. But it's been proven over and over and over again: It's the guys with that "edge" that says "bad boy" are the ones getting the chicks. Even those women who appeal the loudest and holler, "No bad boys for me. I want a nice guy!" are the very same ones that go back to the bad boy over and over again.

But hey, don't take my word for it. Smiling men study: Do women prefer bad boys?

Interesting feedback to the report in capncrunch's link. This one's from bodiethebulldog:

Are you kidding me?? Women don't even know what women want...it changes every 30 seconds! Monday = Sugar daddy, Tuesday = Mr Sensitive, Wednesday = Mr sense of humor, Thursday = Bad Boy, Friday = Jerk, Saturday = No Mr.! Goin out with the girls, Sunday = back to Mr Sensitive and REPEAT!

 

[afterhours]

lol I like how this thread is developing. Hmmm I think if the guy shows respect for the girl and genuinely shows concern for her well being that's the most appealing type. Agreed - $ is not the most important b/c money can't buy everything.

Nice guys finish last

 

[flyingwood]

Nice guys finish last

And be cheated on first. Have you ever seen a girl cheating on her badboy with a nice guy? Never. How many times do you see a girl cheating on her bf/hubby with a badboy? Quite often.

 

[kono]

As soon as get you get out of the city it becomes a lot easier to pick up and talk to a woman. The women in the GTA regardless if their good looking or not, are ridiculously stuck up. That's why I was attracted to the hobby. Tired of the games and the drama.
If you're looking to find a woman to settle down with, do yourself a favor and look outside of the GTA. The odds of you finding a genuinely good gf is a lot higher. They haven't been corrupted by the city life. Also people in cities tend not to respect people who are in commuted relationships. If you're married or in a relationship you're fair game. Dog eat, dog world. It's sad really.

 

[Damondean]

How about just telling her that you will write a bad review on TERB if she isn't nice to you? )

 

[GG2]

lol I like how this thread is developing. Hmmm I think if the guy shows respect for the girl and genuinely shows concern for her well being that's the most appealing type. Agreed - $ is not the most important b/c money can't buy everything.

Shut up. If you're in a relationship, I would wager that it's with somebody who does not show you genuine respect or concern but you don't know what genuine respect looks like anyway. The fact that you're on this board suggests that you're probably an SP and your life in disarray. Meanwhile you'll be here all day long preaching such nonsense. Your reply is predictable and full of shit. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against you personally. If you're hot, I'll let you polish my cock for $150/hh.

 

[Don Draper]

Shut up. If you're in a relationship, I would wager that it's with somebody who does not show you genuine respect or concern but you don't know what genuine respect looks like anyway. The fact that you're on this board suggests that you're probably an SP and your life in disarray. Meanwhile you'll be here all day long preaching such nonsense. Your reply is predictable and full of shit. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against you personally. If you're hot, I'll let you polish my cock for $150/hh.

This is textbook bitterness and dysfunction in no sort of disguise. It seems to me that you are in need of clinical, psychological assistance.

I'm sure your reply will further confirm your decaying mental condition.