Today I saw one SP met before

[fuji]

If I had an SP tell me to never look/talk to her in public I would wished I never dated her for a second--even for free.

Just saying. What does a simple hello hurt, and on a bus, really high class people she hangs with.

Are you married? If an SP approached you and your wife in public and said hello to you, would you stammer a bit trying to come up with the lie to explain how you know this girl who is obviously 20 years younger than you and from a different background? What are you going to do when wifey idles up to your side and says, "Hey, care to introduce me to your friend here?"

Oh, the SP is so embarrassed, she didn't see you were with your wife--who knew, you were grocery shopping, and wifey was over picking up the veggies while you collected the fruit.

What makes you think it's any different for an SP? After you say hello to her, and her new boyfriend--who doesn't know about her job--walks up, stares at you, and says, "Care to introduce me to your friend?" what do you say? Do you bolt, and make her look really fucking bad? Or stand there like an idiot and hope the two of you can get your lies straight?

 

[my name Peggy]

Yeah agree with Fuji and Madeline all the way...

Mr.Bingo...I also doubt you asked permission as you only threw that into the convo much later when when ppl started giving you hell. You would have intially said " I asked permission to speak to her outside of work and she agreed, what's the big deal?" Nobody would argue that bc you already established going outside those perimeters with the SP. You didn't. You mistakingly assumed you were doing something harmless by 'treating them like a friend' and confused rudeness for respect and discretion.

..Moving on, not sure the big hoopla over seeing an SP in public. It reminds of Star magazine- Escorts- They're just like us!!..Yep, they do normal, mundane things too lol.
@ S.C Joe, even the most inocuous comment/gesture could tip someone within earshot off, asking for complete discretion isn't done out of pretention, it's done to protect herself and the client.

 

[heatherstouch]

Thankyou Madeline and Fuji ... Some Great Imput! I have ran into some clients in public also. Most of the situations were very respectful ( simple nod or wave in passing) The one problem I had was in a local Club with friends. I was approached by the name of Heather which made my friends question. I of course had to deny I was that person. LOL! I think I went very red in the face and felt extremly uncomfortable. 2 people in my life know I am an SP. I would like to keep it that way. I am not afraid of being friendly or saying a polite hello with boundries. Mutual respect goes along way!!

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

she looks exhausted, sitting at the end of the TTC bus,try to take a nap,

but it is around lunch hour,

seems SP's life is tough as well like others o_o''

This does not imply a tough life. Simply that she works a different shift than you do. If you needed to go somewhere at 4:00am, you'd look exhausted on the TTC as well while this lady is probably wide awake at that time.

 

[The Fruity Hare]

An SP on the bus, gee don't they make enough cash to take a cab?

Maybe going through withdraw

Withdraw? Withdraw what, money from the bank? That's quite an assumption you make with no facts.

If I had an SP tell me to never look/talk to her in public I would wished I never dated her for a second--even for free.

Just saying. What does a simple hello hurt, and on a bus, really high class people she hangs with.

If the OP sees her on a bus, what class is he if you are insinuating there is a problem with taking a bus?? And if you read the threads regarding this issue over the years, you will see the majority of the Sps say the same thing. Do not approach them in public. Why do you have to make a big deal about it? Just let them have their privacy!

If you haven't bothered to read all the posts in this thread you will notice that most men on this board are aware of their privacy concerns and have no problem separating the fantasy time with them from the reality the rest of the time.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

I'd imagine majority of SPs live in the airport or downtown area? It seems to be the most concentration..

I think that, with the exception of the low-end and street-type women, most escorts do not work particularly close to home. In fact, many make a point of living as far as possible from where they do their in-cals and many will decline to out-call in neighbourhoods too close to home.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

--ok haha don't have kids or a wife so i don't have to worry about them catching me with a SP

You seem to have a very narrow view of this.

First of all (as mentioned) you are completely ignoring the SP's situation and just assume that she's OK with you talking to her in public (maybe she is and maybe she isn't). Even if you are right that she SHOULD be able to handle it, it's really not your choice to make for her.

Secondly, it may be possible that you will find a real-life girlfriend someday (especially if you start learning to think a little about other people's feelings). If that ever happens, perhaps you would not be so happy to have an SP walk up to you in public (when your GF is nearby) and act friendly.

I've known ladies who had their relationships ruined because their BF didn't know about their working life and a client was indiscreet. I've also known guys who got busted by their GFs when a provider was indiscreet in her contacts with him.

Since there's no real upside to breaking discretion and there's major downside potential, it just makes sense to respect privacy and not mix the hobby world with the rest of your life.

 

[johnnyjohn17]

About 10 years ago, i lived in a small town, and used to have to go to Kingston for my hobbying needs. I found this great SP who i would visit at least 3 times a month. One night after the bar, i stopped in at a Macs milk, and there she was working the cash. At first we both just stopped and stared in complete silence. I paid for my stuff and left.

2 weeks later i book an appointment to see her, and we talked about how awkward it was. After that the session went as usual, fun had by both. I started calling her by her real name, it was on her uniform when i seen her.

Long story short, we became good friends, she gave me her phone number, stopped seeing her thru the agency she worked for, and saw her directly. Then we became friends with benefits, when i got married she was invited and came to my wedding. And she even had a 3some with my wife and I. Wifey and her are good friends, and we still atlk at least once a week to this day.

I say, go up and say hi, as long as shes by herself, you never know how itll turn out

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

I say, go up and say hi, as long as shes by herself, you never know how itll turn out

A good story and things worked out well for you. But...when you first saw her outside, neither of you broke confidentiality and that's still the right way to go.

 

[GPIDEAL]

An SP on the bus, gee don't they make enough cash to take a cab?

Maybe going through withdraw

Not every SP owns a car due to: i) age as they'll wait later to buy one ii) no need as they live downtown or the city and can rely on public transit iii) part-time work only as an SP so they rather save their money & choose public transit over cabs iv) other personal reasons not necessarily enumerated herein.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Thankyou Madeline and Fuji ... Some Great Imput! I have ran into some clients in public also. Most of the situations were very respectful ( simple nod or wave in passing) The one problem I had was in a local Club with friends. I was approached by the name of Heather which made my friends question. I of course had to deny I was that person. LOL! I think I went very red in the face and felt extremly uncomfortable. 2 people in my life know I am an SP. I would like to keep it that way. I am not afraid of being friendly or saying a polite hello with boundries. Mutual respect goes along way!!

Heather, what you could explain to your friends is that you didn't want to give your real name to some guy who was bothering you or that you weren't interested in.

BTW, love your sig pic babe - another reminder of how great you are.

 

[fuji]

Heather, what you could explain to your friends is that you didn't want to give your real name to some guy who was bothering you or that you weren't interested in.

Sure, if sit there and ponder what she should say, you can come up with any number of explanations.

Heather, meanwhile, was caught like a deer in the headlights, in shock over what just happened, adrenaline pumping, and having to come up with a lie, under stress, in a matter of seconds.

Never put anyone in that position.

In addition the friends are going to remember that as unusual and if they ever come across some face-blurred pictures of a "heather" online, and they're a little suspicious for some other reasons already, they're going to remember that weird guy who called her heather and it'll be an "Aha!" moment.

Never put anyone in that position.

Keep your damn fool mouth shut. Do what johnny did--on the first encounter stay silent, bring it up with her next time you see her on the clock. After that whatever happens has been discussed and you explicitly know what her boundaries are and that's fine.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Sure, if sit there and ponder what she should say, you can come up with any number of explanations.

Heather, meanwhile, was caught like a deer in the headlights, in shock over what just happened, adrenaline pumping, and having to come up with a lie, under stress, in a matter of seconds.

Never put anyone in that position.

In addition the friends are going to remember that as unusual and if they ever come across some face-blurred pictures of a "heather" online, and they're a little suspicious for some other reasons already, they're going to remember that weird guy who called her heather and it'll be an "Aha!" moment.

Never put anyone in that position.

Keep your damn fool mouth shut. Do what johnny did--on the first encounter stay silent, bring it up with her next time you see her on the clock. After that whatever happens has been discussed and you explicitly know what her boundaries are and that's fine.

You're the damn fool here Fuji for misinterpreting my response to Heather. I was only suggesting a plausible explanation for her friends if that were to happen again.

 

[fuji]

You're the damn fool here Fuji for misinterpreting my response to Heather. I was only suggesting a plausible explanation for her friends if that were to happen again.

Yes, and I'm just pointing out that it's easy to come up with those explanations the next day, sitting around on a message board, spending your time to think them up.

It's quite another thing to come up with a good explanation like that on the spot when you're shocked by what's just happened, with adrenaline pumping, and you have only seconds to respond.

Many people stammer under those circumstances, and blurt something out before having a well formed thought.

I realize you didn't say YOU would do this to her--but there's a risk that some people reading the thread would take your post to mean "Hey there are perfectly good excuses she can come up with if it happens so what's the problem?"

I am pointing out exactly what the problem is.

 

[Ladyraven]

I have a excuse already to go in case someone does it to me..
I say to both parties . just Don't do it.. that way everyone is safe... and then laff about seeing each other in your next session...

 

[Narg]

Fuji,

I think you have this one right and bingo(whatever) missed his opportunity to be a man and admit that he was mistaken or had made assumptions that turn out not to be true.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Yes, and I'm just pointing out that it's easy to come up with those explanations the next day, sitting around on a message board, spending your time to think them up.

It's quite another thing to come up with a good explanation like that on the spot when you're shocked by what's just happened, with adrenaline pumping, and you have only seconds to respond.

Many people stammer under those circumstances, and blurt something out before having a well formed thought.

I realize you didn't say YOU would do this to her--but there's a risk that some people reading the thread would take your post to mean "Hey there are perfectly good excuses she can come up with if it happens so what's the problem?"

I am pointing out exactly what the problem is.

Well Fuji, to me you sounded like you, if I may quote you, "blurted something out before having a well-formed thought".

 

[Manat33]

I have a excuse already to go in case someone does it to me..
I say to both parties . just Don't do it.. that way everyone is safe...

I agree, just don't do it unless you're absolutely sure, with a 100% certainty that the other party is alone.

So what story do you have? Indeed it would be tough to come up with a generic excuse for each particular situation as some things may come up in the conversation that would be hard to dance around. In some cases, you may be able to pull off that the SP, MP or client is mistaken or crazy (hopefully names don't come up), but then if names are spoken you're pretty much SOL. You'll have to come up with a common place you may have met which is believable for both parties.

For me, a believable story would be that the 'previous meeting' was at a bar socializing after work with co-workers. Before any kind of conversation gets started, alerting each other that an SO is nearby would be the best thing.

As mentioned earlier, just don't approach or initiate contact.

 

[afterhours]

Do you think SPs live a "charmed life?"
For the most part, they're fucking ugly, old, disgusting men and have to live a secret/double life.
Just imagine how you would feel if you have to fuck ugly, old, disgusting women (and men) for a living and trying to hide this from your friends and family.

an average married man has to fuck an old ugly disgusting woman year after year AND cannot hide her from his friends and family

 

[whobee]

...just don't approach or initiate contact.

If we took this advice before making a booking there would never be these awkward situations for either party. Since that won't happen any time soon providers and clients should get used to the fact that someone they encounter could say something when they shouldn't and be prepared.