Need some advice

dmb10505

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So I've been on here for years, creeping around. It can be a hobby in itself. But I do apoligize for my lack of posts. I used to frequent MP's and a few SP's in Brantford for years when I was younger. (20 -23). I'm a social guy, girlfriends came and went but I loved going to these places... never with a girfirends consent. I was young and careless, and while never contracting any serious STD's I picked up Chlamydia without knowing and my girlfriend accused me of cheating. I didn't have the heart to tell her but we ended the relationship.

I took some time, got all cleared up and found my current partner. Time went by and I thought of going back to a MP or calling a SP but was too nervous of bringing somthing home. It has been 6 years with the same girl. I've been 100% faithful. We get a long great... but I do love the idea of stepping out with a totally random girl... no emotional connection. Just fantasy and fucking.

So this is why I creep, I find it interesting to still stay somewhat connected to this very addicive hobby, but don't know if I have the guts to try it again.

So here are a few questions I have for both Johns and SP's...

- how often is it you find a girl who still works with Herpes?
- What about cleanliness of beds and sheets? any stories about Crabs or bed bugs?

I would like to find a Sp who can bring some postive qualities... such as

-No BBBJ or unprotected sex
-I dont really care about the work load, provided she is showering and changing sheets between John's
- Not a heavy drinker or drug user.
- Very descreet and understanding of my situation.


Does such a person exist?? Or am I doomed to just sticking around on TERB, creeping and wishing?

PM or post, I just want to here fresh ideas from Johns who are in similar situations and SP's who can help.

Thanks,

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maxx83

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don't do it stay faithfull with your girlfriend. I have been to a few sp and for the last two years have live in fear that my wife would find out. My advice don't start.
 

VikkiBlue

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If you are fantisizing about it...it does not mean you have to do it.
What about if you asked your gf to roleplay with you (the old sailor in from sea and hooker scenario) and just play it out like that. Buy her a wig and some undergarments she might not wear otherwise...and try that.

If not...I know there are many incalls that change sheets and a gal is more than happy to use protection (and should ALWAYS USE IT).

Make sure you talk to the SP first..tell her of your hesitations and your needs...

But as Maxx says above...the encounter may be cut with guilt...then what's the point?

Good luck
 
DMB, I suspect if you stick to the well-known providers you have little to worry about. PinkSugar for example seems to always have "quality" girls, a nice discrete location, and manage their affairs well. Any girl will oblige you with a CBJ and FS is always going to be covered.

Having said all of this, NOTHING is without risk. This topic has been flogged to death over the years and a little searching will yield enough reading material to keep you going for weeks. There seems to be a popular believe that "professional" girls are less likely to carry and/or pass along STIs. I have no idea if there is any basis in fact to believe this, but personally, I find it hard to believe. That's just math though. A professional girl, who seems several guys a day, all of whom are pooners who see dozens/hundreds of other SPs is certainly going to have been exposed to an impressive number of possible infections. "Safe" sex is far from perfect unless you stick to CBJ, no DATY, no kissing, no hand-shaking. Hardly worth the effort...
 
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CUTTERBUCK

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dmb10505, maxx83.
As we all know there are certain risks involved with this hobby. The two major issues being health, the other (for the married or attached hobbyist) is being “caught in the act”.

I’ve posted this before and I’ll post it again.

If a hobbyist is paranoid about these or any other hobby related issues, there is only one choice to make. DON”T HOBBY.

It’s not brain surgery, folks.

N.B. This brings up another interesting question, which I’m sure had been covered before, and may be worth revisiting. “Why would a guy choose to hobby if he claims to be happily married, or is in a fulfilling relationship?”
 

DocOdd

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Stoo, the belief that SPs are lower risk for transmitting STDs is based on the research; the various studies usually show STD rates among prostitutes to be about half the rates in the general population (and people who deal with sexual health in free clinics and the like also tend to report that the problem is people who only ever have a few partners but who have unprotected sex with them, not with the promiscuous people who tend to take more precautions; what seems like obvious math is quite misleading in this area). But as far as the OPs concerns, people who are especially paranoid about STDs often seem to be people who are uncomfortable with other aspects of seeing SPs as well (such as the guilt for cheating on a partner); if the OP is like that, it might be a good idea for him to not bother, as his discomfort will likely make the experience less pleasant for him.
 

dj1470

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If you are worried about being "caught" or "catching" something then this is not the hobby for you.
Take up model airplane flying instead.
 

Peter123

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"Safe" sex is far from perfect unless you stick to BBBJ, no DATY, no kissing, no hand-shaking. Hardly worth the effort...
one presumes you meant to save CBJ--BBBJ hardly risk free

nothing without risk...pretty much a cbjer myself..

course see my other recent post--a really good MP experience is pretty much risk free....and some nice russian or something is still pretty darn fun!
 

mb12ca

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If you have a nice girlfriend, don't cheat on her. Sex is all the same, pussy is pussy, so no need to be with an sp if your girlfriend isn't a b*tch.
 
one presumes you meant to save CBJ--BBBJ hardly risk free
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DocOdd, I have heard that information before and it does make sense, but every time I hear it, it is anecdotal evidence. I suppose if I got busy I could probably source some actual study someplace. Are you a Doc, Doc? If so, that I am more than willing to accept your word that there is actual research to indicate this.

To the OP, I took your post to mean that you had pretty much decided to plunge into the hobby. If you are undecided, then the other advice here is worth considering. If you have a great relationship with a lady and you don't want to fuck it up, then resist the urge to get into this. It is terribly addicting, expensive, somewhat fraught with risk and all in all, rarely lives up to the fantasy.
 

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i differ with you, with all respect stoo, but only in one respect ... with me it often lives up to expectations. But i usually only partake when others have taken the plunge .... thank you others for your efforts :) Otherwise i sit on the fence and ... welcome to blueballs lol
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QUOTE=Stoo;3221630]Yes... oops and edited!

DocOdd, I have heard that information before and it does make sense, but every time I hear it, it is anecdotal evidence. I suppose if I got busy I could probably source some actual study someplace. Are you a Doc, Doc? If so, that I am more than willing to accept your word that there is actual research to indicate this.

To the OP, I took your post to mean that you had pretty much decided to plunge into the hobby. If you are undecided, then the other advice here is worth considering. If you have a great relationship with a lady and you don't want to fuck it up, then resist the urge to get into this. It is terribly addicting, expensive, somewhat fraught with risk and all in all, rarely lives up to the fantasy.[/QUOTE]
 

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DocOdd, I have heard that information before and it does make sense, but every time I hear it, it is anecdotal evidence. I suppose if I got busy I could probably source some actual study someplace. Are you a Doc, Doc? If so, that I am more than willing to accept your word that there is actual research to indicate this.
Agreed. I've heard this statement thrown around a few times but never seen it backed up by any study. Anything I've ever read suggests the opposite is true but I'm more than willing to see the other side of the coin if any empirical info is provided.

I've never been particularly inclined to go hunting for all the obscure data but I imagine someone has.
 
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