To all the married hobbyists....

[Major Major]

I'm married and I "hobby" primarily because my sex life at home is non existent and I dont feel guilty about fucking around at all... But what struck me as strange is it kind of donned on me that the concept of fucking my wife has become so foreign to me that I just cant picture it anymore

fucking a stranger feels more "right" and "comfortable" to me than my own wife...how odd is it that?

Do any of you feel this way? or is it just me

 

[El Mariachi]

Do any of you feel this way? or is it just me

I think its just you

 

[Cycleguy007]

Major, major....

I'd say you had a major problem in your relationship...

(But maybe that's just me...)

 

[ready2rock]

fucking a stranger feels more "right" and "comfortable" to me than my own wife...how odd is it that?

Do any of you feel this way? or is it just me

Major, this is just one of the signs that it might be time to end your marriage. My hobbying wasn't the primary factor in my divorce, but it was one of the cascading dominos that suggested that my wife and I had become strangers living in the same house. If things are that bad, get counseling. If that doesn't help, it might be time to end it. Once you get past the initial sting, you'll both be happier....

R2R

 

[diehard]

Here comes that question again: is a happy marriage possible without sex? :|

 

[Hilfiger]

In my response to Major Major, I would say that is completely normal. After some time, sex with the same person becomes boring. It also doesn't seem it is nonexistent, it just doesn't occur very often. We are all busy these days, trying to juggle multiple things, especially the ladies (work, children, etc). Sex is just not a priority or a major need. They may get the itch every 6 months. The need for adventure and change is what makes you hobby. Same here.

 

[ready2rock]

i have a question to all the married guys (i'm not) why can't you guys put the effort you put into this hobby into your marriage? it takes 2 people for the marriage to end up like that..

Exactly, ASN. Exactly.

R2R

 

[richaceg]

I'd say your SO has too many restrictions. Or maybe not a lot of wardrobe for sex. Or maybe try tipping for a change. Who knows.

 

[Roamin' Bee]

i have a question to all the married guys (i'm not) why can't you guys put the effort you put into this hobby into your marriage? it takes 2 people for the marriage to end up like that..

Well said, asn. And Major Major, maybe treat your Mrs to a threesome with one of your fav pro.

 

[Cycleguy007]

i have a question to all the married guys (i'm not) why can't you guys put the effort you put into this hobby into your marriage? it takes 2 people for the marriage to end up like that..

I'll add my "+1" to that statement as well. Tomorrow, Mrs. CG and I will celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary... we have a nice dinner planned and then off to do some dancing (and anything else that may occur) at "our club" and then back to a close by hotel room (thanks again Copycraigs!), for some hot and steamy goings on! I suspect that my planning this event is not unlike what many of you plan for your dates with SP... dinner reservations, hotel reservation, communicating the plans with the lady of choice etc ... Mrs. CG is as excited as I am, and although tomorrow is a special occasion, we make it a point to have "date night" maybe not every weekend, but more often than not- that much is for sure.

In my response to Major Major, I would say that is completely normal. After some time, sex with the same person becomes boring. It also doesn't seem it is nonexistent, it just doesn't occur very often. We are all busy these days, trying to juggle multiple things, especially the ladies (work, children, etc). Sex is just not a priority or a major need. They may get the itch every 6 months. The need for adventure and change is what makes you hobby. Same here.

6 months?!

OMG! That is just sad... really sad. I feel for you Tommy...

Sex with the same person doesn't have to be boring... not by a long shot. There are literally hundreds maybe thousands of ways to spice things up in your sex life! I suspect that if you made an effort you might just be surprised by what you learn about the woman you are married to. OK, I am fully aware of the fact that I am blessed to be married to an equally adventurous woman as many of the SP on this board, but it wasn't always this way...

As always... just my nickels worth.

 

[Worf]

i have a question to all the married guys (i'm not) why can't you guys put the effort you put into this hobby into your marriage? it takes 2 people for the marriage to end up like that..

When you have been married a long time (15+ years), there can be a sense of boredom. Hobbying gives you variety, with no commitments. If children are involved you cannot simply end the marriage. If you do, then you are more selfish that just hobbying in the 1st place. Men in general prefer variety, otherwise these sites, skin mags, porn, escorts, etc would definitely not exist. I am still trying to figure out whether women have the same preferences (some of them do, but I would hazard a guess that the majority don't, regardless of what is coming out of the the various womens magazines, progressive women, etc).

 

[Worf]

Well said, asn. And Major Major, maybe treat your Mrs to a threesome with one of your fav pro.

If I were to suggest a threesome with my wife, she would give me that look (I am sure a lot of the guys here knows what it looks like), after which things get very cold at home for a while....

 

[Major Major]

i have a question to all the married guys (i'm not) why can't you guys put the effort you put into this hobby into your marriage? it takes 2 people for the marriage to end up like that..

Bad Assumption ASN....

How do you know we havent?...it also takes two people to fix it

 

[Doug1ca]

I hobby with mainly ladies that offer pse . My s/o doesn't like CIM, COF , or greek. I feel guilty at times . But a man has too do what a man has too do.

Depends on what head you are thinking with!

 

[Cycleguy007]

If I were to suggest a threesome with my wife, she would give me that look (I am sure a lot of the guys here knows what it looks like)

The look I get upon such a suggestion is a lil different than most...

Hee hee...

(OK... I'll STFU now...)

 

[Worf]

The look I get upon such a suggestion is a lil different than most...

Hee hee...

(OK... I'll STFU now...)

Hey CG, you don't want to get the look from my wife.

 

[ready2rock]

Bad Assumption ASN....

How do you know we havent?...it also takes two people to fix it

True. So both of you feel that something is wrong in your marriage? Have you guys gone through couples conseling? It can help.

What I'm saying is that lust is not a long term substitute for love. If you cannot even envision your wife in a sexual manner, you're dooming your marriage. I cannot imagine a loveless or sex-less relationship. You are essentially brother and sister now - or business partners. Why put a front? Does she have all the money in her name?

I think there is a time and place for hobbying. Eddie Van Halen, one of the top rock guitarists of my age, once wrote that he played faster than anybody and couldn't play any faster. He went on to add that he used effects and his tremlo bar to break up the bursts of speed - to add texture and variety to his leads. That's how I view the hobby. It adds variety and texture to my sexual being, but it does not define it, and its not a substitute for love, or for my GF - who knows about my hobbying.

R2R

 

[ang]

Well...I have to say that I couldn't even imagine NOT having sex with my wife...I got it sssssooooo bad for her, everything she does, the way she walks the way she bends over, the way she sneezes...just about everything she does turns me on....BIG TIME!!!!, as a matter of fact I just told my kids last night that I had it bad for Mommy....LOL

But yes it is a 2 way street a relationship can't work in ANY way if only one is trying

 

[oldstud47]

I'm married but my wife is ill so sex is a foreign word in my house. I'm healthy (I think) I have needs although not as bad the older I get,however I do have needs so I hobby not too often and I don't feel guilty I do my thing,go home and continue to look after her and my family as best as I can untill the mood strikes me again.

 

[nottyboi]

i have a question to all the married guys (i'm not) why can't you guys put the effort you put into this hobby into your marriage? it takes 2 people for the marriage to end up like that..

What effort are you talking about? Making 1 call, getting some cash from the ATM and showing up to get laid? lol