Stood up do I go for another shot?

[Danolo]

Don't give her a second chance to stand you up again... whatever the reason, if you go back for a discounted session, I doubt if she's gonna be very enthusiastic about the session.

Then again, maybe I'm wrong, there are a couple of SP's around that I WOULD excuse an honest mistake.

You said in your first posting that she is well reviewed "with a couple of no shows", right? So this is not a mistake, this is her double booking to protect herself from the no-shows she doubtless experiences. Its too bad that some hobbyists do that, but its part of the business and she should not risk double booking to make up for that.

I dunno, I think like one poster here said, it all depends how you feel... if it still makes you angry, forget her and try someone else.

Sorry for your disappointment.

 

[zigzaw joker]

So read GDLLover's post, it seems to hit all the relevant points. Comes down to do you want her bad enough to take it lying down or not. Nobody's call but your own. i wouldn't and I'd write a review - but that's me.

Right on dude ! ...

 

[EraserNips]

Everyone's time is valuable. I believe completely that when you say you're going to be somewhere that you should be there. This applies equally to the SPs as it does their clients, just as it would for an appointment you have with your dentist or doctor or lawyer or any other professional. As someone who has been stood up in the past (countless times it would seem), it really does suck.

 

[Blue-Spheroid]

There's no way anyone can give you a really useful answer without knowing who the lady is. On the other hand, if you name her, those here who have experience with her will probably be able to give you very accurate advice based on actual experience. We'll also know who you chose and possibly suggest some other SPs who are of a similar style.

There's no harm in revealing the name. If she's made an honest mistake and makes it up to you at a discount, the subsequent review you post will improve her reputation for customer service. If she fails to come through on her offer, you have no reason to protect her from having her true colours reported on this site. In fact, as someone who has no problem turning to the TERM membership for advice and assistance yourself, you should be enthusiastic at the opportunity to give something back.

 

[Asterix]

I don't do this very often so when I finally decided to see an s.p. who will for the time being remain nameless but has great reviews with a few no shows mixed in I figured the law of averages was with me. I was excited as hell all day waiting for my 4 o'clock appointment. I left work early (something I shouldn't do) I got to my destination right on time a hotel in the airport area and made my call to let her know I was here. After a few tries she answered the phone but sounded weird like she just woke up or had been drinking. She said give me 5 minutes which I responded no problem and hung up. Less then 2 minutes later she called back stating in a slurred voice that she had double booked and that I should call her tomorrow and she will give me a $100.00 discount. Hey thanks alot first of all if you remember me at all but do I go back for another shot? With a discount will I get good service? Do you guys know how disappointed I was after a whole day of anticipation and the finding and deciding to book in the first place. I am not naming this person yet because I don't know what to do but your suggestions would be greatly appreciated

Did it dawn on you that she really was drunk and that saying she was double booked was the best excuse she could come up with? Be happy you saved your money.

 

[freestuff]

If you won't help us (i.e. by naming this SP), why should we help you?
Ok, here's a freebie. If you go back then she'll know how "valuable" your time is. Hmmm. Food for thought.

 

[hesitant]

I mix between gfe and pse I guess

I'd go with your gut... say she has an issue with alcohol or something stronger, the double booking is a cover story. I wouldn't go back.

Since you ask, and no one else responded, I'll give you a recommendation for someone very professional, and who fits your GFE to PSE preference. Check you PM

 

[WhaWhaWha]

If she has a history of no shows on her reviews and didn't show for you on account of "Blue" flu, it might just be she has a drinking problem. It would not be unfair to review her here by name as a warning to the next guy who does not want to have his valuable time wasted by her "problem".

 

[oldstud47]

If I detected a slurred voice, I wouldn't bother if it was an SP I don't know, and count your blessings and money saved. If I knew her from before, I'd be concerned and asked if she was ok, and suggest we book another time.

I've been stood up by a SP duo once, but since I had seen them before and we had a good rapport, I left them a message to at least explain what happened so we could book again. So I went to CB as Plan B and had a lot of money left over for something else. I eventually got the explanation that they had too much to drink at a social function and crashed. I accepted that, and saw them a few times later without any problem.

It all depends on your level of patience and how good the SP is.

p.s. Actually, there was another gal who I met at a SC and had some fun there. We agreed to meet at her hotel (she was visiting). She stood me up as I waited outside in the parking lot. I left a message for her to call or text me next day to explain what happened but hoped she was okay. She explained the next day that she had worked and drank a lot, and crashed on her bed as soon as she got it. I didn't make a fuss over that, but we didn't re-connect just because the opportunity never arose. (I might have lost some interest but at least we had fun at the SC).

Thanks guys for all your help. I've decided to let sleeping dogs lie and walk away and save it for another rainny day. If I see that she has done it again I have no hesitation at that time to name her

 

[tboy]

This is immature.

exactly...shit happens and to fuck up someone's day just because you're a dick?

I know it's hard to turn the other cheek and sometimes your neck gets sore from turning so much but just book her again, if she bails on you this time? THEN you have cause to be really pissed. The best thing you can do is give her a chance to make it up to you, and if she fails? This is exactly what this board is for: warning us of things just like this.....

 

[oldstud47]

exactly...shit happens and to fuck up someone's day just because you're a dick?

I know it's hard to turn the other cheek and sometimes your neck gets sore from turning so much but just book her again, if she bails on you this time? THEN you have cause to be really pissed. The best thing you can do is give her a chance to make it up to you, and if she fails? This is exactly what this board is for: warning us of things just like this.....

I agree cooler "heads" prevailed

 

[Questor]

Thanks guys for all your help. I've decided to let sleeping dogs lie and walk away and save it for another rainny day. If I see that she has done it again I have no hesitation at that time to name her

Seems like you've made a decision. My advise was going to be that its up to you. You should do what feels right for you.

I agree with previous posters that it sounds like she got drunk and made up the story about double booking as an excuse. But either way, I wouldn't want to book with her again. I don't want to book with someone who double books and I don't want to book with someone who gets drunk before an appointment. Case closed.

And what did this whole experience cost you? Start with the cost of the room. Add cost of gas and parking. Add your time, including lost time at work. Add the emotional investment in anticipation all day, only to be disappointed. And you would consider booking again for a $100 discount? Its your time and money. Its your life.

Don't book her and cancel for revenge. Nothing good will come out of that. She won't learn her lesson. She will just be more convinced that she needs to double book to prevent being stood up.

Write a review and let others make an informed decision about this SP. Some will like the positive reviews and book her anyway, just like you did. Others will decide not to book her. Either way, its an informed decision. If you read reviews here, you owe it to us.

 

[Cycleguy007]

I was excited as hell all day waiting for my 4 o'clock appointment. I left work early (something I shouldn't do) I got to my destination right on time a hotel in the airport area and made my call to let her know I was here. After a few tries she answered the phone but sounded weird like she just woke up or had been drinking. She said give me 5 minutes which I responded no problem and hung up. Do you guys know how disappointed I was after a whole day of anticipation and the finding and deciding to book in the first place.

Sucks dude... Sorry to hear of your situation...

 

[Mia.Colpa]

This is immature.

+1, sounds like something an immature teenager would say, lol.

Oldguy, everyone deserves a second chance in life, don't be so quick to judge. You did the right thing to let it go and move on, try again another day.

You know the old saying, happens once, shame on her, happens a second time, shame on you.

 

[fuji]

Thanks guys for all your help. I've decided to let sleeping dogs lie and walk away and save it for another rainny day. If I see that she has done it again I have no hesitation at that time to name her

I thought you said some of her reviews indicated she had no-showed before? If so post a review noting nothing more than that she failed to show up, that she offered to make it up to you at the last minute, but you declined. Your judgment that her voice was slurred could be wrong so leave that out of the review. Maybe delete this thread when you post it, as it'll be obvious who it is...

 

[MissCroft]

And what did this whole experience cost you? Start with the cost of the room.

I think it was an incall...?

Don't book her and cancel for revenge. Nothing good will come out of that. She won't learn her lesson. She will just be more convinced that she needs to double book to prevent being stood up.

I agree that wouldn't solve anything - the reason some ladies double-book is for fear of being stood up. I've had the temptation to do it as well but never succumbed. Yeah it sucks when you lose out on the money but I figure double-booking will usually cause more trouble than it's worth.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

And what did this whole experience cost you? Start with the cost of the room. Add cost of gas and parking. Add your time, including lost time at work. Add the emotional investment in anticipation all day, only to be disappointed. And you would consider booking again for a $100 discount?

I think it was her own room, so he's only out the gas, parking and time. $100 discount is rare and generous in this case, she knew she fucked up so that counts for something.

The anticipation is part of the enjoyment to me, it's only the actual final connecting that is stressful.

 

[oldstud47]

I think it was an incall...?



I agree that wouldn't solve anything - the reason some ladies double-book is for fear of being stood up. I've had the temptation to do it as well but never succumbed. Yeah it sucks when you lose out on the money but I figure double-booking will usually cause more trouble than it's worth.

For sure not to mention you pissed someone off who may have become a regular