YMMV??? Appreciated it or detested it???

[gwhiz]

I think that when an SP advertises a service as YMMV that she should be prepared to offer it if you are a gentleman and there are no unpleasant surprises. This should only be an indication of caution on her part that if she finds you to be less than gentlemanly, that she won't provide the service.

The alternatives are:

1) that she advertise the service without any YMMV qualification and then if she is given a very unwelcomed surprise, that she decline ( with the potential of an unpleasant conflict because she has ) or

2) not offer the service at all and if you are a delightful gentleman, that she shows her appreciation by making it available to you. Wouldn't you feel special and delighted in that situation ?

I believe that it is the 2nd alternative that MD is referring to.

We are all human. In my business, I wish to and feel obligated to provide a certain level of hopefully very good service to people in general; if they provide me with a superior client experience that makes me feel very good, then it is only natural that I may wish to try to make their experience just that much better, in order to show my appreciation. That could be providing them with something extra at no cost, an unrequested discount either now, or let them know that it is available to them for their future business.

The latter is more likely something that is possible for Independent SPs to do. I have experienced this personally . Needless to say, I have been very appreciative of that. It has made me feel special and resulted in my loyalty and desire to continue to see them. I know that there is a valued mutual chemistry between us which makes our time together just that much more comfortable and enjoyable . Their offer of a special unpublished discount lets me know that their stated appreciation of me as a client is more than mere lip service ( no pun intended )

 

[fuji]

Under promise and over deliver.

In other words, advertise restrictive services on your site (your minimum level of service) but when you feel comfortable offer more. No-one will complain about getting more than they expected!

Actually you'll probably wind up fooling a bunch of guys into thinking they are special to you because they got more out of you than you advertised.

 

[lim3kandi3]

One disadvantage of having a YMMV menu is that clients usually come back to terb and post their experience ...

..this could be a problem if another client sees the review and expects the same from the sp.

edit* this client could get insulted or not feel like he's measuring up to the girls standards.

 

[Maria Divina]

That is soooo true.....

One disadvantage of having a YMMV menu is that clients usually come back to terb and post their experience ...

..this could be a problem if another client sees the review and expects the same from the sp.

edit* this client could get insulted or not feel like he's measuring up to the girls standards.

I am very pleased to have had the opportunity, in the past, to be ask,previously, by a gentleman I just saw, if I would mind if he write a review about our encounter....and my response was, (and still is.....), than yes, of course, I am open to have a review, but not saying all the more intimate details..( anyway, this is not anyone business, in fact... I consider this is strictely matters of private life...) and the almost majority had respect that....

but, once, on another review board, in Montréal,(not Merb....) someone did a review where he was describing something special I did with him...and after that, I met someone I was seeing regularly, and he said to me that he didn't know that I like to do "that thing", and he just wanted to do it.... and "that thing" wasn't something appropriate to live with him... So, finally, I decided to let him go, and to not meet him anymore, because he was insisting about it.... So, I am truly beleiving that I would continue to meet him if he wasn't ever knowing about that, because, our encounters were very pleasants before, and this is sad that it degenerated because he was awared of too much explicite public details....

 

[tboy]

See Maria, that's why when you're with someone, and you're doing something out of the ordinary, you say to him, please don't spread the word about this, I don't normally do it with just anyone.

yeah, I've had that happen to me and not written about it in my review.

See, I (maybe naively) think that all the gory details just diminishes the encounter for both of us. Now when I do a review I make sure I get the main points across but don't go into too much detail like some other posters do. When I read reviews I look for the highlights and the bottom line is if she is a good sp, as YMMV with everyone, just because it happened with me or so and so, doesn't mean it will happen with everyone....

 

[Maria Divina]

I had this idea about a part I did with him, but not with everything

You know, that was an overnight, and during so much time, you have so much you just can do...if the heat is turn on, and everything is fun and pleasant... I simply forgot to warn about this particular thing....but not him, apparently...

I know what I will do on my future website... I will describe myself...and will add the links to my reviews...So, everything will talk by itself....and I won't use those acronyms who are just confonding everyone... No need to explain with too much details there too...