Would you tell your regular if going on hiatus?

[iGetItSold]

This hobby has gotten the best of me and I’ve decided that I need to take a break or even stop completely.

For the last 3 years, I’ve been hobbying almost every weekend, usually on a Saturday. There has probably only been 3-4 weekends in that time where I didn’t hobby. I’ve also only seen maybe 5-6 other girls in that time and mainly because my usual provider was not available.

Anyways, I have not seen her in 2 weeks now and both Saturday’s, she has messaged me around the same time I usually book, sending an emoji and meme.

I’m not emotionally attached to her. However, the quality + consistency of service and the fact that she’s always quite wet, tight and doesn’t need to use lube has kept me going back.

Anyways, I’m just wondering if I should let her know I’m on hiatus or let it be? I’ve known her since 2018, but until 3 years ago, I’d probably only see her maybe once every 3-4 months.

 

[BiggerTitsTheBetter]

Definitely let her know.

 

[tastingyou]

Absolutely . Let her down gently .

 

[iGetItSold]

Definitely let her know.

I think I’ll go ahead and do it. As I’m trying very hard to take this hiatus. I just didn’t want to tell her prematurely and then next thing I’m back in her room a couple days later.

 

[BiggerTitsTheBetter]

I think I’ll go ahead and do it. As I’m trying very hard to take this hiatus. I just didn’t want to tell her prematurely and then next thing I’m back in her room a couple days later.

Well, think from her perspective man...

You don't tell her - looks like you're ghosting her - jerk move - she's left wondering if she did something wrong, or if something happened to you, etc.

You tell her and later go back - no big deal - she may even feel flattered that you could not stay away.

 

[MiguelRojas]

Communication is important. I would tell her

 

[princekwekua]

Do providers inform if going on hiatus? Mostly not

 

[Daddy2021]

Do providers inform if going on hiatus? Mostly not

My regulars let me know when they won’t be available.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I had one call me a year after I quit seeing her. Maybe not a whole year, but a long time. She left a long message on my answering machine....yes it was back then. She had a strong Korean accent. Luckily I was in my lifetime living alone mode so no worries about a significant other catching the call. However, I called her back and apologized for not contacting her and said I had a steady girlfriend at the moment. She was very understanding and well wishing. Said that she was worried about me and my disappearance. She was actually a sweetheart. We always got along well. People have feelings and I have been lucky enough to have had a few girls who were genuinely fond of me and very caring people, as I am of them. They deserve respect and affection.

 

[iGetItSold]

Well, think from her perspective man...

You don't tell her - looks like you're ghosting her - jerk move - she's left wondering if she did something wrong, or if something happened to you, etc.

You tell her and later go back - no big deal - she may even feel flattered that you could not stay away.

You’re right playa. That’s a grown man move and mature thing to do. Telling her may even help me to keep my word to myself and take this hiatus seriously.

 

[iGetItSold]

I had one call me a year after I quit seeing her. Maybe not a whole year, but a long time. She left a long message on my answering machine....yes it was back then. She had a strong Korean accent. Luckily I was in my lifetime living alone mode so no worries about a significant other catching the call. However, I called her back and apologized for not contacting her and said I had a steady girlfriend at the moment. She was very understanding and well wishing. Said that she was worried about me and my disappearance. She was actually a sweetheart. We always got along well. People have feelings and I have been lucky enough to have had a few girls who were genuinely fond of me and very caring people, as I am of them. They deserve respect and affection.

Thanks for sharing this. I’m definitely going to let her know. The provider I’m speaking of is actually Chinese, and although her English is not that great, it’s probably the best of all Chinese providers I’ve seen. She is also a sweetheart who I always get along well with. In fact, she has given me dessert and other food items before too. Damn..now I feel like a complete asshole thinking about that.

This is a bit besides the point, but as a black guy it’s usually a challenge to find Asian providers that I find hot, who’re open to seeing black guys.

I had stopped seeing her previously because of the same reason you mentioned. I had gotten into a committed relationship. However back then I was not a regular.

 

[Ol' Dirty Bastard]

Do providers inform if going on hiatus? Mostly not

True, but they're in it for the money. They can get that from anyone. One guy's cash is as good as another's.

We're in it for the experience. One SP is not as good as another. If she's one of the good ones, and you want to see her again, you can give her a heads up.

 

[YoYoHoward]

This hobby has gotten the best of me and I’ve decided that I need to take a break or even stop completely.

For the last 3 years, I’ve been hobbying almost every weekend, usually on a Saturday. There has probably only been 3-4 weekends in that time where I didn’t hobby. I’ve also only seen maybe 5-6 other girls in that time and mainly because my usual provider was not available.

Anyways, I have not seen her in 2 weeks now and both Saturday’s, she has messaged me around the same time I usually book, sending an emoji and meme.

I’m not emotionally attached to her. However, the quality + consistency of service and the fact that she’s always quite wet, tight and doesn’t need to use lube has kept me going back.

Anyways, I’m just wondering if I should let her know I’m on hiatus or let it be? I’ve known her since 2018, but until 3 years ago, I’d probably only see her maybe once every 3-4 months.

Buddy she’s already forgotten about you.

Honestly: (1) you’re a wallet; an attractive one perhaps but a wallet, and (2) you’ll be back.

Unless you feel that it’ll help you to commit to your goal of not hobbying, you have nothing to tell her at this point.

 

[YoYoHoward]

Thanks for sharing this. I’m definitely going to let her know. The provider I’m speaking of is actually Chinese, and although her English is not that great, it’s probably the best of all Chinese providers I’ve seen. She is also a sweetheart who I always get along well with. In fact, she has given me dessert and other food items before too. Damn..now I feel like a complete asshole thinking about that.

This is a bit besides the point, but as a black guy it’s usually a challenge to find Asian providers that I find hot, who’re open to seeing black guys.

I had stopped seeing her previously because of the same reason you mentioned. I had gotten into a committed relationship. However back then I was not a regular.

Oh now wait a minute my bad. If you’ve found a Chinese woman who can take a decent sized cock, hold onto her. *lol*

That shit is hard to find. Had one yesterday who literally couldn’t take the tip.

Extremely service oriented bunch as a whole, but not a huge capacity down south.

 

[The Options Menu]

As silly as this sounds it pretty much comes down to if you're a regular regular (you should probably mention it), or an irregular regular (not really necessary, but if the provider reaches out wondering what happened you should probably reply).

The OP sounds like the definition of a regular regular. I get not reaching out when you're not sure if you can stick to it. Since it seems to be sticking you should reach out and be a gentleman.

Yes, you're a client, but you're both people who shared some rather intimate times. A message seems appropriate.

 

[Mr Deeds]

Let me get this straight you feel obligated to tell a woman that you're paying for sex that you're taking a break. She's not your girlfriend she's not your mother she's not your wife you don't owe her anything the whole reason we get into this hobby is that we don't want to be tied down or have to justify or explain anything. Just go and do your thing

 

[shadeau]

Mr Deeds says that "the whole reason we get into this hobby is that we don't want to be tied down or have to justify or explain anything."

No, that’s why you got into the “hobby” — I got into it to have sex. If I feel that, for some reason, it’s correct or nice or polite to justify or explain or — god forbid — even to apologize to an SP, then I will.

As for being “tied down”, if I want to be “tied down” to a particular SP (and she’s willing to see me regularly), then I will get together with her as often as I want to (and can afford to). Again, this is about sex — at least for me — and if a particular SP is that sexy to me, then I will happily “tie” myself to her.

I don’t mean to sound harsh — if Mr Deeds is into independence and not having to justify or explain or be “tied down", that’s fine, that’s his thing. But my back goes up when someone assumes that my reason for doing something is the same as his and that that we have to go about doing that something in the same way.

 

[Sonic Temple]

Its optional - but its a nice gesture thats all.

 

[iGetItSold]

Oh now wait a minute my bad. If you’ve found a Chinese woman who can take a decent sized cock, hold onto her. *lol*

That shit is hard to find. Had one yesterday who literally couldn’t take the tip.

Extremely service oriented bunch as a whole, but not a huge capacity down south.

To each their own, but I won’t even see non Asian providers anymore. That forbidden fruit is usually top tier. For the occasional hookup, I’m not as picky, but in my years of being in this hobby, no one else does it like them. I just read body language and adjust my pace if I see I’m going too hard at it. I know I’m paying, but the last thing I want to do is leave a provider in pain or have her feeling uncomfortable for my pleasure.

 

[HolaMiAmor]

If your reg doesn't make the effort to reach out to you, you owe her nothing.