Yuri said:
Life's Paradox:
I consider myself to be a nice/honest guy, clean... and cannot find a girl to spend a time together and have some fun.
Of course, I could find thousand of ads and pay, (in one form or another) to have sex.
How come if a woman is looking for the same, she doesn't have to pay?
because at least it North America, our society has deemed it to be this way. It is not the case everywhere in the world, but unfortunately for us, it is this way here. But don't kid yourself, there are numerous women out there who don't get any either and there are even some who do pay for it. What's crazy about it is that IMHO the ONLY reason a woman doesn't get any is because she doesn't try. That's the rub, in our society for whatever reason, women just don't take the risks involved in approaching men (generally speaking of course).
Dude I feel your pain, there are numerous posts on terb (and elsewhere) from guys with your same problem.
This worked well for me, and I don't know if it will for you, but I just said "fuck it". I refuse to play the game any longer so now I concentrate on my work, my hobbies, and enjoy my freedom. If I feel the need for female companionship (aka sex) I see a couple of the lovely ladies mentioned here on terb.
Over the past few years I've always thought how wonderful it would be to organize a "sadie hawkins" month. If you're unfamiliar with the term a "sadie hawkins" dance was one where the girls were supposed to ask the guys, not vice versa. During this month (ok, stop laughing now lol) men would NOT a) initiate sex with their spouses (really STOP laughing), b) approach women in bars/clubs/restaurants etc (if you don't stop you'll hurt yourself) and c) just basically not hit on women.
BTW: Your situation DOES happen to even really attractive women. Here's a little story for you.
I knew this hottie that worked at Yonge and Eg. I mean she was at least a 9.5 outta 10. She was so hot people from other areas would know about her. Well, I got to know her and one night called her up to go see a flick. (platonically)
While we were chatting over pizza before the movie started she was telling me that she hadn't had a date in about 3 yrs. This wasn't the first dry spell either: in high school she only ever went out once, and didn't even go to her senior prom. It turns out that guys just didn't ask her out in high school...Intimidated???
Anyhow, as it turns out she hadn't been out not because she wasn't asked, it is just that the guys that were asking just didn't fit her "criteria'. She did try and make it out to be "woe is me...." type a thing but upon further talk it was just because she was so picky. Just goes to show you that there are some of us out here who don't get any for the simple reason that women (IMHO) are just too damned picky.
