Why did you break up/end a marriage?

[stinkynuts]

Multiple choice. Please choose all that apply for all relationships.

I want to know what issues might crop up in a serious relationship or marriage. Prevention is the best medicine. Thanks in advance for your input.

 

[KBear]

Are you planning to marry one of the 2 Asian hotties at the restaurant?

 

[stinkynuts]

Are you planning to marry one of the 2 Asian hotties at the restaurant?

Nope! But it's a matter of time before I enter a serious relationship.

 

[Jade4u]

All except infidelity. I cheated on him with my first husband but he was unaware of it.

 

[RTRD]

It is well documented...

...that money - even more than infidelity - breaks up the most marriages.

However, you have pretty narrowly defined that issue by saying "e.g. partner's spending habits". That wasn't the problem in my marriage at all.

Of course, my soon2BX would give a different reason why we split. Funny how that happens...my first ex and I never agreed on who asked for the divorce either....indeed they BOTH claim that the fact that I didn't object when they asked for it means it was what I really wanted...so in fact *I* am the one who wanted to split.

Ahh yes....the wonders of the female brain....

 

[Petite Filet]

Infidelity by partner.

Not that I wasn't cheating myself. But I followed the rules.

1. Always protect yourself, your spouse and your family.

2. Do not cheat with someone your spouse knows.

3. Do not bring your lover to your house. Do not let them call your house either.

4. Cheat on your own time, not your family time.

I knew the minute he started cheating. He still has no idea I ever did. Women are so much sneakier than men.

 

[Ashley Dupree]

You forgot mention non communication or emotional distance. That one of the big things.

 

[tboy]

You forgot mention non communication or emotional distance. That one of the big things.

Yeah I think that is more popular reason than the ones listed.....I know cheating and infidelity is up there too but...

Another good one is "she's/I've changed" and we should never forget "influence of friends/family".

 

[red]

what-no she was a bitch category?

 

[preciate it]

Are you planning to marry one of the 2 Asian hotties at the restaurant?

Which restaurant?

Asian hotties + food = paradise

 

[tboy]

what-no she was a bitch category?

I think that falls under the character flaws category......

 

[Emma@SecretaryService]

What, no "because I had an affair with a married man and she found out" category?

 

[tboy]

What, no "because I had an affair with a married man and she found out" category?

That falls under infidelity......(((___)(___)))

 

[tired old perv]

Women are so much sneakier than men.

No shit. Your all a bunch of self serving liars IMO.

 

[BuffNaked]

fuck. I checked off a lot of those.

 

[Berlin]

I want to know what issues might crop up in a serious relationship or marriage. Prevention is the best medicine. Thanks in advance for your input.

Wanting to get prepped for that issue is one thing, nothing wrong with that at all IMO.

Though, I believe it is also very important to know

1/what really makes you happy?
2/what do you expect from your idea of a good relationship?

and last but not least

3/there isn't any prefect 10 relationship in the whole wide world. Never ever.

Experience in life and personal growth will help you with 1/ and 2/ As you get older and mature , your answers to 1/ and 2/ will change as well, may be a lot, may be slightly; but there will be adjustment. The more you know about 1/ and 2/ the better chance you'd have a working relationship. Textbook answers and advice could only help you so far, once you're in a boat that's rocking it would be a whole new ball game, all things learned may not apply at all.

Each relationship is unique. And all relationships have their own problems.

I have seen lots of working variations : outgoing partner vs introvert;partners that love to argue,fight and make up; partners that swing; partnership that invloves a sp/peeler.

The reason they work/last is because both partners know how to cope with problems when they arise; they both share a common goal in their relationship. They both want to make it work. They deal with the gitches and move on. Their relationships have much much more ups than downs.

And sometimes, relationship/marriage just does not work out.

Now I am not saying that ending a marriage will always solve problem, ending it could be the best option for both in some cases. It may be very painful initially but as long as you learn something from it, you'd end up winning in the long run. You'd move on as a better person, and able to enjoy life more than ever .


stinky, I guess what I am saying is, it's important to stick your neck out there and be in the race. You'll win some, lose some, just like everyone else. We all fall. What you learned from previous falls , be they about yourself or relationship problems ,will eventually see you through .

 

[whynot888]

what about WHIPPED?

 

[Mr. Piggy]

what-no she was a bitch category?

This is sort of what I was looking for but I would have prefered to see manipulative bitch there.

 

[tired old perv]

Not All of us are perv ! Thats an extremely strong assumption , oh the stories I would love to share !

You have obviousy been burned sorry to here that no wonder your so tired I would be too !

Misty

It's not an assumption, its based on what I see all the time. Women see men with money as security, and to be honest, that ain't love, and the only reason a guy says he loves you is for the sex, if your there for his money.

 

[tired old perv]

Playing Devils advocate I suppose you and other gentleman would be offended if a female had written something like " ALL Men are lying cheating bastards who always think with the wrong head " . I dont believe that is true BTW but alot of women do based on there experience and what they see all the time .

I am not offended at all by that comment. I wish that was the worst thing ever said about me.

I'm at a point in life where I no longer care if I ever meet a woman. I have grown tired of the game.

And the answer to the original question is "She was a lying cheating money grubber"